Trying for a Baby Part 7

vesper

2013 sounds like a good baby year, yup defintely I like the idea of that. Defintely better than smelly 2012, it's soooooooo last season.

Currently slobbing on the sofa as have been at my work since 930 this morning, we had a works day there trying to get ready for summer. So have got a hour at home then head on back there for my proper evening shift.
Although rather happy as one of the ladies there gave me her old Kenwood Chef. It may be old, but I've been after one for ages but they are so expensive. Can't wait to play with it next week and make some cakes and bread.

tattoo-

Does anybody take soy? Is it worth a go? Ive just been reading up on it, interesting

butterfly72

Evening all. Thought I'd come on and give an update. I dont post on here often, mainly because i feel i dont have much to offer!

I'm actually on cd11 but we havent BDed this time. My OH, who took a lot of persueding to start trying in the first place, had a freak out when i was two days late coming on my period. He became really down and declared that he actually didnt want children. He couldnt rule out wanting them in the future but not now. At 40 I hardly have time to wait. However, i've always said that if it didnt happen for me, then so be it. I can and do fill my life with other things.

So here i am. Do i say, ok thats it then and move on, do i leave and find another way to get pregnant, or do i persist with my OH? (our relationship is great btw). I dont want to wake up in five years and realise that i made the wrong chioce and it really is too late for me. I cant help feeling i'll have that empty regret one day.:(

tattoo-

Butterfly- big hugs to you x

I guess it depends how much you want a baby and how much time you have left. I would always wonder what if. If my OH didnt want children I would have seriously considered ending it and moving on and try and find someone else who wanted the same as me. How long is a piece of string? How long would it take to move on, find someone who wants the same as you. You OH cant keep you hanging on by saying he may or may not change his mind - it might be too late then.

I have read stories on here about women leaving their husbands for the exact same reason and then the husband has realised it is actually what he wants.

mlbarrett

Aida wrote: »

mlbarrett Free wine...hmmm. Just hang in there. How long is your LP?

AF is due tomorrow according to FF and I'm starting to feel the cramps rolling in. I fell down the stairs earlier which probably didn't help.
I was naughty and did have a little tipple (to try and numb my throat) so controlled myself and didn't make full use of the free wine.

mlbarrett

QQuaver wrote: »

mlbarrett, welcome back:wave: Whereabouts in Ireland did you go?

Hey QQ!

Went to Dublin for a conference. Managed to get a bit of sightseeing done on Sunday before spending the rest of the time in the hotel listening to presentations.

Thanks for updating my FF/user info - really feel like AF is coming so hopefully I'll get to grips with the FF temp monitoring properly next month.

MLB

mlbarrett

Just caught up with the last few pages having not had the time over the past week. In a way, I feel bad that my life seems pretty easy compared to many of you and that I must send my best wishes to you.

I'll probably be back tomorrow/Sunday to confirm CD1 so signing off as I still feel pretty carp despite being able to swallow without throat pain.

morocha

I am so sad today, a good friend from school has told me she has suffered her second miscarriage in 6 years, she has been trying to have a child for this long and it is not happening for them. She is 28. I am so sad today for her.

zcrat41

That's really sad morocha - I hope you can be there for her.

Butterfly72 - what a difficult one! Can you get to the bottom of why oh doesn't want kids? If it's something that can be reassured about (money, living up to his father) then you could work on it. Maybe not if its something else though. It's ok for the men, they have choice and have a good few more years of possbility. I'd find it hard to forget I don't have that choice. Good luck.

AFM - CD 7 and gearing up for this months ov. OH and I are going to try for every other day this month rather than every day over peak on CBFM - we get a bit "overdone"! I worked out that over the last 3 months my 1st peak on CBFM has gone back by a day each month. If I add a day and make OV on day 2 peak then my LP has been exactly 12 days each month. Fascinating stuff for me but probably not for anyone else, just felt like sharing!

Got all my summer clothes out last night and none of them fit. Well, the slightly bigger sizes do! So as soon as tomorrows family lunch is out the way it's back to WW for me.

What's everyone doing today?

TTC40

Butterfly, how long have you been together. Have you always planned kids 'one day'. I didn't want any and then changed my mind at 40 - oh is 5 years older. We both get a bit daunted if we think about the impact on our life - could this be it? Is he comfortable around kids.