Depression

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello learning_to_drive, Sounds like you've had a good weekend

Awww you do so well looking after your gf and her baby

Glad to hear that the whole football situation has been sorted. You're sounding much happier now when talking about football. Well done on winning :T

rose07

Hi everyone

I hope you all have had a good weekend

realised today i have an appointment tomorrow well guess its today now :rotfl:

i have to go for a pre clerk appointment ECGs and the like before the op, and im soo not in the mood atm, to go through all that, i hate hospitals, i am a very bad patient, and i just dont want to be poked and prodded for 3 hours :eek: .

Also at the unit at 9, so guess i should go to bed, appointments at 230pm, but im tryin to think of questions i should ask, as i have no idea what to expect, ah ha, there one, what to expect? Lots of positive vibes and hugs please

well i hope you all have a good week

And saz its great to see ya about, was starting to wonder where you were.

RBK, Tiff, Carol, Matt (welcome), Blinky, Ethel, LRS, LTD, Gillette, Stenny, lewt, et all, much love and huggles xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Hello Rose, How are you? I've missed chatting with you today.

with your appointment tomorrow hun. I'll be thinking of you.

Here you go Rose

I have an appointment tomorrow with a SHO at the hospital :eek: *scared*

xXx

Tiff_2

Hi Matt!
Well done for posting hun - you're more than welcome here. People on this thread will give you good honest info in a friendly, non-judgemental way - they're brilliant.:T
Let's see if we can break this down into bite size pieces hun.;)
quote=matt1234;Hello all, I've just discovered this site and I am feeling so glad to have found this thread!! ......
Hi, my world is kinda falling apart and I seriously need some help/advice.
Before I go on angel, I'd just like to say that there are usually answers to everything. Whether we hear them or see them is another matter.

Recently I've been feeling very depressed about a number of things. Following outstanding GCSE results I went on to do my AS and A2 exams and all was well. However, on results day last year (Final A2 results) I got a major blow because I totally messed up one of my subjects where I was expecting to do extremely well. It meant that I lost my uni place (which I had worked extremely hard for to get it in the 1st place) and I felt miserable.
I think you'd be surprised hun at how many young people in higher education have mental ill health - we even have some on the thread. It's a very stessful area and it's understandable for people who have problems there.
Right, so your GCSE exams were very good.:T Nothing has changed that matt.;) You're obviously intelligent and after all your hard work, I can understand why you were so upset with your AS results. Is there any chance of a re-sit hun? Also at many locations, there's a counsellor on campus who you can talk to confidentially and who will have the educational experience as to your next options.

After many months, the feeling low etc still hasnt't diappeared and I'm starting to act differently...I can see that myself. My parents are getting extremely worried about me and called my GP to my house today. I had no idead about this intended visit so I was just !!!!ed off with them. I refused to speak to them cos they think I have got MENTAL HEALTH problems
Matt, you've got insight into knowing you have a problem which is a good thing hun. You know you have some kind of problem so now try and accept that you can get some kind of discreet and confidential help. One thing I'd suggest to you is to remember that they are your parents, they love you and they can see you struggling as you said, and they just want to get as much advice and support for you to help you. No-one wants to hurt you hun.

Hun, there's no shame in having mental ill health. I get the feeling that you're very scared of this label matt - quite natural hun. It is scary until you know that help is there for you and that it can be temporary or long term and that many people lead 'normal' lives. For any other physical illness, you'd agree to the help offered and it's the same for mental ill health. Nobody wants to have depression or any mental ill health angel and it doesn't make you into a monster of any kind.;) The numbers for people having some illness of this kind seem to be shrinking from one in four people to one in three. It is very common.

I can understand why you felt angry with your parents hun for calling the gp to come out without telling you. But, if they had told you, would you have stayed around to speak to the dr? Imho, I don't think you would have probably. It must have been frightening for you. A lot of anger comes from fear matt. Your gp can get you all kinds of help and support angel and is on your side.

I'll be the first to admit that I am actually feeling low and depressed...but for my parents to think there is something mentally wrong with me is just scaring me!
Ok hun, as I said you're afraid which is completely natural.
I mean this respectfully hun ok?;) If you admit that you're low and depressed, then you're admitting that there is a mental ill health issue. It's different to just feeling moody and low, which happens to everyone. There is treatment for it hun. You seem so afraid angel. As they say, there's nothing to fear except fear itself. I hope deep down that you know your parents love you and are trying to help, even if it doesn't feel like it now.

