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what do you do when your kids go on holiday without you
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to be honest hes just turned 16 so not a little one but hes not very mature for his age, he wasnt asked if he wanted to go he was told he was going, when he said did he have to go he was told in words l cant repeat on here that he was going,
My son is that age & when he is away we go away on our own.
I think you miss them more when your routine is normal.Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
Then you need to be spending your time and thoughts on something more positive such as: how are *you* going to spend this time? (aside from worrying... and l just know l'm going to spend the whole fortnight worrying about what could go wrong ...
); what can *you* do now that you have been postponing due to the commitments you have had?
Children/Grandchildren - worrisome little blighters at the best of times, no matter how old/young they are - they are shortlived gifts that we can treasure, but never lose sight of who *we* are, as individuals. They need to spread their wings and experience life in their own ways and we have to step back and continue to live ours.
I so hope you find something positive that you can do to fill the time your dgs is away (other than worrying). Sounds to me like you have invested a lot of your lifetime on your family ... that's a good thing! ... but here is an opportunity to lavish some time on you Your dgs is with his mother, she'll do any worrying. 0 -
reeree - I am sure that your daughter and her other half want to enjoy the holiday too! perhaps they see this time as a chance to 'get together and be a family again'? Has it occured to you that your gd living with you during the week is hard on his mum? From your previous threads I KNOW she loves and cares about him. she may be hoping that being away will lead to a difference in their relationship? I may be completely wrong - but she deserves that chance doesnt she?
I would tell your lovely grandson that its only two weeks and he has an amazing chance to see another country and culture first hand! and perhaps he could see his mum in a different environment and see a different side to her!
He has you to come back to Reeree!
For yourself, I know you have been his mainstay and saviour for the last, what? two years?
he will soon be independent and YOU now have the chance while he is away on exploring your options for what you will do when he leaves home! good suggestions above.........but dont spend ALL your time ironing - have some FUN!0 -
I,m sure youre right in what you say and l really do hope she takes the time to enjoy this time away with dg but she has a very sharp tongue and little patience , before she met the partner she is with (been together 11 years) she was a really sweet person and was kind and generous but since getting together with him she has become more like him ie quite selfish and very quick tempered and she is not always a pleasure to be around, and although l didnt home school dg to get praise or thanks lve never once had a thankyou mum for all youve done, still l hope your right maybe once they are all relaxed on holiday she might take the time to reflect and make a better bond with dg, l really hope they do for both their sakesreeree - I am sure that your daughter and her other half want to enjoy the holiday too! perhaps they see this time as a chance to 'get together and be a family again'? Has it occured to you that your gd living with you during the week is hard on his mum? From your previous threads I KNOW she loves and cares about him. she may be hoping that being away will lead to a difference in their relationship? I may be completely wrong - but she deserves that chance doesnt she?
I would tell your lovely grandson that its only two weeks and he has an amazing chance to see another country and culture first hand! and perhaps he could see his mum in a different environment and see a different side to her!
He has you to come back to Reeree!
For yourself, I know you have been his mainstay and saviour for the last, what? two years?
he will soon be independent and YOU now have the chance while he is away on exploring your options for what you will do when he leaves home! good suggestions above.........but dont spend ALL your time ironing - have some FUN!0 -
But it's just a holiday. They could all have a lovely time bonding together. It could be just what everyone needs. People often behave quite differently without the stresses and strains of everyday life about them. Don't think the worst, but hope for the best......it may even happen!
Even if it's doesn't, then the good thing about bad holidays is that they do end after a week or two. And then they'll all be home again."One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
what you say makes really good sense, Im just going to have to fill my days with plenty to do as others have said, lve arranged to go shopping and do lunch with my mum for one of the days so that should be goodBut it's just a holiday. They could all have a lovely time bonding together. It could be just what everyone needs. People often behave quite differently without the stresses and strains of everyday life about them. Don't think the worst, but hope for the best......it may even happen!
Even if it's doesn't, then the good thing about bad holidays is that they do end after a week or two. And then they'll all be home again.0 -
Hi Reeree
The last thing I want to do is make you feel worse but I would echo what Meritaten said. Your DGS is 16, in two years time he could be going to uni ,working, leaving home or whatever. You will always worry and care for him but perhaps this break will also give you an opportunity to think about how our life will change and progress then.
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Jump up and down, play loud music they don't like, lounge around naked, make love all over the house whenever you want to, eat rubbish food and you don't have to justify it.what do you do when kids go on holiday without you?
Basically enjoy yourself while you have some free time!Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0 -
Lotus-eater wrote: »Jump up and down, play loud music they don't like, lounge around naked, make love all over the house whenever you want to, eat rubbish food and you don't have to justify it.
Basically enjoy yourself while you have some free time!
This is escatly what me and dh did when the kids went to my parent sfor a week in the summer! I may be a cold hearted witch but i see it as my chance to have agreat time whilst they are doing the same!People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
Ralph Waldo Emerson0 -
what a brilliant ideaLotus-eater wrote: »Jump up and down, play loud music they don't like, lounge around naked, make love all over the house whenever you want to, eat rubbish food and you don't have to justify it.
Basically enjoy yourself while you have some free time!
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