Depression

Sazbo

Good evening my lovlies :hello: Apologies for my recent scarcity... don't really have a good excuse, been feeling a bit weird moodwise, think i just needed a timeout. Also work's been hellish. And Tiff's been on at me about the hat fund and neglecting my smartie cupboard shifts But I have, hopefully, a quiet weekend ahead, so will be around some more.

And it's just as well really - jeez, i turn my back for 5 minutes and suddenly you're all talking about underwear... or the lack of! :rolleyes: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Much love to you all,
Sazzyxxxxxx

Let_Robinson_Sing

Tiff wrote: »

Hi lrs!:hello:
Hope you're ok hun - that must have been an awful shock for you! As you say thankfully, it wasn't a lot worse.:T

Life can be such a delicate thread imo. I always tell my son every night that I love him and when he leaves for his college journeys every day. This Tiff learned a long time ago not to take anything for granted. :rolleyes:
Take some time out and have some relaxation hun or some fun. Just take it easy for a couple of days ok?;) It was a nasty start to your day hun so take some time for yourself.
Bless you for thinking of everyone here angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

yeah if it was me travelling on my moped i guess the emergency services woulld have been scraping me up from the road because of the accident I had to send a message to my OH to tell her how much i love her and to becareful. I've spoken to an insurance company who represent the guy who wasnt at fault and they are sending me a witness statement.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

:hello:

Tiff, You're consultant for your arthritis sounds a little uhm odd. Does she ever offer any other advice? Hope she prescribes you with powerful painkillers. I can't imagine how it must be for you to be in pain all over your body. Is it like that everyday?

I set my alarm for 8:00am this morning. I had planned to shower and get dressed. However, I fell asleep after turning my alarm off. I woke up at about 11:00 and did shower and get dressed so that was OK I think you're right. I need to make a timetable so that my day has structure.

I received a call today from a social worker who will be dealing with my care. I have an appointment to see her on Tuesday of next week.

However much I hated being in hospital I find myself really missing the support. There was always people available to talk to but now I'm no longer there I don't have anyone.

I know that life is short. I just struggle to find any purpose in life. I don't feel I fit in. I can't make friends or maintain relationships with boyfriends which is a huge and important part of life. Why is it such a struggle? I feel totally stupid being the way I am.

Anyway Tiff, enough about me. How are you? You reply in great length to all of us but very rarely tell us what's going on in Tiff world? I don't mean to pry or anything, I just care.

How is your son?

flis21, I don't really have anyone whom I can confide in about things. Basically keep it to myself. I know my parents care but I can't talk to them.

That's really bad that you've been waiting over a year for a CPN or someone to come out to your house. Have you contacted them about it? Don't fight this alone hun. Try to get all the help and support that's available (even if it does mean chasing them numerous times).

How is your ankle? Are you still in a lot of pain? I bet it's lovely to have that cast off much more freedom. Do you have any idea when you will be allowed to go back to the gym? I forgot to ask, how did you break your ankle in the first place?

Glad to hear you've started the bankruptcy process. I know it must seem very daunting but it's a positive move. How do you feel about it?

How was the cinema? Hope you had a lovely time with your Mum.

Those non-paying bidders on eBay are a pain in the !!!! Keep sending them reminders.

Ethel, Hun you must have been exhausted to have slept the whole afternoon. Did you feel better afterwards?

It's a shame that you're unable to work atm because it would probably help you but it just isn't possible. You need to be there for your daughter which is more important. Have you ever thought about some kind of job that you could do from home? Not sure if they exist but you never know.

Hopefully your friend will contact you soon. He must realise how much stress you are under atm and you're likely to be more snappy. Perhaps he just wants some space. You never know with men though do you :rolleyes: they are a weird species.

It seems like your bf isn't helping the situation either. Probably best to ignore him until he is no longer in a mood. At least you will have a fairly peaceful weekend if he isn't going to be around.

elona, I don't think I've really spoken to you before so :hello:

I hope the funeral went OK.

beer2006, :hello: how are you doing? Thank you for your kind words, very sweet of you

Let_Robinson_Sing, It must have be awful to witness a car crash. I imagine it must have left you feeling a little shaken. How are you feeling now? Drive carefully!

Gillette, Thank you for your kind words. How are you? haven't seen you around much recently. Hope things are OK. (((HUGS))).

:hello: Karrie, I don't have any children myself so can't reallly offer you any useful advice. Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and (((HUGS)))

Oh hun you really must continue to take your anti-depressants until your Doctor tells you otherwise. It probably doesn't help keep stopping and starting. Maybe you could go back to your GP and explain how you're feeling and have a chat about things.

CCStar, Any luck with selling the house? How are things with you and your OH? Any improvements?

Rose, I know things are tough for you right now. Hang in there. We are all here for you. Thinking of you.

To everyone whom I haven't mentioned (((((((((HUGS))))))))) I hope you are all OK and looking after yourselves.

Horasio

All quiet just now - got a viewing next Friday morning from the people abroad.

Am going out tomorrow and being cautious with my OH - I have to be so careful I don't get hurt - it is no way to live. I need someone I can let my hair down with and not feel stupid being me or be inhibited to prevent being hurt.

It makes me so tense and I'm not having much of a good time, even when things are more relaxed.

He seems to put up a boringness which spoils things, he won't let his hair down and it has spoilt so many potentially happy times.

Shall see how it goes over the next few weeks if we have a chance, otherwise we can go our own way.

Horasio

Big hugs to everyone - sorry I'm unable to be more helpful just now, feel so tired and out of it.

Just need a few days off from the stress.

