going away with Ex, so son can see my family

Hagar_uk

Pretty sure she is, she has reduced to once a day, in readyness of me having him overnights..however even that has changed now, with you will never have more than you do now

Emmzi wrote: »

although some mums breastfeed to 2 years many stop about 6 months when weaning starts.

are you sure she still is, or is she just using it to wind you up?

lizzielondon

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

For what it's worth, all the childcare issues between myself and the ex are conducted sitting on my front garden wall with a mug of coffee each and him smoking a rollup whilst the cats wander around.

It's working rather well, I must say.

Email and text were awful and telephone contact was a complete non starter - but since the garden wall ceasefire was adopted, even telephone calls have been civil.

Do you live next door to your ex?

Hagar_uk

I know the benefits of breastfeeding.. which is why it so hard...I am hoping she will think about the big picture and actually come

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Hagar do what victory says. You probably have been too patient and do need to put your foot down, but

do it after the trip.

Also, ignore the codswallop below. There is nothing odd or dangerous in b/f at 15 months, the benefits are manifold and you are doing what is right for your son.:T

Hagar_uk

The nasty arguements we have had been rare text ones, we usually get on really well, we have been on holiday before, and it was her who was pushing to do this trip, I had expressed reservations. Our arguements have tended to be about the person who she cheated with me, and who is encrouching on my access to my son..when we are away from that, we get on very well, untill last week.

Moneywise, I am in debt at the moment, with overdraft , nothing horrific, but if I lost my job, and even if I got another job, it would be huge drop in money coming in, My main priority would be child support, seeing my kid (Live 30 miles away, and at present have a company car) seeing my son is expensive, more so without a car (8 days per month) and trying to keep my house. There would be no spare cash (there is not now)

Problem with family coming over, is there are so many of them, with small kids etc makes it impractical, plus my gran is in a nursing home

Gigglepig wrote: »

I understand your disappointment, but it is reasonable of your ex to not want to holiday with you if you have nasty arguments, and breastfeeding is good for your son. It was very kind of her in to first place to even consider going, many people would not even consider a holiday with their ex or their ex inlaws.

If you are concerned that finances will be tight, put aside the money for the trip in a special savings account?

If you have concerns regarding your family's health deteriorating by next year perhaps see if they can come and visit this year?

Hagar_uk

Its tough the problem is she willing to even discuss the thought of talking about anything, I would do anything to be on better terms, the stress of this all and everything that has been going on, has been horrific, I want the best for my son, and I have had to swallow my pride many times, but the one time she has to. no chance, I think she does not want to be on friendly terms,as a few times things got a bit close again. plus she has someone who is reading her texts and goading her on.

whitewing wrote: »

It's not that kind to consider it, let everything be paid for and then not go. However, it is virtually impossible to establish the real reasons for not going online like this. I would just say that there will be a solution out there like everyone else says you need to talk, talk, talk and respect each other. I have to admit that I groan at the thought of taking my toddler DD on holiday (seems to take a huge amount of effort to even get out of the house some days) and I have a loving husband. I do think that you should aim to get the three of you on holiday but don't have too high expectations of the 'holiday', just think that if you have a vaguely pleasant time anything else is a bonus.

Hagar_uk

UPDATE

Well she has said she will write any documents I need to take him away, not saying that she agrees ,but I have the legal right to take away him away and it will still harm our son, but she is doing that as If she does not I will use it against her...I think this translates to you take him away I will make your life difficult when you get back.

I am going to try to arrange a meeting at her mums, so we can talk face to face without baby, hopefully she will agree

victory

What documents?

nat21luv

Sounds like theres a driving force behind her in the form of a jealous boyfriend.

After all, she cheated on you with him, so he's probably thinking she'll cheat on him with you.

whitewing

If she has a (not so new) partner then I think it is extremely unlikely that she will go away with you. It would cause her far too much hassle, amd I think is unrealistic.

I think you should just go with the child, but I do think that you should ring her every day and keep in very close contact as she is bound to feel quite bad being apart from her son. However, I actually think the child will end up not going as I can't imagine mum will feel comfortable in letting him go. Sorry.

Hagar_uk

Passport and letter of authorsation, as we both have Pr and no residenscy order, neither of us can take son outside the country without other giving authority

victory wrote: »

What documents?