Legal Options for girlfriend moving in with me

GSXRCarlos

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

You don't accept any payments from her which could later be construed as rent or contributions towards your mortgage. You can't have it both ways.

It won't cost you any more to have her staying with you other than an increase in the CTax, groceries and utilities. Therefore that should be what she pays 50% towards and nothing else.

No furniture. No share of repairs and maintenance. No improvements and no decorating. No holidays paid for in lieu. Nothing.

Brilliant, that's probably the best post of this treat, thanks BitterAndTwisted :beer:

I couldn't ask her for money for renovations anyway - as far as i'm concerned i pay, she just picks the colours (wait, does that mean we're married already???)

Teresa_Green

sonastin wrote: »

Teresa - you are only hearing one side. She could equally be posting saying "what should I do to make sure I don't find myself out on my ear without a penny to my name". My advice to here in this scenario is to save the money that she isn't paying out in rent so that she has a deposit available should it go wrong. If she chooses to p*ss her money up the wall while the OP is keeping his head down and working hard to pay his mortgage, why should he then hand over even more money if the relationship breaks down.

It is possible to manage the financial side of a relationship separately from the emotional side. Sometimes it is failing to separate them which causes the relationship to break down.

When my fiance chucked his ex out of his house, she had managed to save enough cash to buy herself a flat mortgage-free. Yet she still claimed an entitlement to his property. Luckily her "contributions" were only groceries and a few bits of furniture, but he still had to borrow money to pay her back for the furniture so she didn't fight him for even more.

So you would advise Carlos's girlfriend to do what your fiance's ex did? I may be wrong but I think that is what he would like to avoid happening?

That is what tends to happen in flat share living arrangements posing as pseudo relationships, hence my advice to only consider living together in a house only you own with a person who you know well enough, trust and are in a serious loving relationship with?

Dave101t

im marriage, anything you bring to the marriage before hand is protected. so...MARRY HER!

Teresa_Green

GSXRCarlos wrote: »

...as far as i'm concerned i pay, she just picks the colours (wait, does that mean we're married already???)

'fraid so!

Gwhiz

Unfortunately any owner of a house, male or female, would be naive/mad to not think of the financial consequences IF a relationship broke down and to plan accordingly.

Teresa_Green

Gwhiz wrote: »

Unfortunately any owner of a house, male or female, would be naive/mad to not think of the financial consequences IF a relationship broke down and to plan accordingly.

Absolutely, so why move in with someone who you are not so sure about in the first place?

It is sensible to consider the relationship as well as the financial side.

SandC

Absolutely Teresa, moving in is such a massive commitment anyway as far as I'm concerned, it would be a couple of years down the line for me. I know for others they don't see it like that and think purely in terms of pooling resources!

Gwhiz

Teresa_Green wrote: »

Absolutely, so why move in with someone who you are not so sure about in the first place?

It is sensible to consider the relationship as well as the financial side.

Because moving in can be a leap of faith. There are enough stories to know that a seemingly lovely partner CAN turn into an evil money grabber once the moving in bit of the plan has been accomplished.

Moving in together when you both put equal amounts into the relationship (financial and emotional) or when you both have nothing is one thing BUT if one party has already created wealth for themselves then there is every reason to protect it until you do know that the other person is sincere.

Anything else would be naive and, in my eyes, stupid.

split_second

wow this thread is getting heated :eek:

at the end of the day you do what is/was right for you not for anyone else, although i doubt the o.p is the sort of guy to say if a relationship ended 'i'm going to work and what you out by the time i get back' although i did have a lodger that moved out in stealth over a 3 day period (first thing i noticed was an empty freezer lol)

Gwhiz

split_second wrote: »

wow this thread is getting heated :eek:

at the end of the day you do what is/was right for you not for anyone else, although i doubt the o.p is the sort of guy to say if a relationship ended 'i'm going to work and what you out by the time i get back' although i did have a lodger that moved out in stealth over a 3 day period (first thing i noticed was an empty freezer lol)

Not heated - just some differing views!!

Love and peace!!! :beer: