Advice re sending out v.late thankyou cards

Charliezoo

Hi all,

We got married in May and unfortunately haven't managed to get all our thankyou cards out yet. We've had a very hectic start to married life including my OH losing his job, starting a new job, me working extra hours to help play for the wedding and family problems including my FIL being released from prison and having to help him settle, phew!

As you can imagine we're pretty ashamed that many of our generous guests are still yet to be thanked and I'm writing a card to them all personally. I'm having trouble writing a little 'sorry for the late card' message and wondered if anyone could help me word a paragraph or two. I don't want to sound like I'm droning on about how difficult life has been but I'd like to at least give some explanation as to why the cards are so late.

I'd be grateful for any advice, thank you!

Lollie79

Hi

I probs wouldnt go into why your sending late because im sure most people who know you well will be aware of what you have been through since your wedding. I think people would just appreciate that you have found the time to thanks them as to be fair alot of people dont actually get round to it.

Why don't you say something like 'Our apologises for sending our thanks so late' then you can go on to write a normal thanks for coming/for your gift etc...

HTH

headoutthesand

I popped our thank you cards from the April wedding in with the Christmas cards lol. Without an explanation either.........

RainbowDrops

Some of ours were 3 months after the wedding, but we decided not to put "sorry" on the note, as it takes away from the fact that you're thanking them, not appologising.
I put some stuff like "we've been busy since getting back from the honeymoon with home improvements" etc.

Charliezoo

Thanks so much, I'm glad its not just us who haven't got round to sending the thank you's out promptly! Unfortunately I fear one of our friend's has taken offence to it - he's deleted both me and my husband from Facebook

Murtle

A late thank you is better than no thank you at all, which I have had from a couple of weddings recently.

RainbowDrops

Charliezoo wrote: »

Thanks so much, I'm glad its not just us who haven't got round to sending the thank you's out promptly! Unfortunately I fear one of our friend's has taken offence to it - he's deleted both me and my husband from Facebook

Might be worth speaking to them individually then, explaining how hectic life's been.
Although if they're that petty that they fall out with you just because of a late note, then they might not be worth it imo.

redhead122

We're only just sending our Thank you cards out now, and the wedding was in July, I wanted a specific photo that our photographer took, to use on the front of the card, and had to wait for the original photo and for copyright permission to use and distribute it.

I haven't put sorry it's late in the card, but I have mentioned in passing to family and friends that we were waiting on the photographer, and they'll be sent out asap.

ampafc

It is incredibly rude to send the thank yous out so late - which I'm sure you are aware of. People have spent probably a lot of money on you!! Personally, I would mention that you were sorry for sending them out late, maybe saying that things have been so hectic or words to that effect.

We got engaged a few weeks ago, and have always sent out the thank yous within a week of getting the gift. It's common courtesy - and only takes a couple of minutes.

Idiophreak

I'd just put something like "PS. Sorry four our delay in sending this out - we've had a very hectic start to married life!" and leave it at that...

White_Sapphire

ampafc wrote: »

It is incredibly rude to send the thank yous out so late - which I'm sure you are aware of. People have spent probably a lot of money on you!! Personally, I would mention that you were sorry for sending them out late, maybe saying that things have been so hectic or words to that effect.

We got engaged a few weeks ago, and have always sent out the thank yous within a week of getting the gift. It's common courtesy - and only takes a couple of minutes.

The OP is aware that it shouldn't have taken so long to send the thank yous - hence mentioning feeling ashamed, and was asking for advice for how to mitigate the situation. I don't think that you telling her how rude it is is very helpful.

OP, I agree with Idiophreak - just include a short apologetic sentence, most people who know you are probably aware of how difficult things have been for you in the last few months.