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  • custardy
    custardy Posts: 38,365 Forumite
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    Purbeck wrote: »
    I thought this site was suppposed to be for people who needed to ask questions about their finances and get well thought out advice? Not for stupid, arrogant, ridiculous comments like this
    "Kick her out of the house and tell her not to come back until she has a job. "

    I'm absolutely disgusted! Are we only valuing people now based on whether they can bring money into the house? Are we so bloody up ourselves that nice decent people attempting to make a go of life are to be consigned to the streets because they don't stay in school past 17, or wish to follow an academic route?

    The OP asked politely what was/ might be available...for some advice. Not a lecture !

    whats you advice? as you seem to be lecturing
  • System
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    Custardy, I am only "lecturing" the idiots who think that chucking a girl out on the streets is a viable option!
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  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    Purbeck wrote: »
    I thought this site was suppposed to be for people who needed to ask questions about their finances and get well thought out advice? Not for stupid, arrogant, ridiculous comments like this
    "Kick her out of the house and tell her not to come back until she has a job. "

    I'm absolutely disgusted! Are we only valuing people now based on whether they can bring money into the house? Are we so bloody up ourselves that
    P.S. No mention of the postal book swap......

    Anyway, I haven't got time to keep going over the same old..... & if it stops you throwing your toys out of your pram, I am sorry!! Maybe you should find other interests so you don't sit around waiting for replies on the forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! are to be consigned to the streets because they don't stay in school past 17, or wish to follow an academic route?

    The OP asked politely what was/ might be available...for some advice. Not a lecture !

    Most people in full time college post GCSE are not following an academic route but are doing vocational courses such as construction, hairdressing, care etc.

    Whilst I would certainly not advocate throwing an unemployed 17 year old out of the house, the fact is that by leaving education without a job to go to, she's acted very irresponsibly and left her mother in a very difficult financial situation. This hardly warrants describing her as "nice decent people attempting to make a go of life " but as a selfish teenager who has little thought for others.
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    I totally agree, I never liked school and had a lot of time off. But I have a decent job now.

    OP, if you are struggling to support your daughter financially, she may be able to claim JSA under hardship rules. Ask her to check with the jobcentre

    But you've only just started a part time job in care and then you're going to be struggling financially doing an unfunded Access course to enable you to follow your chosen career. Whilst I'm happy that you're getting your life together, it's hardly a recommendation for someone to drop out of education early!

    17 year olds can only claim JSA if estranged from their parent(s) which isn't the case here.

    http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/YoungPeople/Money/FinancialHelpForYoungPeople/DG_10027506
  • bestpud
    bestpud Posts: 11,048 Forumite
    debrag wrote: »
    I agree go for care work and work your way up, do NVQ's etc.

    I couldn't get passed the selection question for McDonalds though most I see working there are students etc

    As a care worker, I find it annoying when people suggest it as an easy option, or a last resort!

    There is already too many in this profession who are just putting in the hours and have little regard for their clients. People who need care deserve better than that!!
  • System
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    edited 6 October 2011 at 1:30PM
    You just don't KNOW that though...it is as much an assumption as me saying she is "nice", we neither of us actually KNOW because this is a web site and none of us have met the OP or her daughter!

    The point is that the OP asked for advice, and some good advice has been given in posts on here.

    It seems from what the OP has said that her daughter is doing everything that is advised, re job centre/ searching for jobs etc ( NOT sitting on her backside in other words) . I believe 'Connexions' ( why that is spelled that way I do NOT know!) is there to give advice and SHOULD be pointing the young lady in the right directions...(or else what is it there for?!).

    Since I do not know the area the OP lives in, I would imagine that her local 'Connexions' will have a better idea of part-time courses/ apprenticeships available and is already giving her this advice. I expect they are also advising her on how and where to look for a job, be that full or part time/temporary.

    I am just rather sick of people who assume there are plenty of jobs out there, for young or old or inbetween....if there were I doubt we would be ( possibly) heading into a double dip recession?

    I do take the point that many are following vocational courses in college rather than academic courses...my son may well be doing so next year if his fledgling business doesn't bring in enough to live on!

    Not all teenagers are idle, nor unaware that life is not a free ride. It may well have been better for the OP and daughter to have considered the financial aspects more thouroughly and earlier...... but if we all had the benefit of hindsight there would be considerably fewer people posting on MSE!
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  • System
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    bestpud wrote: »
    As a care worker, I find it annoying when people suggest it as an easy option, or a last resort!

    There is already too many in this profession who are just putting in the hours and have little regard for their clients. People who need care deserve better than that!!


    Couldn't agree more! The following vacancy

    "Carer needed for person, must have experience and MUST be experienced in use of equipment including hoists"

    Comment from JC advisor re using hoist...."How difficult can that be?"... This to someone who was an unemployed builder :(
    ( Not suggesting a former builder couldn't be a good carer...just that it isn't a job that everyone can or or is suited to do, and emphatically NOT without training).
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  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    Purbeck wrote: »
    You just don't KNOW that though...it is as much an assumption as me saying she is "nice", we neither of us actually KNOW because this is a web site and none of us have met the OP or her daughter!

    I never said she wasn't "nice"; I said she was irresponsible.
  • System
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    I never said she wasn't "nice"; I said she was irresponsible.

    I didn't say that you did....
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  • ManicMum
    ManicMum Posts: 845 Forumite
    LL30 - where is your brother's company? I am highly IT literate. Have quals!!! Can I do the job remotely? LOL.

    So McDonald's are pursuing this ridiculous computer based questioning too? Asda do this and twice I have failed to get past that stage. I know - some people will say it is because I am not suited to that type of work. I disagree. It may not be my life's ambition but it would suit me for a few years at the moment, as have small children. I am polite, friendly, intelligent - what more do they want? Yet often I get served by surly, indifferent assistants. The other day one was talking to another woman about the trip my son was on at the shop with his Beaver group and called them 'f-ing reprobates' in front of me, when she could only have known I was a shopper. Yet, people like this are passing the computer test. Hmm, maybe it needs a bit of tweaking!!
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