Depression

Pumpkin_Pie_5

I have CBT tomorrow and I haven't done my homework - I was supposed to get out every day this week but I've had such a boo week that I only went out on Friday - Stayed in the rest of the week... And now I'm panicking that he will be disappointed with me - exactly what he's trying to help me through!

I'm seriously thinking of cancelling this week but I can't go next week as I am going to be in london for at least a week, I had better go, hadn't I

Horasio

flis21 wrote: »

I mean it, what is the point. I hate my life. Nothing goes right for me. I hate the way I look, I have no friends, no social life, no money. Get hassled constantly by debt collection agenices. Had a letter from one this morning saying they are sending someone round to the house. Can't stand this anymore. Don't know what to do.

I am no expert on debt but can you not consolidate your debts into a lower payment?

((((Big hugs are all I can offer)))) - it sucks when your OH isn't nice either

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Flis hun (((HUGS))) don't give up. Keep fighting. When we hit rock bottom the only way is up. Things will get better. I'm in a very similar position to you as in no friends/social life. Creditors always hassling me. It sucks. However, you have already made positve steps. You've made the decision to file for bankruptcy. That can't have been easy at all but you were brave enough to do that.

You're feeling even more crap atm because of your ankle. When that heals you'll be more mobile and will be able to get out and about more easily.

Do you have goals that you want to achieve in life?

Don't give up!

(((HUGS)))

xxx

flis21

Yeah, I wanna have a baby, but can't do that while I am in this much debt, while I am this fat or while I am on anti-depressants. Sometimes wonder if it will ever happen!

EthelBloggs

flis21 wrote: »

Yeah, I wanna have a baby, but can't do that while I am in this much debt, while I am this fat or while I am on anti-depressants. Sometimes wonder if it will ever happen!

Flis.. work on the things you CAN change.. you've got your bankrupcy forms to do.. I know you said they're very stressful to fill out so just do bit by bit.. you want to lose a bit of weight.. make a start on that, cut out the bad stuff and drink lots of water as a starting point.. and then research what kind of eating plans there are and which one you think you would best be able to live with

A really good site is https://www.fitday.com you put all your info in, height, weight, what kinds of activities you do, what you've eaten and it calculates everything for you, calories needed, calories burned, etc etc - its a bit geared towards american foods but it's easy to customise and add british stuff too.

RBK is right.. you're probably feeling worse because of your ankle and once you've hit rock bottom, there is nowhere lower to go, only UP

Hope that helps a little bit xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

It might not happen right now but it will do.

Your debt problems you are sorting out.
You joined the gym but had to give up because of your ankle. You've already said you want to return when you are able to.

They are all positive things hun.

Try to think of some positive changes that you can make in the short term.

EthelBloggs

CCStar wrote: »

Yes give the counsellor a chance - some you will get on with.

I agree, he is constantly putting me down or trying to make me feel bad about things, albeit in a subtle minor way or saying ot outright. He blames his being overweight on me, blames why he's getting nowhere on me. I think he engineers this to happen, I get upset then he blames me. He can be very loving and nice, then he either withdraws when things seem nice or when I am low, he gets angry with me like I am doing it to upset him. It isn't nice writing this or coming to this conclusion and of course I stay with this for the nice bits, only to set myself up to getting hurt again and again.

He keeps saying he cares but when it gets to the crunch, he doesn't - it is all words and no action.

It has been doing my head in and with the people messing us around with the viewings I am getting sick of these jokers:mad:

Does anyone know a good letting agency for the whole of the UK?

Sorry you're having a crappy time of it CC

I think https://www.rightmove.co.uk do uk wide lettings, or else they'll link to someone that does

blinky

flis21 wrote: »

I mean it, what is the point. I hate my life. Nothing goes right for me. I hate the way I look, I have no friends, no social life, no money. Get hassled constantly by debt collection agenices. Had a letter from one this morning saying they are sending someone round to the house. Can't stand this anymore. Don't know what to do.

Hang in there. It will get better - it just takes time hun. It may still be crappy along the way

Horasio

Why do some people who have a hard approach to life have no empathy for others?

Cat72

Hi there . I thought I would pop in and say a quick high there as Im pretty tired and need to rest.

Originally Posted by flis21
I mean it, what is the point. I hate my life. Nothing goes right for me. I hate the way I look, I have no friends, no social life, no money. Get hassled constantly by debt collection agenices. Had a letter from one this morning saying they are sending someone round to the house. Can't stand this anymore. Don't know what to do.

I havent read all your threads flis21 , so please excuse me if I get this wrong. I used to be so far in debt I used to pray not to wake up in the moring. I was terrified to open my mail and just used to hide it in drawers incase it was bills.And it usaully was. I was terrified to answer the phone incase it was debt agencys and couldnt answer my door .Every time i moved their seem to be another demand or warrant letter and it made me sick & terrified. The best thing that happend was I was forced into bankruptacy which I dreaded .I cried constantily for a week before it happend and begged, and begged to try to stop it. But I was declared bankrupt 6 years ago and when it happend a huge weight lifted from me. In hindsight it was the best thing that could happen to me at the time and me trying to fight it just made me ill- mentally & physically. Debts need to be sorted and once you face them it starts to get better- get good advise and if part of that advice is bankruptacy I would seriousily think about. As really the only think that matters is your health- to the debtors your just a number ( who they are insured for ) but really your the most valuable person in the world and you deserve better . Good luck it takes small steps but its worth it.