Partner dismissed - am in despair

warez22

Hi everyone,

My partner has just told me that he has been suspended from work for using cannabis at work and 'pushing' someone when confronted.

I am now in despair. He has now decided that he is not going to smoke cannabis anymore as he has now discovered that it destroys everything.

I have been trying for years to get him to give up but obviously losing his job has been the 'rock bottom' moment he needed.

But I am beside myself - he has been suspended and has probably got another 5-6 weeks wages coming in but then - nothing. He is positive he will get the sack and has been told so.

I work 24 hours a week, have 2 young children to look after and feel really upset that all the scrimping and saving I have done to give us our little treats, overpaying the mortgage, using tesco vouchers for holidays etc etc has all now been wasted on my idiot of a partner throwing it all away.

What if he can't find a job within the next month which, lets face it is a possibility in the current climate and the fact that he has been sacked.

He has no skills to speak of and was working as a postal sorter. So the jobs he can go for are limited.

He is very sorry blah blah blah but what am I going to do financially? Help!:(

Milkshock

hes !!!!ed at worked thats for sure.

is he a member of a union first of all?

warez22

He is a member of the union but he hasn't approached them yet as he doesnt seem to think there is any point - I dont know whether there is or not:(

Milkshock

there is a point they can negotiate with the employer directly from a greater position of strength than if he was to approach the employer alone

he will be sacked so he needs to find a way out before that happens - perhaps the union can persuade them to let him resign with the payoff he is entitled to under the redundancy process.

how many years has he worked there, was he permanent full time?

pink_princess

He needs to get job hunting now, and also needs to grow up.

Can you increase your hours? Overtime etc.

claire16c

The only thing I can see is you need to start working full time and he could look after the children. However I wouldnt want someone who does drugs looking after kids...So I suppose that would depend if he is actually giving it up or just saying it as to whether you could trust him with that.

Milkshock

exactly googlewakcer

what you and your man need to think about is the future

accept he is dead meat here and get out with the best deal he can

an agreed refernece would be great.

if they can agree to terminate his employment without being sacked he could even claim under an insurance policy he has such mortgage or income protection.

does he have anything like that?

Milkshock

Googlewhacker wrote: »

That is laughable, they may allow him to retire but to pay him off as well..................seriously doubt they will do this initially. As per my previous post, if they mess up the disciplinary then you maybe be able to get something.

retire? i think you mean resign.

ok the pay off may not be possible.

but resign under a CA would be great under the circumstances.

skintandscared_2

I cannot envisage a firm's policy which does not include drug taking/assault on the premises as gross misconduct in which case a "pay off" is out of the question. Never mind just losing his job, have the firm indicated they have/will contact the police?

Milkshock

skintandscared wrote: »

I cannot envisage a firm's policy which does not include drug taking/assault on the premises as gross misconduct in which case a "pay off" is out of the question. Never mind just losing his job, have the firm indicated they have/will contact the police?

skintandscared you think every company gives a toss about the detail?

they just want the guy off the premises and will do whatever it takes to get him out of there as painlessly as possible. understandably imo.

the aggravation of calling the police is not something they will want to get involved with.

this man must be allowed to go on his own terms if he wishes and be allowed to carry on with his career with the minimum of grief in the future as he has responsibilities to his family.

an agreed reference would be the icing on the cake. and shouldnt be too difficult to get.

Sambucus_Nigra

Milkshock wrote: »

there is a point they can negotiate with the employer directly from a greater position of strength than if he was to approach the employer alone

he will be sacked so he needs to find a way out before that happens - perhaps the union can persuade them to let him resign with the payoff he is entitled to under the redundancy process.

how many years has he worked there, was he permanent full time?

Sorry - but a payoff equal to a redundancy? Where on earth do you get that from?