At What Age Did You Move Out Of Mummy And Daddys?

JonnyBravo

25-30

ska_lover wrote: »

I hear that. I wondered that, how can people have an 'adult' relationship with their parents in the room next door? Urghhhhhhhhhhh Makes me shudder

People having sex?? In the same house as their parents??
Oh the horror!
:rotfl:

ess0two

18-25

JonnyBravo wrote: »

People having sex?? In the same house as their parents??
Oh the horror!
:rotfl:

Its kinda dis-heartening to still hear your old man pumping away in the next room,10 minutes after you've finished.

System

Jimmy_31 wrote: »

the houses that the landlords bought are now not available to somebody who wants to put a roof over their head.

Yes they are. The key words are buy to LET. That means someone is living in the house, presumably under a roof.

lostinrates

ska_lover wrote: »

I hear that. I wondered that, how can people have an 'adult' relationship with their parents in the room next door? Urghhhhhhhhhhh Makes me shudder

who says they are next door? Mine were on a different floor of the house, on the other side of the building....and....parents do go out sometimes....as did we....:D

People don't feel weird about having sex in the same house as their children (or flatmates/lodgers/other hotel residents).

quantic

18-25

Rented from 20-23, moved home for 2 years to save a deposit - bought on my own at 25.

lemontart

<18

Moved out 1 month after my 18th birthday

jennyjelly

18-25

Bought first house at 21 - mind you that was in 1980 and the house cost £18,000 ..... though to put it in perspective we were earning just over £100 pw between us!

So sorry for nest-leavers now, house prices are ridiculous. DS1 & his GF (22) can only afford to rent and struggling to get a deposit together but it looks like a long haul, DS2 & his GF (19) are both opting to stay with respective parents - even though there's a baby on the way it will apparently be shared between homes. Hmmmm.

FTBFun

18-25

Going4TheDream wrote: »

Different culture and family experience altogether, they tend to look after their elderly and not put them in to homes or care as we perhaps do now in the UK, they support each other. Despite some peoples unfavourable views on Asians they hold family culture very dear... something perhaps indigenious English families dont do as well these days, we seem to have adopted in the whole a more selfish attitude, I would imagine many British kids (adults) still living at home at say 30 are very likely more to treat their home as a hotel.

Going back a few pages here, but I'm not sure this is true. I went to India for work a couple of years ago and on more than one occasion we were accosted by elderly beggars. That's certainly not something I've seen in any other places.

Percy1983

ska_lover wrote: »

By having parents in the same house, forces a child to retain their child status within the house. They are never going to learn to be independant in such a situation.They are not going to have to deal with problems and will have to follow the parents rules. What happens when our parents (god forbid) are not around to support us? It will be an almighty shock for people who have constanty had a crutch all their life.

My honest belief is the most beneficial thing a parent can do for you is to get their child to stand on their own two feet and let them fly independantly, and not all this clinging on and wrapping up in cotton wool in to the childs own middle age... It inhibits the natural progression into adulthood. Some parents honestly do not want to let go, as somehow by holding onto their kids they are holding onto youth.

I will say there is some sense in this and I can see how this maybe true for some.

I can assure you I have full independance from my parents, I don't live under there rules but under my own rules and is it is I ahve been brought up to be considerate for others so there is no conflicts.

There is 2 arguements for if reduced rent is supporting or helping, yes I do pay a reduced rent but on the flip side they still make a small 'profit' so they will be worse off when I move out, so in many respects I am supporting them. By all means its an arrangement which is financially benefical to all involved.

As for the whole sex situation, as it is I am at the opposite corner of the house to my parents, so between many walls and a TV we do what we want when we want.

I guess there is letting your children stand on there own to feet and dropping them on the bottoms, is it really wrong for parents to help there children leave while standing on there own 2 feet or should they just kick there children out and watch them stuggle.

Right now my parents have the choice of watch me stuggle or let me contribute to there holiday every year while setting myself up.

ska_lover

<18

Percy1983 wrote: »

I will say there is some sense in this and I can see how this maybe true for some.

I can assure you I have full independance from my parents, I don't live under there rules but under my own rules and is it is I ahve been brought up to be considerate for others so there is no conflicts.

There is 2 arguements for if reduced rent is supporting or helping, yes I do pay a reduced rent but on the flip side they still make a small 'profit' so they will be worse off when I move out, so in many respects I am supporting them. By all means its an arrangement which is financially benefical to all involved.

As for the whole sex situation, as it is I am at the opposite corner of the house to my parents, so between many walls and a TV we do what we want when we want.

I guess there is letting your children stand on there own to feet and dropping them on the bottoms, is it really wrong for parents to help there children leave while standing on there own 2 feet or should they just kick there children out and watch them stuggle.

Right now my parents have the choice of watch me stuggle or let me contribute to there holiday every year while setting myself up.

I see what you are saying Percy, I really do and dont mean to sound awful towards people in your situation. I am just saying that it isn't for me.

If everyone were to wait until they felt they were financially able to move out, people wouldn't ever go - a person could be struggling all their life, if theywere to be in a low paid job. I don't see how asking an adult in their twenties, who has a full time job, (such as i believe you have) to leave the parental home is 'dropping them on their bottom'. Kicking them out when they are 15 with nowhere to go is rather more of being dropped on your butt, and believe me I know, I have been there

Still each to their own, don't let my opinions bother you Percy, as long as you are happy thats all that matters, not a bunch of people on a forum!