Depression

queensway_boy

_Kate_ wrote: »

Just found this part of the forum

I have been feeling "down" for a few months now and it doesn't seem to getting any better. I'm not sure if it's depression or not....When i look at a list of symptoms i tick nearly every one!! but the things that make me sad/angry are mostly things out of my control.

Have been thinking about going to the doctors for a while but as i said previously i'm not sure what medication will do....will it just make things seem easier to deal with?

I would appreciate any advice/support from people who are/have been in the same position.

Thanks alot
Kate

Welcome to the thread Kate,firsts step is the doctors to talk to him/her and medications can and do work but sometimes you have to change them a few times to get the right ones,also they don't work overnight,give them at least 2 month i say maybe 3,let them get in your system properly before going back to change them if neccessary,but always go back to docs straight away to tell them of any concerns.One step at a time Kate,so docs first then take it from there is my advice.Maybe write your symptoms down etc to take to docs just in case you forget to tell them something.Other,more cleverer peeps on this thread will be here in next 24 hours or so who can give you far better advice than me,good luck and take care.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello: guys!

Tiff, (((HUGS))) Congrats on losing weight :T well done you! That's really good news and you've joined a gym too :T The gym sounds nice and friendly. Hopefully you will enjoy going there. I was very scared when I first joined the gym but after a while you get used to going and seeing the same people each week. Anyway, WELL DONE TIFF!

The Sister-in-law sounds evil :eek: how rude and insensitive of her! :mad: Sounds like she needs to learn to think before she opens her mouth. I know it's easier said than done but you have to try and ignore the horrible comments otherwise it will just cause more upset. (((HUGS))) I hate to think of people being nasty to you Tiff because you are such a sweet and caring person and don't deserve it. You're going to look amazing on the day hun. You're beautiful anyway. Perhaps she's just jealous.

When will you get the results from the tests?

:hello: patchwork cat, (((HUGS))) Sounds like you've been having a tough time of it recently. You are very welcome here hun. Sometimes it just helps to write things down and 'tell someone' what's been happening. It can help to free your mind of worry.

flis21, How are you hun? Your holiday sounds great. I bet you can't wait. It will probably do you the world of good to get away and relax for a couple of weeks. Sounds like you got a good deal on the holiday too

What did you see at the theatre?

cifpower, I think a lot of us have days where we just want to be left alone. Perhaps it's part of depression. If they are true friends they will hopefully understand and stand by you.

Ethel, :hello: how are you? Are you coping OK? How is your daughter?

Karrie, You sound like you're suffering big time atm. You may have already answered this question so I apologise for asking if you have but are you currently on medication? Do you see som kind of counsellor? Either way, you shouldn't be feeling the way you do atm. You definately need to see your Doctor. Perhaps it's work making you feel this way. How are things at work?

If you feel that things are not working out with your partner then you need to sit down and talk with him and see if you can overcome the problems. I'm sure his life wouldn't be better without you hun. That is most cetainly the depression talking.

Sounds like talking to the boys Mum was the right thing to do. Hopefully they won't continue to bully your son.

Kate Welcome to MSE and the depression thread.

Going to see the Doctor for the first time when you're feeling down is quite scary as you don't know quite what he/she will say. It seems to be that they offer medication alongside some form of talk therapy. For many antidepressants have helped a lot but it's important to remember that medication is not a cure for depression and it only treats the symptoms associated with it.

A big HELLO and HUG to everyone else...

Karrie

geminilady wrote: »

Hi Karrie,Sorry you are fealing so bad at the moment try and hold on to the fact that it WILL get better you just need time for the meds to kick in,when you go to the doctors don't forget to mention the side effects you have been having and if you feel unable to work tell him.The nightmares could possibly be a side effect too so mention them to your doctor.It sometimes helps to write things down so you don't forget.If your partner loves you,which i am sure he does how would his life be easier if you broke up with him?If we love someone we are there for them through the ups and downs.Do not say you have failed your son! that is the depression talking from what i can see you are a great mum.Well done for sorting out the bullies at least their mum made them apolagise and hopefully they won't do it again.I think you coped very well considering how ill you are fealing so be proud of yourself.

Hi GL. Thank you for your reply. You are right, it helps so much to write things down. I always feel slightly better for doing so. It only takes a reply like yours to make my head realise that I am ill. You know, I've even started writing a diary for my son incase something happens to me and I want my son to have something to remember me by!! How ridiculous is that? How can I even consider not being around for my son?

I will mention the side affects to my gp. Amitryptiline never gave me any side affects apart from a dry mouth.

Karrie

razorbladekisses wrote: »

:hello: guys!


