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Breathing out, I smile – Bringing ZEN to the life of a DFW
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Oh Noooooooooooooooooooooooo!
DR SW's orders - (Ps am not a dr in any shape or form, just jolly good at catching colds) :
Lemsip. Honey, hot drinks, hot water bottle and nice tv in front of a fire if you have one.Aiming for a minimal spend 20220 -
Hi Marru
Thanks for an interesting and enjoyable diary.
Can you recommend any easy-to-digest Zen books as I am interested in the subject?DFW'er - Lightbulb moment : 31st July 2009 - £18,499
28th October 2019 - £13,505 - 27% paid off.
Demolishing my House of Debt.. one brick at a time!!
Thinking of spending???..YNAB says "NO!!!!"0 -
I hope she is tucked up in bed but knowing Marru she will be doing hundreds of things at once!!!
Get well soon dearest Marru.Aiming for a minimal spend 20220 -
Hi,
And thanks for popping in Chrisblue. I am going to put my present reading list in my blog shortly. However I don't quarantee that they are zen books in the literal meaning. But they are books that what I think is the western interpretation of zen, calmness, mindfullness and being present.
News:
- Had a couple of informal interview thingys yesterday
- Had a teleseminar last night at 2 am :eek:
- Couldn't sleep much before it because too excited and not much time for after it either as the seminar finished at 4 am
- Found out today that I have got the transfer I asked for. And the best thing is that I don't even need to change desks but I will have different boss (and for some reason my present boss seems to be nicer).
- Still feeling poorly - voice now completely gone
- All fleabay sold stuff moneys received and parcels posted
- Got box of matches so can now use my oil burner
- Been wearing my new trousers, two sizes smaller than my old ones :j, pictures hopefully to follow
- Printed out my study programme for this autumn, need to jot down how many hours that involves and try to squeeze it to the time available hopefully giving for once time for proper revision (instead of 2 week mad panic)
"Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."
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Gosh you are doing so much. Well done. Things will get better and better.Aiming for a minimal spend 20220
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Those who have followed me around this forum know that my relationship with DD’s dad was rocky to put it nicely. I had for a very long time a lot of anger about lots of things when it came to him. I don’t really know what has happened but for some reason I am ok about it all now. Yes I do have times when I think how my life would have turned out if I hadn’t met him but apart from having “lost” ten years I think I am getting now back on track with my life.
There was this song I used to sing and I always thought that the words were about him. But those words turned out to be the biggest lie ever. Some time ago when I was doing my weekly karaoke night with Youtube I thought that I should be ok singing that song again considering that I seem to be well and truly past the past. So you can imagine my surprise when I choked, couldn’t sing and tears started falling.
I then realised that even than I had forgiven him I hadn’t forgiven myself. I hadn’t forgiven myself for letting all those things happen that did, for not finishing it all earlier for allowing him to stop me doing things that were important to me. I had taken responsibility for all that but I hadn’t forgiven myself.
So here I was trying to sing and crying. But then I decided to sing that song to “The Universe” (one day I will sing it to myself) and I did – three times. And every single time I hit the high note better than I ever have. And in the end I found peace – I forgive me.
If you are curious about what was the song then HERE it is."Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."
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Oh Marru Bless you. This sounds like such a big step. You are so strong and so honest. It'll work out you know, you are moving on and in style too.
Goodnight, sleep well. love from meXXXXXXXAiming for a minimal spend 20220 -
I was about nine or ten when at school our class was about to do a dance performance (can’t remember what was the event). I really wanted to be part of it but as I wasn’t known as anyway sporty I didn’t get chosen. However when the teacher said that she would like to have someone to help with the performance; I put my hand up straight away. And as there was nobody else going for it I got the job.
And as it happened one of the girls never got to grips with the routine and pulled out. So I was the obvious choice as I knew the routine inside out having been in all of the rehearsals. We did the performance, I was part of it and it went brilliantly.
Now we have had this new project coming up for a while. And as soon as I heard about it I “put my hand up”. Today I had a first meeting with my new manager and I am so excited. It will be fantastic project to be part of.
So when opportunity arises – put you hand up. I don’t think as an old person in a rocking chair doing my cross stitch I will be regretting the things that I did do. I will be regretting the things that I didn’t. Go for it!
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I am going to write that book list that I promised and a little thing about my weight loss to date. But tonight I am tired and I need to get my studies started. I am only going to watch the introductory stuff to ease myself in."Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."
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Good memory. I like volunteering for things. Life can be fun. Today was I am glad to say.Aiming for a minimal spend 20220
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I have been sitting upstairs stitching and relaxing. It has been a busy week but it also has been a good week. I have found this mysterious calm and even when I have made mistakes at work I haven’t got upset, I have just calmly fixed them and moved on. Today I was helping out some of my colleagues with their massive filing task (I have kept mine up to date – “add here smug smiley” :rotfl:) and it felt really good.
So while I was sitting upstairs I was thinking about what to write here tonight. As I am rather tired I thought that anything too high brow can’t be attempted. And then I thought that I could write about what we can learn from dogs (as we have had the cats already). While I was thinking about dogs I was thinking about reactive dogs and decided to talk about action and reaction instead.
If you break the word react down you get re-act i.e. acting again. So for same stimulus – same action – same result. Nothing changes. When dealing with reactive dogs the important thing is to bring the dog’s awareness to the presence and teach a new way to act, teach that acting differently brings better results so that there is no need to re-act the old way (there are different ways on doing this but I am not going there here).
This also applies to us people. Unfortunately we don’t have friendly dog trainer to come and guide us. We need to realise the situations where we are reacting ourselves and to stop, take a step back and find a new way of dealing with that situation.
So here is a challenge for you. Think of a situation where you always react instead of act and think now in advance what you are going to do when next time faced with that situation?"Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."
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