what do you do when your kids go on holiday without you

reeree

firstly let me say its my grandson whose going on holiday with his mother and partner, those of you who may remember my posts about homeschooling him will know that he lives with me during the week and hes at his mothers at the weekend, next week he is going on holiday to rhodes and l just know l'm going to spend the whole fortnight worrying about what could go wrong

you hear so many things, ls it just me or has anyone been through the same thing, ive kept my feelings to myself because l dont want to spoil anything for them, his mother and her partner can barely go a day without having full blown arguments and my grandson hates to hear them, he barely has time for dgs and dg really dislikes him, l asked dg if he was looking forward to the holiday and he said yes and no, thanks for taking the time to read

CH27

How old is your grandson?
Was he asked if he wanted to go on holiday with them?

euronorris

What are you worried will happen exactly (other than the rows)?

reeree

CH27 wrote: »

How old is your grandson?
Was he asked if he wanted to go on holiday with them?

to be honest hes just turned 16 so not a little one but hes not very mature for his age, he wasnt asked if he wanted to go he was told he was going, when he said did he have to go he was told in words l cant repeat on here that he was going,

reeree

euronorris wrote: »

What are you worried will happen exactly (other than the rows)?

Im not sure what lm worrying about specifically, I do know l'm a born worrier and it dosent help that we were all involved in a car crash recently and lm still really shook up about that

euronorris

reeree wrote: »

Im not sure what lm worrying about specifically, I do know l'm a born worrier and it dosent help that we were all involved in a car crash recently and lm still really shook up about that

Well, try to put into words what it is exactly that you are worried about. Write them down even, and then have a think about how likely they are to actually happen and how they would be dealt with.

I find that helps me to put things in perspective and realise I'm worrying too much.

Also, whilst there are plenty of stories of things going wrong on holidays, they are the minority. They only get so much press because they aren't pleasant. Pleasant stories are too boring for the news apparently.

If it helps, I went away on several holidays with friends around his age and everything was fine. I did experience an epileptic fit on one of them, and my friends ensured I was taken to hospital, tested and looked after me etc. So, rest assured that teenagers can often surprise you with their maturity. Whilst the experience shook me up, I stayed for the remainder of the holiday (another week) and still enjoyed my time away.

reeree

euronorris wrote: »

Well, try to put into words what it is exactly that you are worried about. Write them down even, and then have a think about how likely they are to actually happen and how they would be dealt with.

I find that helps me to put things in perspective and realise I'm worrying too much.

Also, whilst there are plenty of stories of things going wrong on holidays, they are the minority. They only get so much press because they aren't pleasant. Pleasant stories are too boring for the news apparently.

If it helps, I went away on several holidays with friends around his age and everything was fine. I did experience an epileptic fit on one of them, and my friends ensured I was taken to hospital, tested and looked after me etc. So, rest assured that teenagers can often surprise you with their maturity. Whilst the experience shook me up, I stayed for the remainder of the holiday (another week) and still enjoyed my time away.

thankyou so much, what you have said makes so much sense and l agree with everything you say i will write everything down that worries me and take it from there, l do worry far too much for my own good if only l could put it to positive use l would be well away

gratefulforhelp_2

Here are some suggestions, but first, does he have a mobile you can call once or twice to check he's ok?

manicure/pedicure/facial
an hour's exercise a day
empty all your cupboards and scrub them
hobbies?
write a letter a day to friends/relations
get to the bottom of the ironing pile
read something great

work furiously in the day so you will sleep and not do 4am worrying.

Lots of luck.

reeree

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Here are some suggestions, but first, does he have a mobile you can call once or twice to check he's ok?

manicure/pedicure/facial
an hour's exercise a day
empty all your cupboards and scrub them
hobbies?
write a letter a day to friends/relations
get to the bottom of the ironing pile
read something great

work furiously in the day so you will sleep and not do 4am worrying.

Lots of luck.

hi yes he does have a mobile, all those ideas sound brilliant and ive definetly got a pile of ironing that ive been putting off lol

Counting_Pennies_2

I would suggest trying to go away yourself if you can afford it.

You could book up on one of those guided tours, so you are kept too busy to even think about anything else.

If not how about redecorating a room, or digging over the garden. Whatever it is take the time to make a big change so it has been a positive time for you.

Oldernotwiser

When our lad was that age (and younger) we went away ourselves and enjoyed the freedom!