Terrible wedding speeches

ampafc

LEJC wrote: »

Speeches before or speeches after the meal...theres pros and cons for both...

Are you having drinks and canapes before your meal...ie are the guests having something to eat and drink after the ceremony...sometimes its nice to sit with a few nibbles and a drink and listen to the speeches first but basically as a guest they may want to get to the food so to delay it by up to another 45 mins or so may not be their preferred choice...but I can see it from your point of view that once the speeches are out of the way then YOU get to enjoy the food...

Oh decisions decisions....go with what you feel comfortable with...thats always the best...everyone else will fall into place...

Yes everyone gets a choice of drink when they arrive (beer/wine/champagne/soft drink), then they get another drink to have with the toast (vodka/whisky/gin) and there are some canapes to eat.

MaggieBaking

You could always be untraditional, do the groom's speech first, thank everyone for coming, welcome everyone to eat drink and be merry, then have the wedding breakfast, and then have the Father of the Bride and the Best Man's speeches?

minerva_windsong

ampafc wrote: »

Another question I have - is it better for the three of us (father in law, me, best man) to do the speeches before or after the meal? Originally, I though before, so that I could enjoy he meal without worrying about what's coming! But then I don't want to delay everyone else eating the lovely food that we are putting on! Anyone have any experience of what's best? Probably doesn't matter a huge amount when i think about it.

Thanks again everyone - really enjoying reading your speech tales!

As others have said, there are pros and cons to both - doing it before the meal means it's out of the way and then you can enjoy yourself, doing it afterwards means guests aren't waiting around for the food. But then if you're having canapes then they will have been fed and I suspect they'd be able to hold out a few hours.

The other thing I have seen is speeches between courses - so you have the starter, then the father of the bride speaks, then the main and the groom speaks etc. Obviously that does drag it out a bit but then it's likely there'll be a lull between courses. Ultimately though it's up to you how you do i.