Friends fighting - I am in the middle

Dormouse

fannyanna wrote: »

What did they fall out over? Was it something minor or something a bit more significant? Has one of them wronged the other or are they both to blame?

I would probably be inclined to encourage them to patch things up if it was something minor and they were both to blame.

If it's a big thing and one of them has done something wrong I'd probably stay out of it - espeically if the one in the wrong doesn't even recognise it.

Their kids had a fight and things escalated from there. In my opinion, they are both more or less equally guilty, but it's hard to judge. It's not black and white anyway, so in a way it's been easy being impartial.

Ironically, the kids are friendly again, but the mums are not.

victory

I always used to say to the kids when they fell out with their friends 'is there blood?' They would answer no and I would say, 'well then I am not getting involved because by the time I do you will be back to being friends and I will look the silly one':rotfl:

jayII

I was in this situation for years. I managed to stay friends with both by not getting drawn into their snipes and b!tching about each other when I spent time with each friend. In the end, they got the message and stopped trying to get me to take sides.

I would never have involved myself in trying to sort it out: it's too easy to be labelled as the villain if you do that. Plus they were both mature adults and able to make their own decisions. Sadly, my friends have never made up with each other. They tried a few times, but it always ended in a blazing row.

I am still in no doubt that getting in between them would end my friendship with at least one of them.

It's stupid to fall out with people over kids bickering.