Getting help with parenting?

JodyBPM

Thank you all for your advice. I've made contact with the home school links person, and will be meeting her on Friday.

In all honesty, all I need is a bit of support. This isn't a CAMHS or social services level issue, there's zero concerns flagged about his behaviour at school, I just need someone to talk to, and some strategies that we as a family can adopt.

bigmomma051204

Hiya - i work for an under 5's team like the one you were visited by and to be honest, i would have tried my utmost to signpost you to another local service so surprised they didnt :cool: bit pants!

I would suggest contacting you local county council as they may have details of an over 5's team in your area. We certainly have one in my county but they are certainly are not well known at all! They are usually attached to schools but not always so worth asking.

If not, http://www.home-start.org.uk/homepage these guys are great and use volunteers who will come out to you and can help support you when u try to implement behaviour strategies (or just be there for a chat/sounding off at!) Also, they will be very aware of any other support within your local area so worth contacting them if only for that

bylromarha

Spendless wrote: »

erm that's a Tesco grabbit thread. :cool: Unless that's what you mean, take child to Tesco as there's bound to be a worse behaved one there

Oops!

http://relationshipcentral.org/parenting-book

There we are...!

Racheldevon

I manage 2 children's centres, and I can confirm that they do provide services for children up until they are 5, so you should be able to access the various evidence based parenting programmes they run, like incredible years (as someone has mentioned on Solihull. If you are having problems with accessing their services, I would contact your local county council (the early years team) and speak to someone there about your difficulties. Alternatively, your school may have a parent support advisor. Both your local children's centre and the PSA (if there is one) can initiate CAFs, which might be a way forward. You could also consider asking yoru GP for a referral to CAMHS, in which family therapy could be a possible outcome. I would suggest you keep a log of any incidents using the ABC model - Antecedants - what happened before the incident, Behaviour - what actually happened, Consequences - what you did/outcome etc. By keeping a log you'll get a reasonably accurate reflection of the frequency of the incidents, plus it will be easier to look for triggers which might not be that helpful - whether that's prior to the incident, or the way in which they're being dealt with it - it could be useful as part of the assessment process and for informing your GP. However, I would say if you're going to do a parenting programme choose an evidence based on. Best of luck

jenjade

ask the school if there are any support they can put you in touch with they may hav PFSA- Parent family support advisors.

You are doing the right thing it is best to tackle any issues as young as possible you are not a failure for asking for help. well done and good luck