Advice re sending out v.late thankyou cards

MaggieBaking · 29 September 2011 at 4:51PM

I vaguely recall reading an etiquette blog which mentioned late thank yous - she said no matter how late it was best to just post them off without mentioning how long it took. I agree with an earlier poster that simply said to write a line in about how busy and happy you've been since you got married, but not to write a list of excuses!

We got married early December and sent our thank yous out very early February, definitely knew that people thought they were late, but thought went into each of them, with photographs etc.

Kaye1 · 29 September 2011 at 7:09PM

TBH I would rather get one very late than nothing at all.

I was a bit late and then about 3 months later, my Aunt asked me what I had spent the money on as she had given us a cheque and we had not written to say thank you. I looked totally blank and after some frantic investigation, we found the cheque in the side pocket of our overnight bag- OH had put it there for safekeeping and forgot!

I gave her a massive apology and felt awful but she was absolutely fine thank goodness. The cheque would have probably stayed there for another year otherwise....

Charliezoo · 30 September 2011 at 3:32PM

Thank you for all the great replies (except for one, you know who you are!

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I was flicking through one of my old fashioned wedding books and apparently the etiquette is to have all thank you cards sent out within 6 months of the wedding - so I'm not really late at all!:T

However I do think they are being sent out later than I would have liked so I have put a message in along the lines of 'we wish we could have said thank you sooner...'

I think most of us know that thank you cards are never going to take 2 minutes to do. To say so would imply that I've been lazy which is honestly not the case. I had 150 guests at my wedding and many of those were singles so I have been busy writing 96 cards by hand. We made all the cards ourselves and had to get permission to use photos from the photographer and I have written a personal message in each card which is appropriate to each guest and their gift. It has been many hours of work but I'm hoping that our guests will be able to see that from the card they receive.

My friend recently attended a wedding where the thank you card arrived just a couple of days later - it turned out that the bride and groom had written the cards containing generic messages BEFORE the wedding! That's incredibly organised but seems a little cold for me!

Thanks again

Idiophreak · 30 September 2011 at 3:47PM

Charliezoo wrote: »

My friend recently attended a wedding where the thank you card arrived just a couple of days later - it turned out that the bride and groom had written the cards containing generic messages BEFORE the wedding! That's incredibly organised but seems a little cold for me!

Thanks again

Not really worth doing it, if you're just going to go through the motions IMHO.

I typed mine to save time, which I felt a little guilty about - but at least everyone had a card with content tailored to their gift and a little sincerity about it

LEJC · 30 September 2011 at 3:47PM

Idiophreak wrote: »

I'd just put something like "PS. Sorry four our delay in sending this out - we've had a very hectic start to married life!" and leave it at that...

Idio.... if you feel a PS is acceptable thats fine...but at least let me correct you on the use of FOUR and FOR....

Idiophreak · 30 September 2011 at 3:48PM

LEJC wrote: »

Idio.... if you feel a PS is acceptable thats fine...but at least let me correct you on the use of FOUR and FOR....

stupid bloody words.

LEJC · 30 September 2011 at 3:50PM

Typed...but with a hint of sincerity....?!!!

Idiophreak · 30 September 2011 at 3:51PM

LEJC wrote: »

Typed...but with a hint of sincerity....?!!!

Yes.......?

Torry_Quine · 30 September 2011 at 3:52PM

I think the fact that you're sending a thank you note is the most important thing. By now people may be beginning to think you aren't sending one so will be pleased to get one. It really annoys me when people don't acknowledge the gift you sent. When I got married I sent out thank you notes as soon as the gifts arrived which meant I was sure who sent what.

Debbiecatal · 30 September 2011 at 4:01PM

To be honest, I never expect a thank you when giving a gift, and I don't even notice if I don't get one! As far as I am concerned, I gave a gift because I wanted to, not so I would be thanked, and I also enjoyed a great time at their expense at the wedding - for which I won't have sent a thank you! I appreciate it is customary, but life's too short to get all worked up about whether or not you received a thank you note. Just send them out and people will be really pleased to get them, or won't be worth worrying about!