Step mum havng another baby

whitewing

You could suggest that you're the first they ring/first to visit when it's actually born.

Maybe it was an accident and they are a little bit fed up about it and not shouting it from the rooftops. Plus if stepmum is overweight, it may not have been so noticeable to you but they may have assumed that it was and that you'd noticed but weren't pleased.

meritaten

does it matter you werent the first to know? perhaps they got their wires crossed and each thought the other had told you?
Let me be the first to congratulate you hun - a new sibling! put aside the hurt and just join in the joy when she is born. You could though, say to your dad and stepmum - 'so which one of you forgot to tell me I was going to have a sister?' - but in a jokey way!

pigpen

Well she must be somewere between 39 and 35 weeks by now.. so she is either extremely obese or you havent seen her since.. February?

mine is due october and it has been obvious for months..

I would say if youve not seen them in all that time then you have no right to be even slightly annoyed at not being told.. they cant be very important parts of your life. If you have seen them in that time you are either completely blind or they have deliberately not told you, in which case you are justified in being upset they havent shared it with you.

I didnt tell anyone I was having my last one until very late because there was some question as to whether she would survive or not nd it depended on a bunch of blood results coming back.. so it might be they have had something just as traumatic to deal with and wanted to shield you from that.. which given you are obviously not a small child yourself is a little silly, if not sweet of them.

Have you asked them why they didnt tell you sooner? What was their response?

make_me_wise

Maybe there have been complications through the pregnancy and they have not known till now that it would successfully go to term. In which case they wouldn't shout it from the rooftops.

Do you live far from them and not see them very often? From around the 4 month stage you can see with most women that they are pregnant.

erdd2

How were your reactions to previous "announcements"? I am not assuming or judging...merely contemplating why there was a delay in informing you of this latest development.

Ladyhawk

pigpen wrote: »

I would say if youve not seen them in all that time then you have no right to be even slightly annoyed at not being told.. they cant be very important parts of your life.

That is a very unfair assumption. Some people don't live close to their families... and guess what... it's not always through choice.

OP - you have every right to be upset. But just take a few deep breaths and decide whether it is important enough to you to cause ructions in the family about. I am sure that you will probably come to the conclusion that the people we love sometimes hurt us unintentionally. They are only human afterall.

Congratulations on your impending new sister.

Gigervamp

Ladyhawk wrote: »

That is a very unfair assumption. Some people don't live close to their families... and guess what... it's not always through choice.

I agree. Both my mum and my daughter live in London and we only see each other about once a year, but it certainly doesn't mean that we don't care about each other.

Pollycat

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

What was his reason for not telling you?

This is a very good question.

Why did he wait so long before telling you?

Depending what the answer is, that may indicate whether your reaction to have an argument with your Dad was silly and childish or if you were justified at the time.

However, what's done is done and maybe you should just let it go and make up with your Dad.

Even if the majority of posters on here feel you were in the right, that's not going to mend any rift with your family.

CH27

Pollycat wrote: »

This is a very good question.

Why did he wait so long before telling you?

Depending what the answer is, that may indicate whether your reaction to have an argument with your Dad was silly and childish or if you were justified at the time.

However, what's done is done and maybe you should just let it go and make up with your Dad.

Even if the majority of posters on here feel you were in the right, that's not going to mend any rift with your family.

Good post:)

pigpen

Ladyhawk wrote: »

That is a very unfair assumption. Some people don't live close to their families... and guess what... it's not always through choice.

Rubbish.. she is young, she has legs and a brain.. my cousin flies to the UK from Australia 4 times a year to see her parents and has done since she went over there at about 20 and rings at least 3 or 4 times a week and emails constantly.. there is no excuse to not see/contact your parents.. unless you dont like them..