ranting mothers

mummyoftwomonkeys

My husband myself and our 2 sons moved house in April, we used to live in what would be the biggest town I guess for our area its where we both work but we got sick and tired of where we used to live, there were 2 houses down our street with bedsits in and there was always police cars and smashed windows, quite often people would stand round the corner getting drugs and I reported 2 needles that were found round there to the council so as you can imagine we didn't want to stay there, we made a complete change and moved to a lovely little town there isn't much here but we don't go out at night anyway so nothing to miss there and the local school is lovely, I felt it would be lovely and peaceful compared to what we had lived in for the last 5 years but........ the mothers round here do nothing but shout and scream at their kids, they have windows wide open in their houses so when Im in my garden putting the washing out I can here everything, today I couldn't hear the kids but I heard someone shout will you shut up, the woman next door spends a lot of time round her b/fs but when she is home she shouts all the time and it makes me feel sick when she starts, she was in the street yesterday shouting get away from me to her child! she had some other mothers and kids in her garden earlier sat there smoking and shouting, I wont have my kids in the garden when she's out there. A woman over the road who has a young son is always sat on her window sill swearing down the phone and I can hear her in my kitchen lol. not looking for advice lol not much i can do other than move but has anyone else come across mums like this?

pigpen

my XH was like that.. it was like 1,000,000 decibels was normal level for speaking.. drove me insane!

It will likely improve next week when they are back at school! I think a lot of parents would happily tie up and gag children and put them in a cupboard for a week at the moment! The parents are bored, the children are bored and everyone has cabin fever..

Gingernutty

Tell me about it.

I live in a mid terrace with social housing on one side and a privately rented house on the other.

The social housing side was a single mother with two small children and has had a 'few' problems over the years.

She seemed to come from the hairdryer school of motherhood - screaming and ranting at two under eights (identical twins) from morning til evening.

It's only recently that I realised that she and her children have moved out and a new single mother has been moved in.

Volume-wise there is almost no difference.

I'm dreading the back to school run. There's a hairdryer mother of at least three kids who gets on my bus every morning - I've got a splitting headache before I've even started work.

VfM4meplse

Maybe the volume is worse because it's summer and the windows are open? You may find it calms down over the autumn / winter, which will buy you some time to decide whether to stay or go.

Molly41

It's the end of the school holidays and the windows are wide open. I do know what you mean though as my neighbour has a right mouth on her and she is secretary of the local playgroup:eek:

jascrawf

My next door neighbour is like it whether its school holidays or not. I live in quite a peaceful area except for when she is home. She has 2 children, 1 school age, 1 under and she always has her friends and their kids round from 2/3pm onwards. Her friend has a foghorn for a voice and it's hoarse like a man, it grates on me.

From 7am when she gets the kids up, all you can hear is loud screeching and bellowing. Her son, possibly due to ADHD or something, is hyper and talks at a rate of 500 words per minute in a high pitch squeaky voice and has terrible tantrums which I understand must be hard to deal with, but the mother doesn't help matters by threatening to slap him and shouting at him in front of others. It just makes him worse. There's a short break from the shouting whilst she takes her DS to school, then it starts again with her DD and friends' kids until she picks her DS up. It usually stops around 6pm as they are in bed for 7pm.

Her DD was potty training when I first moved in. They were coming in through the back gate after dropping her DS off at school and the poor little one wet herself by accident. She let rip at her, clouted the back of her legs and told her to get in and get changed.

There's many a time I've toyed with the idea of reporting her because the shouting and slapping worries me. But then I look out of the window and see all the new toys in the back garden, the paddling pool, trampoline, scooters and so on which makes me think the kids are looked after well in one way and they're always clean, well dressed and dinner is on the table for 5pm.

Is it just a case that some people are shouters? I don't know.

