MSE Pregnancy Club 23

mancbird

We have a wood burning stove and I love sitting all cosy when it's on it's our only source of heat though as we have no mains gas here can be a bit of a pain having to light it and keep it going every day but you get used to it. It was a bit of a shock to the system when we first moved here though!

It's a fairly cheap heat source too as we tend to buy a load of logs once or twice each winter and also get given a tractor load by our landlord each Christmas OH is able to get free pallets from work which are great for getting the fire going as they are pine and then we have coal delivered once a fortnight for banking up the fire at night

missymoo81

oh Gilly and mamamoo, I really cant believe the lack of support from OH's, it makes me so so cross, I'd like to see how they'd cope carrying a great big heavy baby for 9 months, they'd probably take to their beds and stay there until it was born, wanting to be waited on hand and foot!! Men Grrr. My OH is pretty good but when hes away he knows im home all day and sends me emails with, "oh can you just..... go and see a house that I'd like to buy, let me know what its like, sort out the money, go to the auction. Or can you go into the city can you get me this plus this and this...... oh and if you get time...." I do get rather cross sometimes.

Lirin your mums house sounds like my stepmums house, there are always loads of people around there for dinner or just popping in, there were 11 for sunday lunch yesterday!!!

Gillyx

I really can't complain, he's got a lot on his plate and is doing loads of us as a family, but I just don't think he prioritises his free time great. Like now for example he has to leave at 12.45 for an appointment at 1 and then work after, so has to take his work clothes in a bag and the paperwork he needs for his appointment, he's sat playing call of duty until about 12.25, so is now flapping about and isn't organised. I refuse to do it for him, I could, but I won't.

I do all the cooking, cleaning, meal planning, shopping, working out of finances etc, which I don't mind at all, but I just wish he'd realise how time consuming this is at times, and as well as being pregnant, I'm doing all that and I'm entitled to be tired at the end of the day too.

I feel bad !!!!!ing about him on here, because he really is a fantastic guy, maybe I just pick up on little things because I'm a bit of a nag.

missymoo81

ok have actually put some washing on, mostly OH's! and have carried all my ebay stuff downstairs to watch tv and take photos of, there is over 100 things so is going to take me a life time, ho hum!! Nevermind, atleast Im doing something rather than sitting in bed feeling sorry for myself, am still VERY uncomfortable but I need to do something, hmmm I wonder what is good on tv next to keep me distracted!

Lirin

I think everyone moans about their OH on here at some point.... Mine's generally so nice and considerate, but there's plenty of times as well where I could shout at him. His main bad point is telling me loftily that he does most of the cleaning, tidying etc- yes, he does, but only because he makes it!
That one's usually ended quite simply. 'Honey, who hired a skip shortly after moving in with you, just to get rid of all the crap you'd accumulated?' Not rubbish- old toys, computers, etc.

I'm sitting in work thinking, only a month from tomorrow. 5 weeks til I'm off.... Yet, I'm so completely drained just now. I don't want to go off earlier than I have to, I want to keep as close to the date as possible (plus, payroll appear to hate change and respond badly to actually working and changing things.)

Gilly- your OH sounds a little like mine.

missymoo81

wooo hooo, second lot of washing in, bed stripped and washing on the line and have taken a whole 5 photos for ebay lol. Just had a reply back re NCT classes and it would appear I'm too late and they are fully booked didnt really want to go for the teaching more for the social side, but alas I am too late

Right coffee, love actually, and ebay stuff, oh my life is so exciting!!!

Crabapple

I think I've vaguely caught up from at least this morning, not sure how much I have missed! Congrats to s_c on the little one - so cute!

Been at the hospital this morning having GTT and 28 week bloods. Only 4 holes in me and two smallish bruises which is pretty good going. With any luck I'll hear tomorrow pm that GTT was okay. Got the normal midwife check then.

Can't complain about my DH, sorry that some of you are having trouble with them. I know they don't get it but I have warned mine since the beginning that hormonal means irrational. I think he saw that for the first time the other night when him half-asleep grumbling (about me rolling over and nicking the covers by accident) made me cry - normally I'd have given some back and told him to stop whining :rotfl:

jenjade

next house i live in MUST have a real fire! I want one so bad in the winter

missymoo81

oooohhhh dont I really really want to light my fire but theres no wood plus its not quite cold enough for that yet god my ebayings not going too well am very distracted by..... well anything really lol.

alison2020

Gillyx wrote: »

Mama Moo My OH is always claiming tiredness it annoys me, he sleeps better than me at night! Last night he was "too tired" to talk when he got in from work, despite the fact I'm in alone all day long, so I lost it and started ranting about how is it going to be once baby is here, I'll need conversation etc. Think I made him feel guilty, but honestly too tired to talk, it was inane ramblings aswell, nothing serious.

My OH has improved immensely since DD. Then, he wasn't prepared to sacrifice anything for me and baby (IMO). I was very resentful of him and even thought of leaving him a few times. I'm very glad I didn't and he finally seems to have grown up a bit (he is over forty so about bl@@dy time! But he does annoy me by telling me how tired he is sometimes, when I'm the one up with baby every night. Grrr! And he needs asked to do anything. He won't think to check if baby needs his nappy changed (even if the child is soaking) for instance, or make DD her tea, unless I prompt him. He complains I nag him, but if he showed a smidge of initiative I wouldn't have to :rotfl:
Hope the other useless OH's grow up a bit!

As usual, everything is simpler now he is back to work and I am running the house

Skint-Catt you have the most beautiful wee girl. Congratulations!