Really down and want to give up

deliciosa

Skint_Catt wrote:

I know it's not easy when you're ill to think about food, and it's not the cheapest way to live long term, but Sainsburys used to do microwave meals like macaroni cheese or veg lasagne for £1 each (own brand). I know Asda have had some 50p roast dinners recently.

At least try something like that to get your strength up.

S_C

thanks skinn cat - we onyl ahve a tescos nearby and no microwave. sounds like loads of excuses.. but yeah you're right i need to try something...

lynzpower

One thing you COULD get hold off, is a meal pot. they are like thermoses, but with a wider neck, so you can get all sorts of leftovers in there. I saw one in TKmaxx last week for £2. seen online for about a fiver.

Tell me what youve got in your cupbaords, Ill see if theres anything easy you can make out of whats there. otherwise Im hunting you down with a tupperware of leek & potato soup lady and no running away from my cooking! :A

Skint_Catt

https://www.freecycle.org I know you can live without it but someone might want rid of their microwave!

S_C

misspoppy

Hi

Am I right in thinking you work at M&S HO? If so you should speak to OC health / HR and get some support. They are very very supportive having been through them myself. I was bullied by my team and I didnt speak out soon enough, in the end I quit without a job and only then did I got to HR had I gone to them when things first got bad they could have helped and moved me. I know this isn't the same as your situation but I wanted to tell you how they helped me.

You really need to be eating because if you dont you won't be well enough to work and then you won't have enough to pay your debts. I know the staff restaurant is subsidised why don't you have your main meal at work and have filling cheap soups at home?

There is a lot of presure working in London to keep up and many people are in huge amounts of debt because of the London life style going out for drinks after work or dinner. You are doing the right thing but please you must eat you can't put debt before your health.

Please look after yourself.

Emmzi

deliciosa wrote:

Thank you emmzi that's a good idea.. i a always hungry nowadays...what is freecycle, i never heard of it... ?

If you search on yahoo groups for freecycle and see if there is one in your area - insteads of ebaying things or throwing them away, people offer them free to good homes.

I've given away exercise equipment that only ever took up floor space, furniture from my old flat I'd kept in the shed for 5 years, old VHS videos, and old crockery, and received a PC monitor, a breadmaker ansd some other bits and pieces. All stops stuff going to landfill!

Emmzi

lynzpower wrote:

One thing you COULD get hold off, is a meal pot. they are like thermoses, but with a wider neck, so you can get all sorts of leftovers in there. I saw one in TKmaxx last week for £2. seen online for about a fiver.

Tell me what youve got in your cupbaords, Ill see if theres anything easy you can make out of whats there. otherwise Im hunting you down with a tupperware of leek & potato soup lady and no running away from my cooking! :A

Lynz,

maybe there is a business for you there in HM soup deliveries round the city... if you do mail order north of the border..

miggy

Deliciosa,
you have lots of us worried now - please eat! Eating well is more important than paying off the debt.
Think of it this way - that nifty transfer to a lower rate is saving you money - so you are lowering your debt even in your sleep. Now in order to have the energy to earn and to get rid of the rest, you need energy.
At the moment it sounds as though you feel you have failed (that's not true!) and are punishing yourself by depriving yourself. Really you should be getting into good habits - think of them as a reward for that card you have already cut up.
Can you cook? The way I read your messages, you are thinking about feeding yourself in terms of eating out, and that's way more expensive than buying basics and cooking your own. (I'm sure lynz will give you the low-down on soup making if you don't do so already!)
Have you been over to the Oldstyle board for cheap food ideas? And if the baked potatoes are boring, and you don't eat dairy, mash in some herbs or spices - a little goes a very long way!

deliciosa

thanks to all of you again! feeling much better and more confident this monday. Probably because I managed to not spend money on food over the weekend! sort of a miracle really, one of my friends owed me a lunch so we went to this lovely lebanese place and they gave us plenty of fruits to take away - that was sat dinner! sunday we cooked at home frfom the existing ingredients! and today, I got a free drink voucher at starbucks so I had a huge venti yummy latte for a big £0!!!

thank you guys for food ideas too, i have a big bread craving at the momemnt, all i want to eat is plain baguettes, don't know why, but at least they are cheap!!!!

should i start a debt free diary? would anyone read it? that might be helpful so thsat i can write down little successes...

thanks again to all of you. am going to check out this freecycle again. but I have a question: what is the old style board and where do I find it??

elantan

ok now i'm sat here in tears again ...what is it with us lot....del wow your story is truly heart breaking and toto ...just like la i'm in tears....and lynz as always there when your needed ..ok gotta go and blow my nose thanks everyone and del dont give up your inthe right place (as i'm sure you know)

misspoppy

Hi Deliciosa

I'm really worried about you, you seem to be really pleased that you haven't spent any money on food all weekend, whilst being thrifty is one thing I really feel you need to give yourself a food allowance. Please please talk to your GP or OC health you must eat properly.