At What Age Did You Move Out Of Mummy And Daddys?

Percy1983

Really would have been useful to add a few questions.

How old?, what year was that?, part of a couple or not?

Personally I can't tick either box as Ia m one of the ones who really annoys the OP, but its looking like it will be the 25-30 for me.

An interesting one is many appear to have gone for uni, as it is I never went uni but did an apprenticeship so my £40 a week wages weren't enough to rent or buy, past that it was debts built up while earning so little and still having fun.

By all means the only thing I really get done is sandwiches for work as my mum won't stop making them, past that I do most things for myself and do my share fir the housework etc. Yes I pay less than enriching a landlord would cost but I do make sure that I make a fair contribution so they aren't subsiding me. With that I deal with most of the bills and make sure they get best value.

I think it does all depend on situations, the house is big enough and we all get along, my fiancee has her own key and we both come and go as we please.

As it is my parents are more than happy for me to be here as the appreciate I may have it harder than they did so staying here a little longer really helps me out with saving a deposit.

I guess at many points there has been different blocks on me moving out (some of my own doing admittedly), and now the time is perfect, got the capacity to save a lot and a beautiful fiancee so we are going straight to the 3-4 bed semi with drive/garage and calling it done for many years.

Yes not the route for everybody but its working just fine for me and my parents, I suppose its not so much wanting to stay at home but never wanting to get out, guess I am just lucky I can still live here in harmony.

ska_lover

<18

I am interested to know, How do you feel you have it harder than your parents Percy?

I have read your posts in the other thread, and you are 28 years old, right? You are the same age as my hubby. I have to say if he were living at home with his mum making his sandwiches I would have ran a mile...lol. I know you have heard it all before though, I saw it on the thread some pple getting a bit mean

toadyfrog

18-25

I was 23, 1990. Me and OH got a council flat on a rough estate, bought a house 1 year later. Still in house now waiting for son (21) to move out but we're not in any rush to see him go but think it would be a good idea just so he can see what the reality of life is actually like. I wish now that I had moved out sooner but too lazy.

Would never dream or want to ever move back home, even though I see my mum at least once a week thats enough for me.

enya_ntfc

Still live here, even though I hate it, don't have much choice really, I can't afford to move out - I'm a student and a carer - the only thing I could do is move in with my Nan (for whom I care for).

If I left home and moved near Uni my Nan would end up in a care home, as my Mum claims to not "have time" to look after her - despite working 3 days a week.

ska_lover

<18

enya_ntfc wrote: »

Still live here, even though I hate it, don't have much choice really, I can't afford to move out - I'm a student and a carer - the only thing I could do is move in with my Nan (for whom I care for).

If I left home and moved near Uni my Nan would end up in a care home, as my Mum claims to not "have time" to look after her - despite working 3 days a week.

Is that bitterness I detect?

Darling, you only have one life, if you are not happy then I urge you to change it.

If your mum is working three days a week, they are only part time hours, surely she could chip in with your nan and share the burdun?

umdelicious

18-25

Aged 22 .

neverdespairgirl

18-25

ska_lover wrote: »

I actually agree the op on this.

I left my parents at 15 and never looked back. I could not imagine having lived with them for another 10 or 15 years oh nooooo.

A lot of people selfishly use their parents to give themselves a head start in life. It must p*ss the parents off having to support a grown adult (talking 30's) into their own twilight years in life - but I doubt anyone would have the nerve to say it for fear of getting flamed on here. I can understand uni students living at home til courses finish etc, but the likes of those living cheaply with mummy and daddy so they can save up..what's that all about. I mean how much more do these 'kids' want from their parents??Blood??

I think it's a mistake to assume that people living with their parents are annoying them and taking advantage. Of course, they might be, but for many families it works well and to everyone's benefit.

I moved out in a way at 18, when I went to work in Poland for a year, but not in a definite and permanent way, because at 19 I went to uni, was home in the holidays, etc. And my parents supported me through higher education (first degree, bar school, master's degree, pupillage) and that little lot took 6 years. I wasn't actually living at home, though.

My sisters (who are 31 and 27) sort-of live with my parents. My parents live in London, and my sisters live in their house in Kent. My parents spend 2-3 days a week there usually, plus a month in the summer, and Christmas and Easter, etc.

Everyone's happy. My sisters pay some rent, and they look after the place - it's occupied, and therefore safer, they make sure that when my parents turn up the heating's on and there's milk in the fridge. And it's a big enough house that there's no jostling for space.

My parents are happy, my sisters are happy. They do actually all quite like each other! My parents aren't exactly in their twilight years, either - my mother's nearly 63, my Dad's 61.

SingleSue

Moved out at 16 the first time for about 8 months, moved back home to parents when the people I was sub letting from, moved to a different flat and there was no room for me.

Moved out for the last time a week after my 18th birthday into a rented flat with my now ex husband, we purchased our first house when I was 20 (just!)

I was just too independent to stay at home, my parents had difficulty coping with it and I had difficulties coping with it.

SingleSue

onlyroz wrote: »

I read about this today. Surely the simplest way to get rid of him would be to stop cooking and cleaning for him, and make him do his own laundry, and to charge him rent.

As for me, I moved out to go to uni at 18 but stopped being financially dependent on the folks when I got married at 22.

I stopped being financially dependent on my parents when I was 16! Even before then, I had been buying all my own clothes (I had several part time jobs, at one point, earning more than my dad over the school holidays - I was 14)...mainly because me and mum didn't see eye to eye on fashion :rotfl:

PasturesNew

25-30

enya_ntfc wrote: »

Still live here, even though I hate it, don't have much choice really, I can't afford to move out - I'm a student and a carer - the only thing I could do is move in with my Nan (for whom I care for).

If I left home and moved near Uni my Nan would end up in a care home, as my Mum claims to not "have time" to look after her - despite working 3 days a week.

Might be the best thing for her.... I've just put one into such a place this week and they're loving it. There are people to chat to all day long, they're well fed and entertained. Worth every penny and it gives them a much better quality of life than sitting home alone, staring out of the window alone, day in, day out, wondering if some con merchant (or Jehovah's Witness) is about to knock on the door.