Last BH Monday, the bundle of kids who were playing in her garden were shouting her for something and out came this loud scream from the bathroom window "I'm havinggggggg a poooooooo!". My OH and I stared at each other, couldn't believe ANYONE would shout that :rotfl:

CallaLily

My next door neighbour is very similar. She smokes, drinks until she legless and although I cannot prove it I'm sure I've seen her buying drugs off a young lad by her front gate! There's a different bloke every week and her music drives me up the wall!
She swears and screams at her little girl in the house where she seems to think no-one can hear her (We're not all deaf!) then comes out being overly nice to the poor child in front of everyone .
Seems to be quite typical of a lot of mothers at the moment, I jumped out of my skin in Tesco yesterday when a woman started shouting and bawling at her little one while standing right next to me, shocking behaviour!
And yes I do have children of my own, 4 boys in fact :eek:.

mummyoftwomonkeys

Thank you for sharing with me, makes it seem not so bad after reading your stories :-( the kids next door never seem to be any trouble when I see them in the garden, they talk over the fence at my boys then the next thing I hear the mother shouting at them and I can't understand what their meant to have done. We have the same problem this estate is made up of owned, part owned, rented and housing association so some houses are at work all day then another will be blasting out cruddy music another shouting at the kids lol

Kay_Peel

Recently I was in a clothes shop when my ear-drums nearly exploded. A woman was shouting at the top of her voice things like 'don't you effing wind me up. I've told you once and I'm not gonna effing have it' etc. I thought she might have been out of control because her screaming was so loud, but no - she was screaming while looking through the clothes rail!

I went nearer to see what kind of a monster was baiting her and saw a well-dressed and clean little toddler with a dummy in her mouth.

Other shoppers were blithely ignoring the screamer and the shop assistants were running in all directions trying to look busy. Before I knew it I was down on my haunches and the words were out of my mouth - 'you poor baby. You poor, poor baby - you've got no chance, have you?' It made the woman stop and I walked off.

I wanted to tell her to shut her filthy gob but I didn't want to drag myself down to her level with a slanging match. I just wish that, instead of ignoring her, the shop assistants had thrown her out and the other customers had looked at her with barely concealed distaste. I honestly think that she had no idea how revolting she was. Perhaps her mother had screamed at her like that and she thought it was normal?

I don't know what I'd do if I was surrounded by these revolting foul-mothed cowards - small children are such easy targets for their venom.

SingleSue

I have to raise my voice a little when talking to middle son as he is partially deaf but not bad enough that he has to have aids..and as a result of him being partially deaf, he has to have the volume up on everything that has sound and he talks loudly too!

My opposite neighbour used to laugh many years ago, she could set her clock by the noise level in certain houses, noise at 7.45am meant high school kids lived there, noise at 8.15-30 meant primary school children lived there and it didn't matter if the parents were working or not, private tenant, owner or housing association either, they were all doing it!

Our noisest neighbour is an owner occupier, with the mum and dad both working but they do like their music......very very loud, in fact so loud it sounds like they are playing it in my front garden, there is also lots of very naughty words being shouted out not just by the parents but also the children (all teenage years and above) and they are also appear to not be bound by normal decent morals...they keep nicking or breaking our garden furniture/ornaments etc, it has got to the point that I am scared to buy nice things for my garden! So it is not just social housing tenants who do it.

By the way, what is hairdryer parenting?

djdido2

Gingernutty wrote: »

Tell me about it.

I live in a mid terrace with social housing on one side and a privately rented house on the other.

The social housing side was a single mother with two small children and has had a 'few' problems over the years.

She seemed to come from the hairdryer school of motherhood - screaming and ranting at two under eights (identical twins) from morning til evening.

It's only recently that I realised that she and her children have moved out and a new single mother has been moved in.

Volume-wise there is almost no difference.

I'm dreading the back to school run. There's a hairdryer mother of at least three kids who gets on my bus every morning - I've got a splitting headache before I've even started work.

Why is being a single parent significant???