My life so far ........

gonzo127

Dorisx wrote: »

I totally see where you're coming from with that ! ... I would love to say 'I'm going to have a baby once we have been in the house for such and such a time' but because I think its totally varied for different people as to how quick they fall pregnant I'd rather just see how it goes if you know what I mean. To be honest I'm only 22 and every day I worry 'what about if I cant have children?' ... Theres no reason to suggest otherwise but it scares the life out of me!

i love it when people try to plan out their lives in that way, looking back 10 years to when i was 18 i could never in a million years guessed correctly as to what my situation would be now.

really just go with the flow its so much better that way

Dorisx

gonzo127 wrote: »

i love it when people try to plan out their lives in that way, looking back 10 years to when i was 18 i could never in a million years guessed correctly as to what my situation would be now.

really just go with the flow its so much better that way

But thats what I'm saying, We're not 'trying for a baby' and if it happens next week then we'll be over joyed, if it happens in 2 years time then i'm sure we'll be just as happy! ... We're just trying to 'go with it' - I never meant to sound like I was trying to plan each month out! I'm not 10 and understand life doesnt quite work in that way (unfortunately! )

Bufger

Dorisx wrote: »

Is your OH in the forces too Bufger? Me and the OH have been together for over 6 years, although we have had our ups and downs I believe we are stronger than alot of couples in their 30s/40s - I really dont think there is an 'age' where evrything should happen - just when it 'feels right' ?

I understand that I must annoy some of my friends, alot of them are still living with parents, but I NEVER try and make them feel jealous and they know they we have had alot of help getting where we are today! But I know what you mean.

All within two years?! that does sound manic! lol

No she isnt in the forces so i wouldnt understand what its like to go through some of that alone but i agree i dont think there is an ideal age to do anything! We've been together 10 years (27 now). My parents were married, had a house and 2 kids by this age but i have some friends at work in their late 30's only just doing the same as us now and they're also perfectly happy. Whenever it feels right for both of you is the right time - i do agree with the post above though, enjoy your home together for a year before a little one - most people say how much hard work it is but you never believe them... BELIEVE ME ITS HARD WORK!!!! :A

Our house is manic. We have the dribbling laughing monster crawling around and bumping into everything, we have the wife that wants to have a career and a big family and loads of money (reality check coming her way!) and we have a house that still has a long list of DIY jobs to complete.

At least theres beer in the fridge :T

Gillyx

You know the saying, if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans so I think playing it by ear is a good thing

Dorisx

Oh sorry Bufger it was just because you mentioned having your weekedns together as a family, I thought one of you must have worked away - although at times with the little ones I bet you probably both do feel like you never see each other! lol.

We have the dribbling laughing monster crawling around and bumping into everything

This description made me giggle! Sounds sooo cute! :rotfl:

Oh I totally believe that children will be VERY hard work, I'm under no illusions! lol. But I know I'll never fully undersatnd HOW hard until I have my own!

I'll probably be making a new diary in a few years time saying 'im absolutely exhausted, why didnt anyone tell me to wait till im 40 before having kids?!' Lol !

gonzo127

Dorisx wrote: »

Oh sorry Bufger it was just because you mentioned having your weekedns together as a family, I thought one of you must have worked away - although at times with the little ones I bet you probably both do feel like you never see each other! lol.

We have the dribbling laughing monster crawling around and bumping into everything

This description made me giggle! Sounds sooo cute! :rotfl:

Oh I totally believe that children will be VERY hard work, I'm under no illusions! lol. But I know I'll never fully undersatnd HOW hard until I have my own!

I'll probably be making a new diary in a few years time saying 'im absolutely exhausted, why didnt anyone tell me to wait till im 40 before having kids?!' Lol !

hahah i am going to have to show my wife that one, it will make her giggle. to be honest there really is no best time to have them, no matter the age they will exhust you however my wife always says

when she had the first one in her 20s she had more energy however it was made more difficult because of all the information thrown AT her telling her what she should be doing to be the best parent

her second she had in her 30s and was hard as she did not have quite as much energy but had realised that you just cant stop children doing some things and that they will gets knocks and bumps but that these are all part and parcel of growing up

her third in her 40s she says she feels bloody knackered all the time but is so much more chilled as she had realised that she does actually know her child better than any book or visitor and although they can offer advise thats all it is which of course makes it a lot easier since you can ignor them easier

Kay_Peel

Have you thought of writing a blog under a pseudonym?

Tish_P

Like Kay says, a blog might be a good idea, blogging can become quite an absorbing hobby! You can get free pseudonymous blogs from several sites and they're a piece of cake to set up.

I wouldn't say you're too young to have a child if you and your OH feel ready, and you seem to have got life very sorted! I would point out, though, that "not preventing it" is exactly the same as "trying for it" if you're both young and fertile, so don't kid (pun intended) yourself that it's only a vague possibility. You have an 80 or 90% chance of getting pregnant within the year.

balancelife

Love it: "We have the dribbling laughing monster crawling around and bumping into everything",

Hi Dorisx congratulations on the house move coming up!

My hubby and I got together when we were 16, nearly 30 now! Its been great so far to almost "grow up" with someone. we got engaged when I was 21 and set a date for 18months later, and then when I finished uni and got a job we bought a house when we were 22, that was the November - married the following June, I was pregnant in the next november and had our first child in the August! Busy busy 2 years for us but fantastic positive stuff all the same.
We hadnt entirely planned to have our baby so soon after getting married but it worked for us - I was 23 (nearly 24) when she was born.
decided that 2007 must be a quiet year for us which is was and then we decided to try and move in 2008 to a bigger place since we hadnt really thought about kids etc with the first house! it was for us! lol. So with the housing market it just took forever, 13 months actually. still, we made it! the reason to move was to grow into a bigger place and also to have another baby - he was born 9 months after we moved so all the decorating and sorting of house number 2 was done with a toddler and a bump - hard work!!
we've had a "quiet" 2010/11, well as quiet as it can be with two little ones, and our eldest started school last september too!

so my hubby and I got together in 1999 - 12 years ago and have been married for 6. I do wonder when we will sit back and just enjoy life lol - we aren't 30 yet and have managed all that. No more kids for us now I think! houses maybe.....!

All the best! x

balancelife

oh and yes, not preventing can end up the same as actually trying! mainly because if you dont get pregnant you start wondering why not....and then try harder to see!!!