My life so far ........

Dorisx

Well i'm 22 ...

I have a O/H I think the world of ! (Although he has his annoying points too !) ...

We have almost (10 days from completion) bought our first home ...

We both have stable jobs and make a 'steady' income between us ...

We are 'letting nature take its course' should we say? I don't want to say we're trying for a baby but we are not preventing that from happening ...

We are saving for a wedding (although not engaged !) ... Sounds silly writing that down - but why do we need to be engaged to save for something so expensive?! I want plenty of time to save ...

It sounds like we're taking a hell of alot on writing it all down! Yet I don't really feel stressed :think:

The reason I have decided to write this all down is just as a bit of a 'diary' i suppose - I think my friends are sick of me talking about all the things we're doing.

Not everything is that simple though ... the OH is in the Army so I dont get a huge amount of time with him And because of that being the case I deal with a lot of things alone (I have good friends though !) I dont feel hugely excited about buying the house, I love the house and everything that comes with it (although the area is a small compromise!) But I just feel like if the O/H was at home i'd be alot more excited ... Is it even supposed to be exciting?! :think:

Any comments and views welcome ......

Gillyx

I think the idea of buying a house should be exciting, but the reality is a lot more stressful.

Congrats though, I've just turned 23 and seem to be going nowhere in life, although I am pregnant with my first child, but that's about the only good thing going for me at the moment.

Dorisx

Gillyx wrote: »

I think the idea of buying a house should be exciting, but the reality is a lot more stressful.

Congrats though, I've just turned 23 and seem to be going nowhere in life, although I am pregnant with my first child, but that's about the only good thing going for me at the moment.

Thanks Gillyx ! If you're pregnant then I certainly don't think you're going 'nowhere in life' - your whole life is about to change and it'll be a whole new journey! How exciting! Congratulations!

We are in no rush to have children but at the same time dont see the point in stalling if you know what I mean, I thought i'd get alot of stick for saying that we're 'letting nature run its course' because we're only 22 BUT i dont see the difference in having a child at 40 years old than at 22 - Just because you're 40 doesnt mean that you'll be any better off does it?

I'm glad there is '"young" mums to be' on here too - Do you have long to go?

gratefulforhelp_2

Hiya. Please take folic acid! x

Bufger

You sounds like you're in the position we were in a couple of years ago! We got married, bought a house and had a child all within 2 years and it was an absolutely manic time. Everything has settled down now though and we have our weekends together as a family - its great!

I would guess your friends dont like hearing about it all the time because they're a little jealous or things are going differently for them. Its important to remember that not everyone wants to talk about you and the things your doing (its something i had to change too). Now i keep my little wins to myself and its much more satisfying knowing that something great has happened and not many people know about it!

best of luck

Gillyx

Dorisx wrote: »

Thanks Gillyx ! If you're pregnant then I certainly don't think you're going 'nowhere in life' - your whole life is about to change and it'll be a whole new journey! How exciting! Congratulations!

We are in no rush to have children but at the same time dont see the point in stalling if you know what I mean, I thought i'd get alot of stick for saying that we're 'letting nature run its course' because we're only 22 BUT i dont see the difference in having a child at 40 years old than at 22 - Just because you're 40 doesnt mean that you'll be any better off does it?

I'm glad there is '"young" mums to be' on here too - Do you have long to go?

I'm the same, it's the correct time for me I think, though it wasn't planned I'm in a long term happy relationship and think it was meant to be. Plus I want quite a few, so if I didn't start until later, I'd have to squeeze them all in

I have 19 weeks left, just over half way there, if baby plays ball. I'd agree with gratefulforhelpx start taking folic acid

bella2121

Sounds great to me doris me and OH have been together since being 16 & 17 bought our first house at 20, first baby at 21, bought a better house at 22 and been together over 10 years now 4 days overdue with 2nd baby. People thought we where to young to settle down, but when you know its right you just know.

Seems to me your life has great direction, good for you

(i'm still waiting to get married, that will be the next big thing after this new baby!!!)

xxx

newcook

congrats on the new house!!!! if it was me though I think I would hang fire with the baby thing for a year or so - not because I think you are too young but just to give you both time to enjoy your home together, getting all or some of the rooms as to how you want etc as once a baby comes along its no longer your house and own space!!!

Dorisx

Bufger wrote: »

You sounds like you're in the position we were in a couple of years ago! We got married, bought a house and had a child all within 2 years and it was an absolutely manic time. Everything has settled down now though and we have our weekends together as a family - its great!

I would guess your friends dont like hearing about it all the time because they're a little jealous or things are going differently for them. Its important to remember that not everyone wants to talk about you and the things your doing (its something i had to change too). Now i keep my little wins to myself and its much more satisfying knowing that something great has happened and not many people know about it!

best of luck

Is your OH in the forces too Bufger? Me and the OH have been together for over 6 years, although we have had our ups and downs I believe we are stronger than alot of couples in their 30s/40s - I really dont think there is an 'age' where evrything should happen - just when it 'feels right' ?

I understand that I must annoy some of my friends, alot of them are still living with parents, but I NEVER try and make them feel jealous and they know they we have had alot of help getting where we are today! But I know what you mean.

All within two years?! that does sound manic! lol

Dorisx

bella2121 wrote: »

Sounds great to me doris me and OH have been together since being 16 & 17 bought our first house at 20, first baby at 21, bought a better house at 22 and been together over 10 years now 4 days overdue with 2nd baby. People thought we where to young to settle down, but when you know its right you just know.

Seems to me your life has great direction, good for you

(i'm still waiting to get married, that will be the next big thing after this new baby!!!)

xxx

I love hearing about young relationships lasting! Its great! I hate it when people just assume it wont last because you're 'young' - we've been together for over 6 years and I still think there is people who think 'it wont last, its puppy love' ect !

Good Luck with the new arrival! I hope all goes smoothly! And then i'll be watching for the wedding tips! :rotfl:

Dorisx

newcook wrote: »

congrats on the new house!!!! if it was me though I think I would hang fire with the baby thing for a year or so - not because I think you are too young but just to give you both time to enjoy your home together, getting all or some of the rooms as to how you want etc as once a baby comes along its no longer your house and own space!!!

I totally see where you're coming from with that ! ... I would love to say 'I'm going to have a baby once we have been in the house for such and such a time' but because I think its totally varied for different people as to how quick they fall pregnant I'd rather just see how it goes if you know what I mean. To be honest I'm only 22 and every day I worry 'what about if I cant have children?' ... Theres no reason to suggest otherwise but it scares the life out of me!