My GP attempted to talk to me but I locked myself in my room. Then I went to the stairs and over heard them speaking about me (GP and my parents that is). He was brainwashing them about how I'm going to get violent and how I'm going to get sucked into depression. Btw, this is a new GP and I have NEVER met him before - we moved house recently.
Matt hun, it's ok honestly. You'll find that sometimes the people who are around us the most have a better perspective on how we are, than we do. Something must have made them worried enough to call the GP angel.

I can feel your panic but honestly hun, any mental health professional you come across will have seen it all before and they're very nice and kind and it is all confidential.
I'm sure it must have felt like he was brainwashing them matt, but that's not realistic is it angel, if you're honest? They'd have no reason to do that sweetheart.

So this GP was talking to my parents for at least a good 30mins...the stuff he was coming out with just made my blood boil...as if I was some psycho who was about to go out on the streets and kill random people
If you'd stayed and spoken to the gp matt, maybe he could have explained it to you. No gp or professional should ever say that sort of thing in that way either and they can be reported for it.

Now this is where I am just stuck. As my GP he is legally allowed to do stuff without my consent apparently. I am not 100% sure about what he said but I heard something like "we'll do this against his will...I'll get in touch with the social services and refer him to something?" I am just scared of just how much he can do without my consent! He must have mentioned the mental act health at least a dozen times and now I am just freaked out that they're gonna put me in a mental home or something
It's all panic and fear for you hun isn't it? Bless you, I wish I could make you feel better now.

As I said hun, there is lots of different kinds of help for you. It isn't a threat angel - it's help. As with other things, yes they can do some things if enough evidence exists that you have health issues that need help under the mental health act.

What you can do matt is ask for a Mental Health Advocate, who will represent and advise you free of charge and who will know what can and can't be done. They are available in every area through the NHS.

May I suggest something hun? Try to listen to what the drs say and look as it as help and not jail or a punishment.
If you can try and see different points of view hun and think about accepting help voluntarily if they suggest it, it'll be much less stressful.

Can I just say that appearance wise I am no psycho...very well spoken, sociable and outgoing person....it's just recently I've been very "off" with my family.
No hun, none of us are 'psychos'. That is very rare. If you have depression it doesn't mean you're barking mad angel. A lot of us on here have depression or other mental ill health issues and the people I've seen on here are sensitive, intelligent people and if you saw them at work, college or in the street, you'd never know. Most people associate axe murderers and being locked away forever :rolleyes: ,with mental ill health, but that's not the way it is at all. This misconception is probably why you're in such a panic now hun. For example, in the mental health services, you are not a patient, you are a client. They have very strict rules on how they should look after people.

This is where I ask for help I guess. I'm not sure what I'm after really Perhaps someone with legal knowledge here could advise me as to what right I have against being forced to be mentally treated?? My GP (whom I have never met as I mentioned) is going use the mental health act to treat me in a hospital I think...against my will....cos I certainly don't think I'm going mental.
More than one professional has to assess you for that to happen I believe hun. The panic you feel is because it's all an unknown situation and we all feel like that at first. But try and look at what they may suggest as being the first step on to your recovery, whatever problem you may have. As I said, a Mental Health Advocate can be seen for free and they are available at any clinic if you ask for an appointment with one. They can help you appeal against a mental health act issue and give you other information.

Something that's really important matt, is that you stay to listen to what the dr suggests. That way you'll get all the options and not snatches of conversation hun. Mental health people are very keen on involving you in making decisions with them, not leaving you out of it at all.
Any help would be HIGHLY appreciated. Thanks. :money:

(I had a lot of emotions on my post but none of them got copied )

Btw, please go easy on me...I'm only 18
Bless you matt - we're very nice people here, we wouldn't have a go at you. Imho angel, what you're saying is that yes, you have a problem of some kind and so surely it's just common sense to get help to make things better?

