Fussy eaters?

Ravenlady_2

I should have just gone with my dads idea of Pie and a Pint.
Job done.

74jax

I don't think I would dare say to someone who was paying £35+ for myself and £35+ for my partner that I didn't like their menu and that they should change it or accommodate me in some other way. Actually, it doesn't matter how much someone else paid, it could have been a fiver, I still wouldn't say it.

I'd maybe just email your mum back - might be better than phoning her, and say that's a shame and you hope it doesn't alter the fact that they are coming, but that you have a huge list of friends that you'd love to invite if they decide the menu isn't for them.

KK22_2

I consider myself to be a fussy eater but couldn't definitely have enough to eat from your menu, it sounds great! Put it out of your mind, go ahead with your choices and if your mum brings it up again - just tell her that the food is the least of your concerns. They have a meal there, eat it or leave it. No one will starve to death if they don't like it and im sure those that have to eat for health reasons will have their own Plan B if they don't like it!

arubababy

Your menu sounds lush, at least your guests get a choice, some venues (ours included) everyone gets whatever we choose. One dish for all whether they like it or not.
People can always fill up on the buffet later in the evening if they can't eat a part of their main

Kaye1

OH is a head chef and I used to be the person who organised all the weddings at the venue we worked at. And from the kitchen side, I think the message would be as mentioned before- 'jog on!'

We were fairly accomodating but- we also had another function room and a restaurant, so while we worked very, very hard to make sure everything was perfect, it was kind of my job to manage the customers expectations if you know what I mean?

For example, three course, sit down wedding for forty. (No choice of food though) One brides mum (always the mums!) told me about 10 times that a certain cousin didn't like peas. They didn't want to provide a seating plan, apart from top table, so we had no way of knowing who the cousin was. In the whole scheme of food, she kept going on about the bloody peas and wanting the bride to come and point them out so we would know. In the end, after i found out that they weren't allergic, I suggested that the cousin should just not eat the peas......

What I was trying to get across was that on the day, everyone is usually so full of emotions, getting pictures done, speeches etc that peas were the least of the worries. Aterward, the bride took me aside and thanked me because she would listen to me and 'the chef,' but not her! They did have a fabby day though...and no peas were mentioned.

Personally, I think it sounds fine. Echo thoughts re: veggie but that is the venue rather than you for having unimaginative options. Lots of couples didn't even offer a choice- just the veggie option obviously.

Perhaps your mum could pay for the 'extras!' Good luck with your big day, anyway.

donquine

Ravenlady wrote: »

The cousin is not a vegetarian but might die if a nut is within 300ft of her. I think its all drama as I tested this theory as a teenager and plucked peanuts out of a florida salad and she didnt die, I think she just doesnt like nuts. I didnt actually invite her either.

I can't tell you how sad this post made me.

It is possible to be fatally allergic to one type of nut and not another. I have encountered people who thought my allergies were 'all drama' and knowingly fed me food I was allergic to. The feeling of my throat swelling shut and being unable to breathe was a damn sight less painful than the feeling of absolute betrayal. I'm generally quite pragmatic - if I have a near miss and nearly die but no one maliciously caused the reaction, I just get on with life. However, if someone deliberately did that to me, it would be no different in my eyes to someone having spiked my drink with rat poison.

I understand you didn't invite your cousin, but your problem should be with your mother, who did. Is it too late to un-invite people? (Not because of their dietary requirements; because you don't actually like them.) You should only be celebrating your wedding with people you actually want to be there - even if your mother is happy to pay for them, which she probably isn't!

Ravenlady wrote: »

Your nan dont like lamb or funny chicken she wants beef, and soup to start with.
Your cousin is allergic to nuts so cant have nut roast or the brownie
I dont like any of the starters and i think a beef roast would be nicer.
Cant see the kids wanting to eat that either
Your step-dad wants salmon for mains - looked on the website and they do it.
Have spoken to X and he wants salmon too to replace the nut roast and what are you going to do for W who doesnt eat cheese, meat, eggs and milk?
Z from next door doesn't like anything.
The buffet sounds a bit dull.

You should absolutely cater for people with allergies, but those who would prefer something else because of a whimsical fancy can just jog on.

It's your day, the food should be about what you and your OH like. If you have a favourite meal, that should absolutely be on the menu, even if all the guests think it's bloody horrid.

ladymarmalade

Ravenlady wrote: »

From what I read on another thread not catering for veggies is a cardinal sin.

Well we kind of are catering for them really as there is a full vegetarian menu for the big three course dinner and althoug the evening meal is a hog roast.... there are plenty of accompanyments such as potato wedges, corn on the cob, veggie stuffing, and a few veggie tarts.....so there is plenty for them to eat. I just can't really get around the fact that the main attraction is a big pig....and I can't think of anything you can roast in the same way for a vegetarian.

Janey3

blimin heck! - all this pandering - are they going to pay for these meals themselves - one would think so! I would remind your mum that it is a wedding - your wedding - not a day out at some restaurant and they will have what's on your chosen menu or they can stick a sandwich in their handbags and bring it with them. Its your wedding and your menu sounds great. Different ball game if your mum is paying for the lot.

Hope everything sorts itself out and you have a wonderful day.

Gillyx

It's a roast dinner, who doesn't like a roast dinner? I'd let them starve. It's your day, your choice of menu, if they don't like it, they don't have to come. Some people need to learn to put up and shut up.

bettyB_2

martinthebandit wrote: »

Here you go I have drafted out a reply for you, just copy and paste it into an email to your mum.

Dear Mum

Please tell all those who don't like the menu 'chin up, jog on' It's my wedding and they can eat what they are given.

Hope you are OK

Love this email!

Dekazer wrote: »

We're having a curry for our meal. I'm sure there will be MANY people who aren't keen, but it's our favourite restaurant in the world and we'll be using the 'chin up, jog on' approach. (Love it BTW).

To compensate, we're going fairly bog-standard with the evening buffet so they can all stuff their faces later on.

Just a thought, but if people see the menu in advance and realise they won't be eating a big lunch, shuoldn't they just be polite and go for a massive full English for breakfast, and smuggle in a packet of rolos?

We're doing the same. Having 'foreign muck' that auntie gladys won't eat for the main - no choices, get what ur given unless you have allergies or are a vege. then having chips and 'normal stuff' for buffet choices!

Love that we're not the only people doing this!
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