My life so far ........

gratefulforhelp_2

I'm nearly 40 with a 6 month old, and it is plenty knackering!!

Kaz2904

Bufger wrote: »

You sounds like you're in the position we were in a couple of years ago! We got married, bought a house and had a child all within 2 years and it was an absolutely manic time. Everything has settled down now though and we have our weekends together as a family - its great!

Hehe, we did it all in 5 and a half months! I was in the second year of my nurse training too. I had just started the 3rd year when I had DD. We didn't buy a house (too expensive ) just a flat. We weren't trying for a baby, she decided she was coming though. I met DH when I was 19, he was 20. We're now (ahem) a bit older (33 & 34) and we have an almost 10 yr old and an almost 8 yr old. We have our house too (which I've spent the day up ladders painting :eek:).
We've had a blast this last 10 years and boy oh boy have they been hard work. We could easily have split up and gone our separate ways many a time but life would be just as hard with someone else and the kids would be distraught at the thought of missing one of the parents. He still makes me laugh and he still explains why the moon is big some nights and not the others without rolling his eyes too much. He does all the vomit and I do all the bloody stuff. I do the magic kisses.
He's the yin to my yang. And I'm being extra nice to him because I need him to go up really high ladders tomorrow to finish off the really high bits which I found I was too terrified to reach when I got nearly there

jakes-mum

Op you've done it a better way round than me and DH. I got pregnant at 21, we moved into our first house when I was roughly 5 months pregnant and got married 6 years later :rotfl: and to be honest I wouldnt have had it an other way.

We have a nearly 4yr old DD aswell, I often call my DS (to my husband) the best mistake we ever made, he got us off our backsides and into our own home, we own our own property because he decided that no pill was gonna stop him just before the big house price hike in the last 10 years. On the other hand DD is our best decision.

I dont think being young has anything to do with being ready for kids, whatever age you are the first will be scary, you'll have no idea what your doing and will think at least once 'how the hell did my mother do this?? 3 times!!' then you have the second and you already know the answers because you've done it once already. Things like 'dont let them in your bed for any reason cos they'll be a pain to get back in their own beds and keep coming in every night at 3am' is ingrained :rotfl:

Good luck (and good luck to the other lady on this thread who is expecting, i envy you that lovely baby smell )

Dorisx

Hi everyone!

Sorry I havent posted for a while - been sooo busy with packing the flat up, getting sorted for the big move tomorrow ! :j - Starting to feel like i've never got a second to myself with work and getting everything ready to go! I'm getting very excited now! Very nervous but excited all the same!

Thanks for the posters mentioning about a blog - sounds like a great idea! I think i'll definately do that, I'll leave it until I have got settled into the new house though so I feel like I have enough time to properly commit to it! It'll be nice to record my first few weeks in the house and be able to look back and see how it all felt!

Tish P - I know I shouldn't really word it 'not trying, just not preventing' because I know they're the same thing really but just feels like its putting pressure on the situation if I say 'we're trying' if you see what I mean?

balancelife, Kaz2904 and Jakes-mum - I love reading about how well all your lives have turned out! I love hearing about the relationships that really do seem to last forever - If I had £1 for everytime someone has said to me and OH that 'its just puppy love, it wont last!' I'd be a very well off young woman! - We've been together over 6years (with a few hiccups along the way yes, but who doesn't have those?!) and STILL I hear people saying 'they wont last!'. Its so annoying! But never mind, we have lasted and I intend to 'last' a hell of a lot longer too!

gratefulforhelp - I understand that a child or children would be hard work, for any age! But I also feel that children are very rewarding at the same time, my aunt has 11 children (whole different story! ) who range from 3 to 19 so I have watched them all grow up and I know its different to have your own becuase you cant hand them back when they're crying ect bt I feel i've had quite alot of experience with children so feel I could/would cope - I hope that doesnt sound rude because that wasnt my intention

I had a bit of a question to ask to - My solicitor seems absolutely rubbish! Im supposed to be moving into my new house (dont like to say 'supposed') tomorrow and I have been on the phone to my solicitor 4 times this week and everytime I have spoke to him he has said 'Friday should be fine to exchange and complete so just wait for the phone call from me on Friday and then you can go and collect your keys' - I dont want to sound picky but surely 'should be fine' isnt a definate answer? I feel like im going around in circles with him, i've made him aware that I have limited time left in a rented flat, he assured me that i'd be out with plenty of time to 'spare' - he assured me (a few weeks back) that it would definately be the all done on the 7th ... The closer tomorrow approaches the less confident he seems that it wil go ahead although he hasnt once said that it wont if you see what I mean?! (im confusing myself here!). Do you think I should ring him back today and ask whats going on AGAIN? He never seems to have the time of day for me - I no longer like solicitors! xx

choccybikkie_2

Some people will tell you you're rushing things,trying to do it all at once....Ignore them if it feels right.
Some people feel the need to have a say on other peoples lives. You can't win, if you decided to wait til you were older you'd get people asking when you're going to have babies etc like you're leaving it too late.

I'm 32, met my dh at 16 (he was 18) moved into rented acc 1 year later to lots of tutt tutts. We then relocated 300 miles away from our families for better prospects as the area where we grew up has poor job availability. We bought our first house when i was 18,had dd1 at 19, ds1 when i was 21, got married at 22. Moved to a bigger house the same year. Had dd2 at 24. Then as a lovely little suprise we had dd3 16 months ago. DH and I have been together over 16 years now,have our own home (which only has 11 years remaining mortgage!) and are raising 4 bright little people. I'm very proud of our family and all the doubters can swallow their opinions they had all those years ago! (mainly friends as family could see what dh and i mean to eachother) We've achieved what we do have all by ourselves that's what makes me proud.

OP if you know it's right for YOU go for it! x

pigpen

By 22 I was pregnant with my 4th lol.. we had a mortgage and was married... 12 years later he decided he wanted out, slept around etc and now it is a struggle to get him to see the children. At 22 it was all rosy and forever.. actually at 32 I would have still said wed be together forever.

Enjoy the time you have whether it is a year or 10 or 75.

We had a baby, moved house and had several life changing events in 6 months.. I had PTSD at the time so it was pretty horrific.. I did lose almost 3 stone in that time though