I'm sure you'll find all this hard to take in matt because you're so very upset. But please hun, don't be afraid, be completely honest about how you're feeling to the dr. That's the only way to feel better angel. If they don't know the whole situation or how you're feeling hun, then they can't give you the right help.

I know you don't want to be in this position angel, no-one does, and you'll find it happens to people your age and older and younger.

Come here as much as you want hun. There's always people passing through every few couple of hours or so. But please sweetheart, remember people love you, are very discreet and that you should try to be as calm as you can, so that you can listen to what's being said and be in the best frame of mind to make decisions.
The ancient ideas of mental health asylums are so untrue hun and there's been so many advances. If you're offered help hun, take it please. People are fighting for you, not against you hun.;)
Take care and keep us posted matt hun. Sorry this was such a long post and I hope I've been able to help in some small way. I'll be thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

EthelBloggs

Mornin Tiffster :hello:

learning_to_drive

Hi tiff, a lovely post Morning to the rest of the gang, hope we are all well

EthelBloggs

Mornin LTD :wave:

I'm good ta.. bit chuffed in fact.. the cleaner just arrived and said I look very young today Not sure if it's the hair or all the pampering I did to meself yesterday but it made my day :j :j

Horasio

Went to bed earlier and woke too early.

Made my dinner in the slow cooker which smells good.

I feel so tired and it is bringing me down - it has been over 9 weeks now and I am feelin exhausted. I will try and nap later.

I feel so confused. One minute my mother says she wants to wash her hands of our son for being such a pillock - we have tried all approaches and he left two weeks ago. As far as I know, he hasn't got a job. My mother is trying to make me feel guilty - WE DIDN'T THROW HIM OUT!! He left of his own accord. He was treating us ALL badly, not caring how his comings and goings got us down by waking us up or keeping us up because we needed to talk to him - this is one reason I had trouble sleeping. And the spending of his money recklessly.

We all tried to bring him up properly, sent him to the best school we could afford for his senior years, as he was bullied in the state primary schools, gave him driving lessons and a basic car for birthday/Christmas. He was a nice helpful person and did earn these treats, so was not spoilt, he seemed to appreciate it but in the last 2-3 years, he has been horrible to us and he was depressing me. I felt a sense of relief till my mother started going on about him - I don't need her being like this when I have other things on my mind.

My OH says he isn't going to be soft but my mother says he will slip him money on the sly - I feel she is trying to stir things again. She can never let me stay happy. I have felt so unsettled since Saturday since talking to her.

I have enough on my plate getting this place sold and wondering what next but she is putting me off going down south but is my OH being nice because I will be able to leave but then go horrible if I decide to stay? We are still getting a place that leaves enough for another place tho' for a variety of reasons.

The car isn't ready either - we have paid a deposit on 17 March and promised it by April 1, now they say I can cancel after 13 April (one month) but I am wanting my car. Why is everything such a drag?

flis21

What is happening to MSE. This is the first time I have not wanted to post on this board for fear of what response I might get. Another thread i read regularly on here is having the same things. I thought we were here to help and support each other. I am obviously wrong. Feel really upset. Might not be around for a while. Maybe things will improve.

Horasio

matt1234 wrote: »

And I'll post the message up on my account now



Hi, thanks for the 2 very kind responses. I certainly don't have any history of depression...I mean I'm only 18....I go to a Grammar school....get excellent results....have lot of nice friends etc....it's just that the loss of my uni place really hit me hard. I took it so badly....(it was a top 5 uni so I'm sure you can understand). I've now secured a very good offer at a top 3 uni...rejected by Oxford after interview but what the heck Anyway, I certain'y feel I'm on my way back....I just don't talk to my parents as much as I used to...I spend a lot of time on the net...they think I'm an internet addict :rolleyes:

I don't mind seeking help....I mean it can only be of benefit right? It's just the way this has happened to me today...just ridiuculous. Then hearing a person I have never met before talking about me as some kind of lunatic just got on my nerves....now he has all these rights to do stuff...I just feel powerless.

Btw, I mentioned I also posted on another forum....perhas some of you may be interested to follow my thread over there as well:

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=370840

I wouldn't worry about being rejected by Oxford - they are off this planet anyway:D

Yes I did goto Oxford and I lived in Oxford for 20 years before coming up to Scotland!

Edinburgh is far nicer:)