New and scared but so determined

miggy

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

Whilst the application of an experiential filter is clearly important, one might consider the involvement of the child in making decisions to be the equivalent of acciaccatura - that is to say, not essential to the final decision, but a way of encouraging debate through dissonance.

What is scary is that you can write that before lunch!

Knitting_Nora

miggy wrote: »

What is scary is that you can write that before lunch!

Pfft! Ex-civil servant. Used to be able to to that 24/7 - now it comes in fits and bursts...not unlike bad wind!

Plus I immediately fell asleep for a couple of hours after writing it....so either it's that boring, or my brain tired itself out by thinking...which is far more likely! :rotfl:

mizmir

freebyfifty wrote: »

Everybody.......... I did my frog

Bathroom ceiling is painted and whilst I was frogging I painted the walls too

I still have two more things on my list to do so I haven't completed my goals for this weekend but I'm off tomorrow so I have another day.

yay! Hope there were mighty celebrations!

mizmir

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

Ahhh, well, let's think....ok, this is what comes off of the top of my head:

Behaviourism picks up the main elements of the nurture debate (the old sins of the fathers debate), but what about nature? There has to be an issue of intelligence and the development in cognitive reasoning....

Plus, behaviourism never really addresses the basic point of individual differences and its influence on decision-making capability - even in same-sex monozygotic twins raised in what's considered to be the same environment (quite a lot of old US research in this area).

Of course, then there's proportionality - while it's acceptable to involve the sprog in low-level decisions (what socks to wear) because it's the human version of cotyledon, there has to be some form of experiential filter (based on your knowledge of nutrition etc it may not be sensible to agree it only has to eat jelly worms for the week, month, year...).

I'd also be wondering about the impact on the family dynamic, and the ongoing benefit/consequence to the child's socialisation - especially given that you can't ensure it will be allowed to engage in similar decision-making opportunities outside your own environment...which raises an issue around the importance of consistency in enabling the child's learning...

And finally, there's the 'don't wanna' angle - where, as an adult, you simply may not want the child's involvement in deciding whether to stay and listen to the intermezzo, or nip to the bar for your alcohol.....

I thank you, I thank you, I thank you. Appearing all week at a laptop near you....*bows*

Now, how else can I help....oooo, I know....*scurries off to eat lots of chocolate and remove Freeby's stress around task number 10*

Nora.x

Wow! Off the top of your head?! :eek: :cool:

miggy

Knitting_Nora wrote: »

Pfft! Ex-civil servant. Used to be able to to that 24/7 - now it comes in fits and bursts...not unlike bad wind!

Plus I immediately fell asleep for a couple of hours after writing it....so either it's that boring, or my brain tired itself out by thinking...which is far more likely! :rotfl:

I will resist all allusions to Sir H and say instead that I expect the Civil Service misses your amusing touch.

freebyfifty

I think I should let you lot write my essay for me

When you get my degree - let me know :rotfl:

Miggy - I have 5 white chocolate truffles left and that's the last of my chocolate stash (But there are a couple of selection boxes upstairs *drools slightly*) You can have one *whispers* but don't tell anyone else

freebyfifty

I've just sold another two things on ebay tonight and it has brought the grand total of my earnings on ebay in the last month to over £100 :T. I know that's not a vast amount of money (in the grand scheme of my debts) but it's £100 for Christmas presents and just for stuff that was lying about the house!!!!!
And to think at the start of this diary I didn't think I had anything to sell :):):)

mildredalien

Well done on your ebay sales, £100 is definitely a lot! I can't imagine ever being in a position where £100 feels like a trifle....

freebyfifty

Oh Millie, don't get me wrong. £100 is a huge amount to me and I am so pleased I've got it. I just meant that compared to my debts it's just a drop in the ocean
I should reaaly be paying it towards my debts but I need to get through Christmas first. I just want my kids to be happy without spending an arm and a leg!!! Wonder how much I'd get on ebay for an arm and a leg :rotfl:

Knitting_Nora

freebyfifty wrote: »

Oh Millie, don't get me wrong. £100 is a huge amount to me and I am so pleased I've got it. I just meant that compared to my debts it's just a drop in the ocean
I should reaaly be paying it towards my debts but I need to get through Christmas first. I just want my kids to be happy without spending an arm and a leg!!! Wonder how much I'd get on ebay for an arm and a leg :rotfl:

I know what you mean - for every penny you make, there's that little voice in the back of your head saying "well, yes, but compare it to the big picture...there, that stopped you smiling, didn't it!".

But just ignore it - that £100 is fab.

By the way, you are paying it towards your DF point - just in an alternative way. Your really clever approach (which I've pinched) is allowing you to give your kids a great Christmas and you a much less stressful new year. As they say in my hometown ' result!'.

Oh, and the word of the day today is 'recherche'...off you go.

Nora.x