husband hit me

System

"we were very drunk" ...and yet another couple who can't handle drink... give up. both of you.

pink_princess

Purbeck wrote: »

"we were very drunk" ...and yet another couple who can't handle drink... give up. both of you.

How do you know it was the drink? They might of been very drunk many many times over the 11 years without issue.


You need to be really honest with each other about the cause, if what peachy posted is correct then he may be struggling with things worse than you realise or he'd like to admit. It can't be the most happy time at the moment. He may feel like he has to be your rock right now.

Kimberley82

Purbeck wrote: »

"we were very drunk" ...and yet another couple who can't handle drink... give up. both of you.

we have both given up

Kimberley82

the_cat wrote: »

Enough to agree to not drinking again, ever?

I would say that any reluctance to do this would mean that he is paying lip service to the severity of what he has done. It would give you a useful guage as to his real feelings, which will help you decide how best to handle it

Yes he promised not to drink agao the next day, i didnt ask him to. He hasnt since.

System

I don't know it was the drink...but I do know alchohol alters behavior...too much alchohol alters behaviour too much, it takes down the barriers, the level of self-control that one draws on in a stressful situation.

MoreOn

Kimberley82 wrote: »

we had a huge argument we were both very drunk. I love him to bits I have asked him to move out for a bit while i sort my head out

As much as i think he is well out of order, from what you said.... Why couldn't you move out... you're the one who's admitted having a "head" issue (assuming you asked before he hit you)

If i'm wrong then i apologise, if not.. it seems the title should not be "husband hit me".. it should be, I got myself and hubby drunk, when i had the courage I told him to leave and continue paying the household bills..Why because I have issues... !!!!!! if that was a man doing those things there would be an uproar...

halibut2209

Sounds to me like she asked him to move AFTER this incident while she sorts out what she wants to do

Marker_2

Kimberley82 wrote: »

He was devastated, he hates himself and feels very guilty

In that case, then you both need to sit down and talk through the original argument firstly (the one that caused him to react so badly in the first place) and then move onto why he became that angry he hit you.

Clearly you have been together a long time and it sounds like it is a very odd reaction for your husband to have, so I believe it is certainly something you can both work through and get passed. In your case I think alot of talking is the only answer.

As for the drink, to go down the route of no more drink is a rather large reaction ... assumingly he's handled the last 11 years with the odd drink without getting violent.

Drink can lead to few things ... Merry, Sleepy, or violent. When theres tension and arguments violent seems to be the norm, even if the violence remains in your head alone lol.

Hope you can work it out.

Gingham_R

MoreOn wrote: »

As much as i think he is well out of order, from what you said.... Why couldn't you move out... you're the one who's admitted having a "head" issue (assuming you asked before he hit you)

Why are you assuming that this was a result of her asking him to move out rather than that she asked him to move out because he hit her?

It sounds like there is a lot going on and you probably need professional help with it now it's got to this stage.

Would he go to counselling with you? Do you still want him?

I really hope you're okay, love. This is something I'm heart sorry about.

CH27

Given what you have posted about your life in the last few months you must both be under enormous pressure.

No way am I excusing what he did & I suggest you need to get some counselling together to resolve everything.