Reporting Abuse

mummyoftwomonkeys

i think you need to find a new friend! it angers me so much to read this! I have read of men befriending people before and looking after their kids and they have agreed so they can go out for a drink or something! and that has annoyed me. What on earth was she thinking, the whole family set up itself would have rung alarm bells for me. When we have kids it is our duty to look after them not palm them off on some freaky family.

stormbreaker

flowerpower11 wrote: »

S Would it be better for me to give my details, maybe that would help to verify what I am saying

It is entirely up to you wether you give your details or not. Unfortunatly you are not reporting anything first hand therefor they will not try to verify anything. No one will solicite a complaint either. The child you know is no longer 'at risk'. You don't know what other intelligence is held about this male.
Following the 'Soham' case there is 'hopefully' more collation of intelligence and disclosure to relevant bodies.

flowerpower11

The last few days I haven't been able to think of much else apart from this situation.

I spoke to my friend on Friday, she says she has called Crimestoppers and given then his name so they are now aware of him but she has not given hers or her daughters details so I am not sure how much will get done.

I have his address and went round to see if it looked like he still lives there and I'm sure he does, the house looked like a mess and they was a pink scooter propped up against the side gate which made me blood run cold.

My friend said she would go to her local police station to disuss it with them but still insists of not disclosing details, I asked her to let me know what happened and she didn't so I assume she didn't go.

I called the NSPCC helpline this morning as I wanted to give his name myself so I know its been done but they wouldn't take his name. I talked to a lovely lady for 40 minutes but she said unless I was disclosing all the details then nothing could be done at all. Without a victim, there is no crime. Of course there is a victim (at least one) and a crime but no evidence without the victim coming forward.

She said support your friend, take it at her pace and encorage her to report what has happened.

So I feel I can't do any more for now. I know you need evidence, I just wish there was a way of them looking into him without involving my friend but theres not.

hjsmum

Your friend is being very selfish, not only towards her daughter (which in years to come the daughter may not be able to forgive her for) but also towards you. She has dumped all this in your lap to get it off her own chest without considering the torment it is now causing you.

I just wanted to say you sound like you're handling the situation well and you should be proud of yourself. Hope it all gets sorted out before it's too late for another young girl.

whitewing

I think in your situation I would go to the police and give them all the details, including the daughter's name. Even if the mother won't let the daughter make a statement it will be there on file as intelligence if someone else makes a complaint or if the daughter decides she wants to raise it when she is old enough to do it by herself. It may also allow the daughter to be offered support. I am certain the police will be sensitive; they were when I had to report something recently, and the parents understood that I had had to report it even if they had rather I didn't (and they had told me about it).

Flee_2

I would suggest going to the police. Then they have his address and details. You can do no more than that. Maybe suggest supporting your friend and helping her deal with this as well.
This is awful, I wonder how many other young females he has attempted to rape. Awful to think about this.