At What Age Did You Move Out Of Mummy And Daddys?

StevieJ

ska_lover wrote: »

I assume you are attempting to be patronising to myself? Excuse me, I didn't start this thread.

Just because someone doesn't like the content of a newbies post, doesn't mean they need to start hurling insults around like 'saddo'. No one is forced to click on any threads.

I think the op has a valid point. I really don't understand why people are on the offensive over this.

Newbie? you are joking right?

ska_lover

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StevieJ wrote: »

Newbie? you are joking right?

Erm, no.

If I am wrong, please feel free to enlighten me, rather than patronise, after all, I don't spend all day every day making notes of possible trolls on this forum.

ska_lover

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However in light of the second apparent account !!!gh0ul!! REWEIRD - it has lost the small bit of credibility this discussion may have held.

StevieJ

ska_lover wrote: »

Erm, no.

If I am wrong, please feel free to enlighten me, rather than patronise, after all, I don't spend all day every day making notes of possible trolls on this forum.

Let us have a look at his name, reweird, I bet you think !!!!!_REWIRED is a Newbie as well, I am not so sure you need your notebook to spot them as trolls

StevieJ

Ahh I see, it looks like GH0UL is in a battle with Admin, they are blanking it out.

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

StevieJ wrote: »

Moved out at 14 and lived rough on the streets does that count

I was young too,13 to be precise but I did'nt live on the streets,
it was the late 60s and I ran off and lived in a hippy commune for three years before marrying at 16.
The whole experience made me very independant at a young age..

lostinrates

ska_lover wrote: »

I actually agree the op on this.

I left my parents at 15 and never looked back. I could not imagine having lived with them for another 10 or 15 years oh nooooo.

A lot of people selfishly use their parents to give themselves a head start in life. It must p*ss the parents off having to support a grown adult (talking 30's) into their own twilight years in life - but I doubt anyone would have the nerve to say it for fear of getting flamed on here. I can understand uni students living at home til courses finish etc, but the likes of those living cheaply with mummy and daddy so they can save up..what's that all about. I mean how much more do these 'kids' want from their parents??Blood??

I have a teenage lad, and if he was still living at home approaching 30, I would never kick him out on to the streets , but I would certainly give him a nudge/help him find alternative accomodation.I am not going to be around forever, and have always brought my lad up to be independant.

It is not healthy to be reliant on your parents all your life and take take take all they are willing to give. I am sorry if some people find my opinion to be strange, and don't take it personally, it is just that=my opinion. I'm not saying it is factual.

I've seen it from the other side as well, where an aquaintance of mine over-stayed at home, and ended up never leaving and becoming carers of two elderly infirm parents.He never left, he actually died well before one of his parents due to the stres of being a carer and the only breadwinner.

I think you raise very fair points. I would point out its a fairly western world...and not throughout there even, attitude though, and of fairly recent years historically, to expect to be able to move out as an adult.

I also think there are lots of situations where living with your parents doesn't mean ''living off them''. I live in a farming community where its common for one or more of the adult offspring to take over running of the farm/family business, but the parents to remain on site or on a cottage on/next to the farm.

In the last few years staying at my parents house was mutually beneficial: my mother wanted to travel but had pets which she felt tied to, not able to go away for more than a fortnight or so, so I could pet sit for her allowing her the freedom of limitless travel, plus take care of her for an operation recovery when she was there, while we were making decisions/savings for future house purchase. we were neither emotionally nor financially dependant on my parents...though did pay less than we would have done on rent, which increased our ability to save. Likewise, my parents stayed in our (rented) home in Italy when dh returned here and enjoyed a holiday of a few weeks. I acually saw my father far less when living at there house than I do now having moved away, and speak to my mother more on the ohone than I saw her while living there.

as for !!!!ing them off...my separating parents are bickering over which one gets to live with dh and I, so they can't have hated it too badly! I find that interesting because I don't have a particularly close relationship, though its on reasonable terms, with either parent. I'm happy to be able to fulfil my filial duties with less difficulty.

In other situations I know children (in this case in their sixties and seventies) return home after the death of their spouses to be the full time co- carers to their surviving parent.

I don't find your opinion strange or offensive at all, nor do I think mine is modern day mainstream, but I do wonder if its partly coloured by different not mainstream experiences: i.e. I don't think it anymore ''normal'' to leave home aged 15 than I do to linger there till post thirty, yet I think both can be ''healthy'' dependant on the situation and people.

ska_lover

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StevieJ wrote: »

Let us have a look at his name, reweird, I bet you think !!!!!_REWIRED is a Newbie as well, I am not so sure you need your notebook to spot them as trolls

You can bet all you like, what do you know eh? Mr complete stranger in a forum?? Obviously you failed to read my previous post!!:rotfl:

Not everyone has time to sit on this site posting as often as you, do they...some of us have a life!!

I don't have the kind of time you have on your hands, to sit on a forum over analyzing complete strangers comments on a forum, nor would want to.

You yourself come across as a TROLL with your bad attitude to complete strangers patronising comments completely out of the blue..

Going4TheDream

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reweird wrote: »

A few posters on here pushing 30 seem to see it fit and acceptable to live in their parents house under their wings. Absolutely scandalous. Do their parents not deserve their own lifes? Thank you.

An elderly Italian couple are actually in the process of trying to legally get their 40 odd year old son to move out of their house.... perhaps they have made him too welcome by still doing all his cooking and laundry but personally I think I would have packed his stuff and changed the locks years ago ... me I left at 17 bought my first house at 18 and never went back, but after my freedom never really wanted too

ska_lover

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lostinrates wrote: »

I think you raise very fair points. I would point out its a fairly western world...and not throughout there even, attitude though, and of fairly recent years historically, to expect to be able to move out as an adult.

I also think there are lots of situations where living with your parents doesn't mean ''living off them''. I live in a farming community where its common for one or more of the adult offspring to take over running of the farm/family business, but the parents to remain on site or on a cottage on/next to the farm.

In the last few years staying at my parents house was mutually beneficial: my mother wanted to travel but had pets which she felt tied to, not able to go away for more than a fortnight or so, so I could pet sit for her allowing her the freedom of limitless travel, plus take care of her for an operation recovery when she was there, while we were making decisions/savings for future house purchase. we were neither emotionally nor financially dependant on my parents...though did pay less than we would have done on rent, which increased our ability to save. Likewise, my parents stayed in our (rented) home in Italy when dh returned here and enjoyed a holiday of a few weeks. I acually saw my father far less when living at there house than I do now having moved away, and speak to my mother more on the ohone than I saw her while living there.

as for !!!!ing them off...my separating parents are bickering over which one gets to live with dh and I, so they can't have hated it too badly! I find that interesting because I don't have a particularly close relationship, though its on reasonable terms, with either parent. I'm happy to be able to fulfil my filial duties with less difficulty.

In other situations I know children (in this case in their sixties and seventies) return home after the death of their spouses to be the full time co- carers to their surviving parent.

I don't find your opinion strange or offensive at all, nor do I think mine is modern day mainstream, but I do wonder if its partly coloured by different not mainstream experiences: i.e. I don't think it anymore ''normal'' to leave home aged 15 than I do to linger there till post thirty, yet I think both can be ''healthy'' dependant on the situation and people.

Thank you for your comments, very interesting. I am glad I don't offend, I would never want to upset someone although I know my rants have upset folk in the past I have always ended up apologising lol

I totally see your point about the different situations where it would mean you are not 'living off' of parents, and it sounds in your situation you have a mutually beneificial thing going on - seems great for all concerned