ranting mothers

alex21

Kay_Peel wrote: »

Recently I was in a clothes shop when my ear-drums nearly exploded. A woman was shouting at the top of her voice things like 'don't you effing wind me up. I've told you once and I'm not gonna effing have it' etc. I thought she might have been out of control because her screaming was so loud, but no - she was screaming while looking through the clothes rail!

I went nearer to see what kind of a monster was baiting her and saw a well-dressed and clean little toddler with a dummy in her mouth.

Other shoppers were blithely ignoring the screamer and the shop assistants were running in all directions trying to look busy. Before I knew it I was down on my haunches and the words were out of my mouth - 'you poor baby. You poor, poor baby - you've got no chance, have you?' It made the woman stop and I walked off.

I wanted to tell her to shut her filthy gob but I didn't want to drag myself down to her level with a slanging match. I just wish that, instead of ignoring her, the shop assistants had thrown her out and the other customers had looked at her with barely concealed distaste. I honestly think that she had no idea how revolting she was. Perhaps her mother had screamed at her like that and she thought it was normal?

I don't know what I'd do if I was surrounded by these revolting foul-mothed cowards - small children are such easy targets for their venom.

I sympathise but do be cautious. It may be that whilst you as an adult are safe, you may enrage the parent and once home it may be that the child suffers. A few years ago I was in a shopping centre when a woman ran at her toddler and slapped its legs so hard that I let out an involuntary gasp. Next thing was her thug of a boyfriend was in my face and threatening me. I knew that if security had come down and made an issue of this then that innocent little girl would probably have borne the brunt of their fury at home. I felt stuck between a rock and a hard place.

alex21

thatgirlsam wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

Oh yeh!

I am such a numpty

Mine do have terrible acts of emission though.. I can smell them as I type :rotfl:

Ha Ha! I need breathing apparatus to enter my teens room!

WolfSong2000

Speaking of poor parenting - I saw the most godawful behaviour from a young boy today...he must have been around 6 or 7...had a sister who looked a wee bit younger and a brother a little bit older. The other siblings were well behaved, but this little boy...he was running around the store where I work, screaming (a very high pitched scream), and was physically violent toward his sister - at one point he threw her to the ground and started shouting at her and hitting her. He stopped before I could get to him, but his mother did nothing - not about the screaming, the violence - none of it. All she did was pander to him?! The manager politely asked the boy to stop running around the store, but there was very little we could do...was so glad when that family left!!! Ugh.

JustKeepSwimming_2

I have just had to shut my patio door as next doors tribe are now up & yelling :mad:

My neighbours have 5 kids in a 3 bed house :eek: 3 of which are teenage boys, so its hardly suprising they spill out into the front & back gardens at all hours. If more than 2 kids are in, then its constant nosie - I don't know how their mum copes with it. Their dad copes by working 7 days a week. I think she must be so used to it, as she is from a big, noisy family who seem to visit every other day (with their 5 dogs!).

I however am from a family where you didn't speak unless you were spoken to, which was rarely :rotfl:, & I'm an only child. I do have 2 of my own kids, sometimes it feels like a lot more, but their noise is nothing compared to next door.

I do struggle to cope with it - when I moved here I couldn't wait to sit out in my garden but I only do it if their house is empty! I've resorted to earplugs if I really want to be outside (but I find they make me really hot :rotfl:) as even headphones on maximum don't drown them out. BUT they are all lovely kids & I do get on well with the parents, who are good neighbours (will help clear snow in winter, feed cats etc. if others are away). I wouldn't dream of saying anything, & luckily its just "noise" rather than the unpleasant screaming that some of you have to put up with.

I wouldn't want to swap them, but I'd love a white noise machine that covered my house & garden!

JustKeepSwimming_2

alex21 wrote: »

I sympathise but do be cautious. It may be that whilst you as an adult are safe, you may enrage the parent and once home it may be that the child suffers. A few years ago I was in a shopping centre when a woman ran at her toddler and slapped its legs so hard that I let out an involuntary gasp. Next thing was her thug of a boyfriend was in my face and threatening me. I knew that if security had come down and made an issue of this then that innocent little girl would probably have borne the brunt of their fury at home. I felt stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I have had a similar experience & I'm not sure if I'd have the nerve to say anything again, which doesn't make me feel very good about myself. Like you, I let out a very loud gasp at a mum slapping her child reallly hard across her face - the child must have been around 5 & I've no idea what she'd done to "provoke" her mum, but she ended up in tears with a very red cheek. After my gasp I started to say "What are you doing?" but before I'd got the you out her sister screamed about an inch from my face "!!!!!! - nowt to do with you, FO you s l a g". :eek: That poor little girl, I sometimes wonder how shes has grown up.

Not sure what the answer is though.