Tiff_2

gillette147 wrote: »

No offence to Carol, CC, etc. but kilts aren't my thing!!

Also I have to say......there is nothing less sexy than tartan sexy lingerie.
Also the sexiest lingerie IMO is none at all.

Hi gilly!:hello: lol,
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Sorry guys - can't resist it. And you would know about tartan lingerie how gilly badger?!...:D :eek:
Is that what was under your kilt?:p
Just teasing hun. Hoping you're well angel. Have a good day gilly.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

EthelBloggs wrote: »

Arrgggghhh :mad: :mad: :mad:

b/f has spent all afternoon trying to get an argument out of me cos he's not feeling well so he's grumpy. Cos I won't rise to it he's told me to forget I ever knew him or that he exists. I just says fair enough, have a good weekend, I think that's made him crosser!

At least he's not here this weekend, I can ignore the phone and text messages, it just really p1ssees me off :mad: :mad: :mad:

Hi ethel!:hello:
Don't be ticked off angel - you handled it perfectly.;) There's nothing more infuriating to someone who's trying to look for a fight, than to be ignored or agreed with. Totally destroys and confuses their logic!:T
At least you can't row with yourself this weekend angel!:D
Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi karrie!:hello:
How are you angel? When is the appeal re the school panel? Good luck hun.;)

quote=KarrieHi guys - hope you are all ok. Just wanted your opinion on something. I've been going downhill lately and every day has been a struggle. It's just been me and my son for over 9 years now. I have a partner but he has his own place.
Ok hun, before you go any further, what help are you getting yourself? Are you working or on benefits angel? Not prying hun - just want to check that you're getting all you're entitled too. You may even qualify for DLA. There is a benefits thread on the forum although I've not been there yet.
If you're struggling angel, please see dr and get the ball rolling for an assessment again.
If you get extra help hun, you may also want to consider maybe getting him in with the school counsellor.
Anyway, my son is at an age now where he notices that I am not well. I just want to sleep all the time. I have no energy and am very forgetful. He's 11 and I feel awful about it. Did any you guys with kids tell them about your depression? If so, what age did you tell them? If you didn't, why didn't you? My son is 11 and I really don't think he could deal with it. He's a worrier and would fret about it. I try very hard to hide it but lately it's been a real battle.
Yes angel, this is another one of those 'when do we talk about it?' questions. There's no set answer imho, because it depends on the child.
When you're a parent with depression, it brings on huge guilt trips. You feel bad because you feel it's unfair on the child. You may actually be surprised at what he has noticed or does know.

I don't think there's anything worse for a child than feeling he's being kept out of the loop. Children have wild imaginations and he could be thinking anything! Trust is important here hun. He may be relieved to know it's something probably less than he thinks it is. Only you know your child hun. If he frets easily karrie, he probably knows 'something' is wrong and may be worrying about it anyway.


With me, DS knew something was wrong and secretly resented the fact that I didn't trust him enough to deal with it. I by no means told him everything. I didn't want to burden him at such a young age with the knowledge of horrible depression. I wanted him to see all the posistives in life that he could, especially after all the bullying. He appreciated me telling him some things.

You have to remember too that YOU are the parent. Not many parents tell their children their personal stuff hun. I'd just give hme some general info. That's all he needs to know with him being so sensitive. Reassure him too that you're still mum and it changes nothing between you two.

It also depends on what you tell him and how. If it were me, I'd talk to him on one of my better days so he can see you relaxed.


Simply tell him that you have an illness that makes you very tired and forgetful but that it's nothing serious at all. This will make him feel included and will reassure him. You don't have to name the illness or tell him the causes or all the info on it. Sometimes it's best to let them get used to the idea and explain more when they're older. You don't want to scare him. Plus he's about to start senior school where the workload etc. on him will increase, hormones will be jumping all over the place so maybe at 11 he's got enough to deal with right now. Carry on using the back reason until he's very settled. If he asks, just tell him what you feel comfortable with.

If you go onto the MIND website angel, they have a fact sheet on being a parent with depression and one about being the child/family/friends of someone with depression that you can all download for free.
He's making big changes so you don't want to give him too much to take in right now hun.

It really is a tough call hun. But you will know when the time is right. If he's not worried now, I'd leave it a while as he's already trying to rebuild his conidence.
Oh and make sure it's a time when there's nothing to distract you both if you do talk.;)
Good luck angel - sorry for the length of this.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Sazbo wrote: »

Good evening my lovlies :hello: Apologies for my recent scarcity... don't really have a good excuse, been feeling a bit weird moodwise, think i just needed a timeout. Also work's been hellish. And Tiff's been on at me about the hat fund and neglecting my smartie cupboard shifts But I have, hopefully, a quiet weekend ahead, so will be around some more.

And it's just as well really - jeez, i turn my back for 5 minutes and suddenly you're all talking about underwear... or the lack of! :rolleyes: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Much love to you all,
Sazzyxxxxxx

Hey sazzy!:hello:
Welcome home hun!:A
I thought the talk of lingerie - or the lack of - would bring you running!:D :rotfl:
Ooooh angel, never say you've got a quiet weekend coming up :eek: - you'll now probably have the busiest one ever!:rotfl: :j
Good to see you back hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Karrie

Thanks Tiff. Where do you get all your wisdom from? Last night I was feeling !!!!!! and now I've just read your thread to me and I feel more positive. I will make an appt for docs on Monday morning.

I work full-time so it has been a real struggle. I am off to visit the MIND site now. Thanks for taking the time again - you've been a great help. :beer:

Hope you all have a relaxing weekend.