We'd like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum... Read More »
PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING: Hello Forumites! In order to help keep the Forum a useful, safe and friendly place for our users, discussions around non-MoneySaving matters are not permitted per the Forum rules. While we understand that mentioning house prices may sometimes be relevant to a user's specific MoneySaving situation, we ask that you please avoid veering into broad, general debates about the market, the economy and politics, as these can unfortunately lead to abusive or hateful behaviour. Threads that are found to have derailed into wider discussions may be removed. Users who repeatedly disregard this may have their Forum account banned. Please also avoid posting personally identifiable information, including links to your own online property listing which may reveal your address. Thank you for your understanding.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
Legal Options for girlfriend moving in with me
Comments
-
Teresa_Green wrote: »Absolutely, so why move in with someone who you are not so sure about in the first place?
It is sensible to consider the relationship as well as the financial side.
Au contraire. In this world of gold-diggers and the "I know my rights" and "free money for nothing" mentality, i'd protect my wallet first.
If I was at risk of losing a lifetime's savings, i'd be as cautious as the OP.Everyone is entitled to my opinion!0 -
-
Carlos is right to be cautious, who knows what could happen in the future, but please don't make him sound like a bad guy for trying to protect what he's already worked hard for and will be working hard for for the next 38 years.
On the other hand, my ex refused to have anything written down. He refused to pay a solicitor for legal documents when all I wanted was what was mine to start with, in other words I keep my money and he keeps his house. When we split, he got EVERYTHING. He got photos, clothes, cutlery and crockery, furniture, the house, my car, all his debts paid off and all his bills paid for 3 years and ALL of my compensation money because I could not prove what I'd paid into the house. He wanted me to chip in for everything but when push came to shove, apparently I hadn't paid my way and I lost everything I had to my name, literally everything. So you see, me sticking up for Carlos has nothing to do with me thinking he should look after himself and forget about his girlfriends wants or needs, it was to save any future argument/s. I think Carlos is being incredibly smart, and extremely considerate because yes he wants to protect what's his, but he doesn't actually want to take everything his girlfriend has either.
To think of the bad things as well as the good is just wise thinking. Yes, it's completely unromantic but in the long run, there can never be any fallouts.
Me and my OH disagreed on the percentage on equity on our house. I wanted 10% (the percentage of the deposit that I paid) but my OH insisted on 25%. So, legally, I get 25% of any profit (of which there is none lol) if we split. It took about 5 minutes in the solicitor's office to sort that out!
Whatever you do Carlos, I wish you all the happiness in the world. You've made a great job of the house, you should be very proud of yourself! And your girlfriend is very pretty :-)Yaaay, I finally conned a man into making a honest woman of me. Even more shocking is that I can put the words "Happily" and "Married" into the same sentence and not have life insurance on my mind when I say it ;-)0 -
Screamer, it seemed that Carlos was in grave danger of doing similar to your ex, but has now hopefully come to his senses enough to ensure fairness for both him and his pretty girlfriend.
Protect yourself by all means, but that should not equal having your cake and eating it.
0 -
Just off the top of my head,
Since you own your house, why not consider letting that out to a family or whatever, then renting a property between you and your lady friend. If the figures worked out you might even make a small profit.
That way what's yours stays yours and what's hers stays hers.
And don't forget to make a pre-shacking up agreement.0 -
You mean stuff like your pension...?;)im marriage, anything you bring to the marriage before hand is protected. so...MARRY HER!Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
Just off the top of my head,
Since you own your house, why not consider letting that out to a family or whatever, then renting a property between you and your lady friend. If the figures worked out you might even make a small profit.
That way what's yours stays yours and what's hers stays hers.
And don't forget to make a pre-shacking up agreement.
There are no close family/friends in the area and the hassle of becoming a landlord is not one i'd like to entertain at the minute.
Cash is already tight, without having to worry about letting and the (potential) financial strain if something goes wrong, but thanks anyway0 -
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply
Categories
- All Categories
- 351.3K Banking & Borrowing
- 253.2K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 453.7K Spending & Discounts
- 244.3K Work, Benefits & Business
- 599.5K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 177.1K Life & Family
- 257.8K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16.2K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.6K Read-Only Boards