Partner dismissed - am in despair

skintandscared_2

Milkshock wrote: »

if he phoned up tomorrow and said im resigning i dont think they would resist.

anyway he has to ask this question surely!! he has nothing else to go on.
anyway he should do it via a union. im surprised he hasnt contacted them already since he is a member.

im guessing its a small establishment.

whats your advice to his missus then?

since youve given none whatsoever so far.

He's a postal sorter. Exactly how small do you guess that establishment is then?

My advice to his missus is get him into a drug rehab programme or tell him to leave. I have too much personal experience of drugs (from the other side) to advise anything else.

t0rt0ise

Milkshock, your suggestions are nonsense and just giving false hope. Asking for an agreement or redundancy is just silly. If he asks the employer for something silly they will know he doesn't have a clue and will simply walk all over him anyway. Best to see what the union can suggest. If they can keep the police out of it and smooth things over with the person he assaulted they'll have done well.

OP, little you can do yourself unless you can increase your hours and have him stay at home with the children.

Sambucus_Nigra

Milkshock wrote: »

if he phoned up tomorrow and said im resigning i dont think they would resist.

anyway he has to ask this question surely!! he has nothing else to go on.
anyway he should do it via a union. im surprised he hasnt contacted them already since he is a member.

im guessing its a small establishment.

whats your advice to his missus then?

since youve given none whatsoever so far.

Better to give none than a complete fabrication of what he can do.

You say he has nothing else to go on, but a few minutes ago he was getting a payoff and a compromise agreement.

If you don't understand employment law in any way - it's probably best to say that your posts are your own ideas, rather than have people assume that your information is relevant to their situation.

Milkshock

skintandscared wrote: »

He's a postal sorter. Exactly how small do you guess that establishment is then?

My advice to his missus is get him into a drug rehab programme or tell him to leave. I have too much personal experience of drugs (from the other side) to advise anything else.

ok didnt see that

in which case im pretty sure the union will be pretty strong there.

i still think resigning is a serious option.

she does say he is going to quit drugs and maybe he is.

Milkshock

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Better to give none than a complete fabrication of what he can do.

You say he has nothing else to go on, but a few minutes ago he was getting a payoff and a compromise agreement.

If you don't understand employment law in any way - it's probably best to say that your posts are your own ideas, rather than have people assume that your information is relevant to their situation.

if youve read other threads you will see that i have experience of being about to be disicplined and possibly fired.

and ultimately walking away with a payoff, CA and agreed reference and being termed as having been made redundant.

so it all depends on the situation. so yes you can influence any process including disciplinaries and the way those things play out.

bobajob_1966

Milkshock wrote: »

ok didnt see that

in which case im pretty sure the union will be pretty strong there.

i still think resigning is a serious option.

she does say he is going to quit drugs and maybe he is.

Why will resigning pending disciplinary action leave him in a better position than being dismissed? They both read as badly on a reference!

custardy

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

Why will resigning pending disciplinary action leave him in a better position than being dismissed? They both read as badly on a reference!

if its RM then they provide a mr X worked from X till X for RM
thats pretty much it

OP if you confirm its RM and not a mail room then i can give a bit more pertinent info

Milkshock

bobajob_1966 wrote: »

Why will resigning pending disciplinary action leave him in a better position than being dismissed? They both read as badly on a reference!

erm no

the reference will say he resigned.

not dismissed.

it wont necessarily say resigned pending disciplinary action.

bobajob_1966

Milkshock wrote: »

erm no

the reference will say he resigned.

not dismissed.

it wont necessarily say resigned pending disciplinary action.

The reference may say that he resigned pending disciplinary action, and what will happen when the prospective employer calls to ask if they had been subject to disciplinary action? Come on, you know the answer to this one!

kingfisherblue

Milkshock wrote: »

ok didnt see that

in which case im pretty sure the union will be pretty strong there.

i still think resigning is a serious option.

she does say he is going to quit drugs and maybe he is.

Maybe he is, maybe he isn't - but it is still too late for him to have a reasonable chance of redeeming himself at work. Actually, I think it is too late to have any chance of redeeming himself at work.

OP, although your partner can and should contact his union, I doubt if there is much they can do. Using drugs and assaulting someone are both grounds for dismissal as they are both gross misconduct. I don't have much advice to offer you, but feel that your partner has put you in a very difficult position.

Others have suggested that you increase your hours at work, but this might not be possible - you can ask, but your employer doesn't have to give you additional hours. You would also need to consider your childcare situation - do you trust your partner to give up drugs and look after the children? Can you use other childcare or can family help out?

I can't see there being a happy outcome, but hope that things work out for you.