Karrie, You sound like you're suffering big time atm. You may have already answered this question so I apologise for asking if you have but are you currently on medication? Do you see som kind of counsellor? Either way, you shouldn't be feeling the way you do atm. You definately need to see your Doctor. Perhaps it's work making you feel this way. How are things at work?

If you feel that things are not working out with your partner then you need to sit down and talk with him and see if you can overcome the problems. I'm sure his life wouldn't be better without you hun. That is most cetainly the depression talking.

Sounds like talking to the boys Mum was the right thing to do. Hopefully they won't continue to bully your son.


Hi RBK - love your name btw. Thank you for your reply. I had counselling many years ago when I was disagnosed with PND. I have suffered depression on and off ever since. This is the worst it has been since the PND. The doc asked me if I can think of anything that could have triggered it, and to be honest, I can't. The bullying has been going on for a few years, I am going to a school appeal for a place at a school for my son and I could be make redundant at the end of August. I can honestly say that I wouldn't have thought any of those would have brought on my depression to this extent. It's just something that I live with. My partner adores me but he doesn't understand depression. He's very supportive (we don't live together). I just feel he would be better off without me in his life at the minute.

Karrie

_Kate_ wrote: »

Just found this part of the forum

I have been feeling "down" for a few months now and it doesn't seem to getting any better. I'm not sure if it's depression or not....When i look at a list of symptoms i tick nearly every one!! but the things that make me sad/angry are mostly things out of my control.

Have been thinking about going to the doctors for a while but as i said previously i'm not sure what medication will do....will it just make things seem easier to deal with?

I would appreciate any advice/support from people who are/have been in the same position.

Thanks alot
Kate

Hi Kate - welcome :wave:

I would recommend that you go to the docs as soon as possible.

I guarantee you will gets lots of support from the wonderful people on this board. We're all in the same boat and will steer you in the right direction.

Hope you feel better soon.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

So what's been happening with me lately...well I'm still working full time which seems to take up most of my time. However, I do love my job and consider myself lucky that I was able to return. I'm still going to the gym a few times a week. I love going to the gym :j it's great, especially after doing a days work.

My ex whom I broke up with last week was nasty to me the other day. He sent me a text message on Wed/Thurs(?) telling me how he had met someone last Saturday and how they got on amazingly well. Now, I'm happy for him to meet new people but I just don't want to be told about it. It's cruel and upsetting. Also on the Monday evening (considering he met her on Sat) he was still trying to get back with me! :mad: Anyway, I guess it's for the best that we broke up. He didn't care about me anyway and was always busy with his friends to see me. A big thank you to Rosie for being there for me the other day and cheering me up. She's a great girl

My other ex who still owes me money :mad: I am in the process of taking him to court. I'm now at the stage ready to issue a warrant. I just need £55 in order to do so. He's another loser. I really hate men atm.

A friend from work retired last month but the leaving thing wasn't arranged until April. So last night we all went out for a meal. Normally I would have been far too scared to go and made up some excuse. This time though I went YAY :j I was very nervous and anxious prior to going and took a few anxiety pills which did seem to help. I feel proud of myself. I did have a good time though. It was a lovely restaurant and the food was yummy. I am very fussy with food and usually avoid eating out in public (it's a huge fear) but I did it :j

Love to you all xxx

Karrie

razorbladekisses wrote: »

My ex whom I broke up with last week was nasty to me the other day. He sent me a text message on Wed/Thurs(?) telling me how he had met someone last Saturday and how they got on amazingly well. Now, I'm happy for him to meet new people but I just don't want to be told about it. It's cruel and upsetting. Also on the Monday evening (considering he met her on Sat) he was still trying to get back with me! :mad: Anyway, I guess it's for the best that we broke up. He didn't care about me anyway and was always busy with his friends to see me.

The only reason I can that he would text you to tell you this, is to try and make you jealous! Rise above it. You're worth more than that

Karrie

razorbladekisses wrote: »

My ex whom I broke up with last week was nasty to me the other day. He sent me a text message on Wed/Thurs(?) telling me how he had met someone last Saturday and how they got on amazingly well. Now, I'm happy for him to meet new people but I just don't want to be told about it. It's cruel and upsetting. Also on the Monday evening (considering he met her on Sat) he was still trying to get back with me! :mad: Anyway, I guess it's for the best that we broke up. He didn't care about me anyway and was always busy with his friends to see me.

The only reason I can think that he would text you to tell you this, is to try and make you jealous! Rise above it. You're worth more than that

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Karrie, It's quite likely that your son being bullied could have brought about your depression again. I'm guessing that as a Mother if your child is hurting then so are you. Although you aren't the one being bullied directly, you're still seeing your son experience it.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Thank you Karrie I know you are right. It's just upsetting. He knows what I've been through the last few months. It just seems like it's not enough for him and he's set on ruining my life.