The Modern but Old Style Homemakers Club

sb88_2

I'd love to join! I'm just about to start my life as a home maker! I'm 22, and unemployed (would ideally love a job just for the money) but I'd rather be a stay at home wife (one day a mother if life has that planned for us) I think running a household efficently is a full time job.
We have talked about it, and we've come to an arrangement that I'm going to work from home and try to set myself up as self employed whilst running the house, so my OH doesn't need to. (he already does so much with only one income coming in)
Getting the keys to our first home together tomorrow, he works fulltime, and I am naturally old style!
I have the utmost respect for women (and men) who chose to be a homemaker.

Sarah

juliapenguin

Hooray Mrs Tittlemouse - you found me!

I feel like my whole mindset has changed a lot in the last couple of days - there's so many of you out there who are proud to be homemakers, for whatever reason. I am starting to feel that I won't be alone if I'm at home all day while all my friends are out at work, and I've already had so many great ideas (on the other thread I started yesterday) about how to organise my time if I've no job to go to.

To cut a long story short (for those who didn't see the other thread), I'm an English Language teacher but have long-term mental health problems and am struggling to find a job with a small number of hours - most employers want you to teach a minimum of 15 hours a week which amounts to 30 hours plus with the preparation and marking. I just can't do it any more - I resigned from my last job when Evil Boss refused to let me drop from 20 hours to 15! I was a complete wreck. I've been working as a temporary supply teacher at a different school for the last three weeks, with one more week to go, but I'm finding it hard there too, simply because of the number of hours - if a teacher is off sick/on holiday, they want the supply teacher to cover ALL that teacher's classes, not just 10 hours a week.

So... at 47, having studied for an MA and the gruelling Diploma in TESOL in the last four years, I was feeling overwhelmed at my lack of choice - job to job to job with breakdowns inbetween, or nothing. However, if I can calmly accept being at home for as long as it takes, I can build up the right sort of life to recover my mental health, and if the right VERY part-time teaching job comes up, I'll be able to do it. If not, I'll be happy at home.

I'm so looking forward to hearing about everyone's situations and plans. Shall I make a list on the first post of all the members?

Cheapskate

Can I join, too, please, even though I do work a LITTLE bit?

Where are we going to be?

A xo

lessonlearned

May I join in please?

Cheapskate

Er - just posted on this thread, then THIS one appeared - I'm rather confused now!!

If this is the 'real' thread, please can I be a member, too?

A xo

juliapenguin

sb88 wrote: »

I have the utmost respect for women (and men) who chose to be a homemaker.

I need to learn from you :A

scottishminnie

juliapenguin wrote: »

Hooray Mrs Tittlemouse - you found me!

I feel like my whole mindset has changed a lot in the last couple of days - there's so many of you out there who are proud to be homemakers, for whatever reason. I am starting to feel that I won't be alone if I'm at home all day while all my friends are out at work, and I've already had so many great ideas (on the other thread I started yesterday) about how to organise my time if I've no job to go to.

To cut a long story short (for those who didn't see the other thread), I'm an English Language teacher but have long-term mental health problems and am struggling to find a job with a small number of hours - most employers want you to teach a minimum of 15 hours a week which amounts to 30 hours plus with the preparation and marking. I just can't do it any more - I resigned from my last job when Evil Boss refused to let me drop from 20 hours to 15! I was a complete wreck. I've been working as a temporary supply teacher at a different school for the last three weeks, with one more week to go, but I'm finding it hard there too, simply because of the number of hours - if a teacher is off sick/on holiday, they want the supply teacher to cover ALL that teacher's classes, not just 10 hours a week.

So... at 47, having studied for an MA and the gruelling Diploma in TESOL in the last four years, I was feeling overwhelmed at my lack of choice - job to job to job with breakdowns inbetween, or nothing. However, if I can calmly accept being at home for as long as it takes, I can build up the right sort of life to recover my mental health, and if the right VERY part-time teaching job comes up, I'll be able to do it. If not, I'll be happy at home.

I'm so looking forward to hearing about everyone's situations and plans. Shall I make a list on the first post of all the members?

Julia

I'm not planning on being a full time homemaker anytime soon (love the job to bits now) so won't be joining you on the thread but just wanted to wish you good luck and good health.I'll probably lurk, read and generally be nosy though!


It's a shame that the authorities can't recognise the wealth of experience and knowledge they are missing out on by refusing to be flexible with people who, for whatever reason, wish to work less hours however no job is ever worth risking your health for (sadly I've been there and won't ever make the same mistake again).

Good luck to you all!

Mayflower10cat

I didn't see another similar thread- but please can I join the party here?!!!

juliapenguin

scottishminnie wrote: »

It's a shame that the authorities can't recognise the wealth of experience and knowledge they are missing out on by refusing to be flexible with people who, for whatever reason, wish to work less hours however no job is ever worth risking your health for (sadly I've been there and won't ever make the same mistake again).

Good luck to you all!

Thank you. I can't understand it either. Apparently lots and lots of the students have complained about the way I was treated, and have told Evil Boss that I was the best teacher they ever had.... It hasn't made any difference at all :mad:

However, I'm going to see it all as a blessing in disguise, because I need to learn to be peacefully at home for a while so that I don't make the wrong decision about another job. My confidence is at rock bottom (always is when I'm at this stage of breakdown) and I undervalue myself and my abilities.

juliapenguin

Hovel_lady wrote: »

Have posted on the other thread - if it doesn't get added to this on I'll repost the details again later.
Can I join please?

Found you!