MSE Pregnancy Club 23

Lucy1973

Hi everyone,thanks for the well wishes. Just got back from the day assesment unit,checked baby,hb,urine,did an internal and tooks some swabs etc. Nothing to worry about so am very reassured now. Said it sometimes happens for no reason,maybe a slight irritated cervix but that looked all healthy during exam. They also put baby on a trace which was so lovely. Baby hated it as she kept trying to kick the thing off LOL and she ended up giving herself hiccups LOL.

Gillyx

Thanks Ro I know he's due back home soon and I just feel sheepish and horrible now. He so easily makes me feel like that because I know I probably did go a bit far. At the same time I don't want to live the rest of my life like this either, ( that sounds so drastic and terrible ) I don't mean it like that, but it really is making me miserable, and thought of it still being the same 10 years down the line because he's always stressed and busy, and I tried explaining that to him, but everytime it's "oh it won't be like this forever" well if it's so easy to change why not do it now?!?

Edit: glad all is well lucy xxxx

twigpig

Great news lucy

serendisglair

Gillyx wrote: »

Came through this morning to find an empty yoghurt pot sat on the arm of the sofa, and when I ask him about it, it's "I forgot"

Hope you don't mind a lurkers suggestion but maybe putting a bin next to the sofa might easy a bit of the tension....then when he's got the hang of that....move the bin a tiny bit closer to the kitchen everyday...he might eventually get there!

Gillyx

serendisglair wrote: »

Hope you don't mind a lurkers suggestion but maybe putting a bin next to the sofa might easy a bit of the tension....then when he's got the hang of that....move the bin a tiny bit closer to the kitchen everyday...he might eventually get there!

god if only you knew how close it was :rotfl: we have a combined kitchen/living area, the bin is in the kitchen. I feel a bit calmer now, I understand it's easy to forget things I just feel like I'm forever picking up wrappers and containers. I could leave it, but how long would it take for him to notice!

jenjade

glad all is well Lucy ;-)

*Ro*

Lucy- Glad all ok ! x

Gillyx wrote: »

Thanks Ro I know he's due back home soon and I just feel sheepish and horrible now. He so easily makes me feel like that because I know I probably did go a bit far. At the same time I don't want to live the rest of my life like this either, ( that sounds so drastic and terrible ) I don't mean it like that, but it really is making me miserable, and thought of it still being the same 10 years down the line because he's always stressed and busy, and I tried explaining that to him, but everytime it's "oh it won't be like this forever" well if it's so easy to change why not do it now?!?

..... I think that being at home which was not necessarily what you wanted is making things harder for you. I am at home through choice but I do find that I 'plague' hubby a bit when he comes home and it is because I dont have any other distractions. Being pregnant is a great excuse for all sorts of 'varied' behavior so dont feel sheepish he has to get with the program!

If you were not stuck at home would you feel as cross about things? Also I think that you have been living together for 6 months so perhaps its difficult to adjust to living together as you are still young it all takes time. I am not sure but if you are in a flat could be that you are a bit on top of each other which adds to the frustration. But you wont be in the same flat forever so this will change things wont stay like this forever promise!!

If he wants to make his life harder (which quite a few men do :rotfl:my hubby included) by not getting up early enough then he has to deal with the consequences. He wont be able to lie in for much longer in the scheme of things as I believe that you are making a very special version of a screaming alarm clock! Just every now and then remind him that he needs to enjoy it whilst it lasts (!!)

You need to think about what things would make you less miserable, things you can do for yourself, and perhaps plan some things with oh.
One other thing lack :whistle: for my hubby does equal one more grumpy/stressed hubby from time to time though I do try and help out on occasion Dont know how you are in that dept (dont want to know necessarily :rotfl:) but just thought I would throw that one in there.

Ro xx

Aimless

twigpig wrote: »

I bought this changing bag but it'll be a xmas present, instead of me buying it, so I guess that counts as money saving, lol

Radley? I don't need one, I don't need one, I don't need....

I've been feeling a bit hormonal lately too, seems the nearer we get to the end, the more I worry about things! Though funnily enough, I'm quite chilled on the birth front, I'm more worried about all the other things that could happen.

*Ro*

Aimless wrote: »

Radley? I don't need one, I don't need one, I don't need....

I've been feeling a bit hormonal lately too, seems the nearer we get to the end, the more I worry about things! Though funnily enough, I'm quite chilled on the birth front, I'm more worried about all the other things that could happen.

.........Aimless thnks for pointing that out!!! :eek: Twigpig cant believe that I missed that it is a Radley bag I love Radley :rotfl::rotfl: you lucky thing!

Gillyx

I think I'd feel worse if I worked, and came home to a mess, as then it wouldn't feel as much my responsibility and he'd be expected to do a lot more than he currently does. Speaking to his mum though she just laughs and says "oh his Dad is the same" but I've seen how it is in her house and I don't want that for the rest of my life, where people come in and just throw there dirty dishes in the sink, make food all over the kitchen and leave the crumbs. She does so much and has a pretty responsible job.

The flat is tiny, and I guess that doesn't help, but he is out a lot, so it's not like we're stuck together 24/7. I suppose when we were dating and not living together all the time we was quality, we had a lot more money so were always out doing things, and now it's like we don't have the money and he doesn't have the time to do anything. There was something I really wanted to see at the cinema, and when he suggested we go there was a grocery delivery due to arrive so we couldn't and when I mentioned it again, his reply was "oh I offered to take you" even though it wasn't practical? Even now when he is in, I feel like we don't spend any "quality" time together, he's either sleeping or doing uni work, and even dinner a lot of nights, he sits with his plate at the computer so we don't even have that time. Now I feel like I'm being a horrible cow moaning about that.

As for the sex life, it's not as great as it was, but I think it's more because I'm pregnant, and he's so busy.

I just feel really down today I guess hormones!!