At What Age Did You Move Out Of Mummy And Daddys?

atush

18-25

Sorry but the survey is skewed. As a scientist, I cannot take the research at face value.

As most who are overstaying in the hotel/bank of mum and dad won't be reading this forum/thread so won't be answering ;-)

enya_ntfc

ska_lover wrote: »

Is that bitterness I detect?

Darling, you only have one life, if you are not happy then I urge you to change it.

If your mum is working three days a week, they are only part time hours, surely she could chip in with your nan and share the burdun?

I guess it is, I have been caring for her since I was 18 (I'm 20 now), I can tell you everything about living with someone with dementia! I could easily cope on my own (I'm not being cocky here, I already run one household!). She does help like once a week, but then claims she does loads and it's so "hard" on her and she needs a break...yeah one which leaves me not only in charge of this house, my two dogs (whom I adore so no real issue) and my Nan. My Aunt is too "busy" to help...she doesn't even work!!!!

My Dad keeps going on about how I should pay rent....well I do all the food shopping (which aint cheap) I don't have a job - due to the fact there aren't any/not many, looking after my Nan and Uni.

Yet according to them "I'm a lazy cow".

I do know, my Nan notices, she asked about leaving her house to me, rather than her daughters! I'm not worried about that, I may need that money to put her into a care home anyway.

Percy1983

I will say I do believe the results are don't mean much as its different for each generation.

Looking back at my parents generation and yes to be at home in your late 20's was odd as there was no reason not to move unless you where a 'mummys boy', these days wanting to move out isn't the only thing you need to move out.

Yes I will admit being 28 now if I had though about it earlier I could have moved out earlier but it would have been around 26, as it is I didn't plan that far ahead so it will be 28 when I move out.

In short to live at home in your late 20's in the 70s and to live at home in your late 20's now are rather different situations. In short its much more common now as its just not as easy to get out and in many cases to get out quickly leads to renting which can lead to being unable to save a deposit so if not pushed out it makes sense to stay.

ska_lover

<18

Jimmy_31 wrote: »

Lots of parents dont give their children handouts, they just let their children continue living at home until they have saved a deposit, everybody i know who is doing this is paying their own way in life and costing their parents nothing.

Unless the parents are charging them the going rate for rent and other services then they are indeed getting handouts Jimmy.

Anyone getting a reduced rate whilst living at their parents (and lets be honest most do) is not what I would class as 'paying your their way'. In fact parents like this are not helping their offspring, they are hindering their natural development into independant adults by wrapping them in cotton wool.

Where is the dignity in living off of elderly people, i do not know..

ska_lover

<18

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

But why is it unhealthy?

I'm sure my sisters would pay a lot more in rent if they moved out. But I fail to see why that's a good thing. They'd pay more, live in a smaller and less nice place, and my parents' house would be empty more of the time.

My sisters and my parents actually enjoy each other's company. There's nothing unhealthy about that at all.

By having parents in the same house, forces a child to retain their child status within the house. They are never going to learn to be independant in such a situation.They are not going to have to deal with problems and will have to follow the parents rules. What happens when our parents (god forbid) are not around to support us? It will be an almighty shock for people who have constanty had a crutch all their life.

My honest belief is the most beneficial thing a parent can do for you is to get their child to stand on their own two feet and let them fly independantly, and not all this clinging on and wrapping up in cotton wool in to the childs own middle age... It inhibits the natural progression into adulthood. Some parents honestly do not want to let go, as somehow by holding onto their kids they are holding onto youth.

ska_lover

<18

enya_ntfc wrote: »

I guess it is, I have been caring for her since I was 18 (I'm 20 now), I can tell you everything about living with someone with dementia! I could easily cope on my own (I'm not being cocky here, I already run one household!). She does help like once a week, but then claims she does loads and it's so "hard" on her and she needs a break...yeah one which leaves me not only in charge of this house, my two dogs (whom I adore so no real issue) and my Nan. My Aunt is too "busy" to help...she doesn't even work!!!!

My Dad keeps going on about how I should pay rent....well I do all the food shopping (which aint cheap) I don't have a job - due to the fact there aren't any/not many, looking after my Nan and Uni.

Yet according to them "I'm a lazy cow".

I do know, my Nan notices, she asked about leaving her house to me, rather than her daughters! I'm not worried about that, I may need that money to put her into a care home anyway.

Sounds a real awful situation to be in

Mrs_Metalhead

18-25

My mum and dad moved out and left me! My dad got a job overseas when I was 22 and I wanted to stay for my then boyfriend who is now my husband. We rented my parents house for a couple of years then bought our own once they came back to the UK.

ska_lover

<18

spongybobby wrote: »

I moved out as soon as i had the money to!
Since 16 i managed to save 20k deposit.. i was 24 when i left the nest... i now have a young family of my own so no chance if moving back.

I dont understand why people cant save money. i worked hard, i didnt go out buying new cars or fancy toys.

i felt silly still living at home at 23, i would hate to be in my late twentys left alone 30's or 40's and still living at home... how can you have a relationship / kids with your parents in the next room?

I hear that. I wondered that, how can people have an 'adult' relationship with their parents in the room next door? Urghhhhhhhhhhh Makes me shudder

Want_to_be_free

18-25

Left when I was 18 and went to Uni- Was back for 6 months when I was 23...Then again stayed at my parents when I was 25 for 8 months. Then moved out properly ( approx 4500 miles away LOL) ...While at my parents, I did not pay rent or food because they did not let me...But I always helped, cleaned the house top to bottom, went shoping etc...

Now I am 41, and would like my mum and dad come and live with me...I wouldn't charge rent:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

My son is 14, moved with his father this year , he needs to have relationship with him so I am ok about his move... If he wants to come back at any stage, I would not ask him to pay rent but expect him to do some housework. Life is busy and he needs to learn...

IveSeenTheLight

18-25

reweird wrote: »

A few posters on here pushing 30 seem to see it fit and acceptable to live in their parents house under their wings. Absolutely scandalous. Do their parents not deserve their own lifes? Thank you.

I kinda moved out when I was 15 (actually a few weeks before my 16th birthday.
I started an apprenticeship you see and spent 5 days of the week lodging near my place of work and only going home at the weekends.

I moved out properly when I was 22