His ex at our wedding?

Threebabes

make_me_wise wrote: »

She is not just an ex though is she. An ex stays well and truly in your past and does not interfere with your life or any future relationships you choose to have. This lady (I use that term lightly) has tried twice to get back with your fiance despite knowing you were with him.

Mutual friends or not I think you would be very wise to insist she is not invited to your wedding. So what if her feelings are hurt or her nose put out of joint. This will be your special day and I feel if she is invited it will ruin it for you. Your fiance should be concentrating on what will make you happiest on your wedding day, not considering inviting someone along who has been so disrespectful of you more than once.

If he refuses to budge on this I will be honest and say I would question why.

Exactly ........ Why in earth would he want someone that tried to wreck your relationship at one of the most special days of your life?

Snowfall

Threebabes wrote: »

I had a small wedding, thank goodness. Invite the ones that you aren't close to, just don't invite the ones you don't like. Im sure if you spoke to him you could come to some compromise. If you are at the stage of a relationship that you are getting married surely you can tell him how you feel :eek: about it all.

Thanks for your post. Yes, obviously I will be talking to him about it. Just making sure I'm not over reacting, and to see how others have dealt with the situation. As I said, I'm confident that we will reach a compromise with no problem.

System

If she was just and ex and a friend i could understand it (hell i am best friend's with 2 of my exes :eek:) but the fact she's made passes at him when she knew he was taken, makes me wonder how she's be likely to behave at your wedding (especially after a few drinks..). It sounds as though she would make you feel very uncomfortable and that's the last thing you want on your special day. Make sure your OH is aware about just how this makes you feel and your worries about her attending.

Snowfall

make_me_wise wrote: »

If he refuses to budge on this I will be honest and say I would question why.

I'm sure that once I have voiced my feelings, she'll be off the list very quickly. There's no way that he would refuse!

Ravenlady_2

Maybe he wants her there as the final expression of 'not a chance in hell luv'

Flee_2

I doubt she would want to be there to see you both marry and see your happiness. Talk to your husband to be about it and how you feel. Only way is to discuss it and explain that she may not be interested in seeing your happiness and love.

lurvlyloz

my ex bf is my best friend and when me and my bf were talking about when we get married he asked if ex bf would be invited and i automatically said yes of course if thats ok with you.

that said ex bf is my best friend not some psycho that keeps trying to get me back. if that was the case i wouldn't want him there and my bf certainly wouldn't be having any of it.