A tiny bit of Advice please!

*Louise*

Hi - I work with teenagers, boys mostly and they all mature at different rates. Some are girl mad by 14, others don't show an interest until 17 or so.

I really wouldn't worry about it, is he an eldest child by any chance? Sometimes I find that they are quieter and seem to mature emotionally a little later than younger siblings subsequently do.

dramaqueen1973

RichGold wrote: »

I still play with my dog like I'm a ten year old kid, and when my dad's around he says I look like and idiot and I'm in my 30's. As long as my dog is having fun I'm not too worried, and neither should you be..
As for the girls, 16 is no real age to worry.

Thank you:)

Drama
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flippin36

You just want to make sure he's Ok - I understand that especially when they are the eldest, you are always learning and worrying with your first. And if its a bit of a concern to you - you can bet it is to someone else too .

Me and my OH met when we were 19 and I was his first girlfriend. He was never really interested (until I came along ). He always thought his mum thought he was gay, she seemed very relieved when he started dating me. He said a girl at college fancied him and it scared him half to death .

As long as he seems happy I would be grateful - he sounds like a nice kid! Try not to worry so much .

Ravenlady_2

dramaqueen1973 wrote: »

Well least Im looking out for him and ensuring that he is happy and Im always there if he needs to chat!!!

I think you need to calm down a bit, you're clearly over reacting to this thread and I can't honestly see where the problem is, maybe it could be that your younger son is too hormonally advanced for his age and you are unfairly comparing the two.

And as for the cat, wouldn't you be more worried if he ignored it?

dramaqueen1973

*Louise* wrote: »

Hi - I work with teenagers, boys mostly and they all mature at different rates. Some are girl mad by 14, others don't show an interest until 17 or so.

I really wouldn't worry about it, is he an eldest child by any chance? Usually I find that they are quieter and seem to mature emotionally a little later than younger siblings subsequently do.

Hiya

Yes he is, he was also extremely ill as a child so I hold my hands up to being over protective, but when you watch your child fight for his life on life support, it happens!

Im just gonna let him be him, he is lovely and everyone loves him and he will do his thing in his own time I guess, yes Im over thinking and he is just 16 years and he does everything else a 16 yr old does.....including the strops!!!

Thanks for rely:)

Drama
xxx

dramaqueen1973

flippin36 wrote: »

You just want to make sure he's Ok - I understand that especially when they are the eldest, you are always learning and worrying with your first. And if its a bit of a concern to you - you can bet it is to someone else too .

Me and my OH met when we were 19 and I was his first girlfriend. He was never really interested (until I came along ). He always thought his mum thought he was gay, she seemed very relieved when he started dating me. He said a girl at college fancied him and it scared him half to death .

As long as he seems happy I would be grateful - he sounds like a nice kid! Try not to worry so much .

Awwww thanks Flippin:)

Drama
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sassyblue

If you can read his FB page it's likely he won't put anything on there for you to see

(with the greatest respect ) You sound like my mum, when l left school she thought l should be out partying until dawn with a full calendar of dates but l've never been like that, even now l'd rather have a night in with a good book!

I'm sure your son will branch out and become more outgoing when it suits him, l remember being quite overwhelmed at that age, still feeling young but being expected to be grown up.

Don't worry about him, honest and don't 'push' him about girls, he'll become a stud when he wants to. :A

dramaqueen1973

sassyblue wrote: »

If you can read his FB page it's likely he won't put anything on there for you to see

(with the greatest respect ) You sound like my mum, when l left school she thought l should be out partying until dawn with a full calendar of dates but l've never been like that, even now l'd rather have a night in with a good book!

I'm sure your son will branch out and become more outgoing when it suits him, l remember being quite overwhelmed at that age, still feeling young but being expected to be grown up.

Don't worry about him, honest and don't 'push' him about girls, he'll become a stud when he wants to. :A

Yeah I know lol, trouble is I was that girl, out partying and boys boys boys lol!!

Thanks for reply

Drama

xxx

January20

I think he is a sensible lad not to have anything to do with girls! Seriously, I can understand why you might be concerned, but as long as he is happy and he has friends, I don't think you should worry

Alikay

DS1 is 20 and wasn't particularly interested in girls until last year. He's only really had one gf and she only lasted a few months. He's always has the sort of looks which appeal to girls (dark wavy hair, big long lashed eyes and always been a snappy dresser) but their appreciation was enough and he wasn't bothered about following up on flirting!

DS2 is 17 and got his first (short-lived) gf a few months ago and has another new one atm. He has lots of very blokey hobbies and is always active, so didn't have a lot of spare time for girls. His current gf is into rugby and shooting so he's more interested in spending time with her!


Your son probably isn't ready for a relationship yet OP. Maybe he is a bit immature, but we all get there at different rates, and it's better that he doesn't bother with girls until he's mature enough rather than give into peer pressure and end up getting into something he can't handle before he's able to cope with it.

Oh, and my son in law had his first and only gf (our DD) at 23! 4 or 5 years on he's married, own their own home and due to be a daddy in 2 weeks, so has actually overtaken most of his peers .