Depression

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hi miro!:wave:
Saz is right angel (hate to admit it!:D ) it'll take time. No-one expects you to go out on the prowl now hun. You have to concentrate on feeling better about yourself angel, on getting better for your own sake. Even though you say you feel 70, (I know a foxy 69 tear old miro! Hey, Mum...), time and developing your confidence and self-esteem will refresh your energy hun.;)
Nah Saz - don't believe it hun - he burned that cheese deliberately!:D
Have a good day hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff :wave:

Tell your mother she's pulled

I know I have to feel better about myself and being up all night with a lump in my mouth isn't helping right now Emergency dentist at 11.20 :eek:

I meant to cook the cheese to it's max to bring out it's max flavour

Did I read something about smarties and placebo's inbetween my taking of painkillers and screams of agony? :eek:

I'm gonna need smarties for being a good boy and going to the dentist :eek:

beer2006

Miroslav wrote:

I honestly believe i'll never be happy. I really have nothing the modern day lady would want. I guess i've met very few ladies who want love and companionship as opposed to all the material things.

Well they are out there, maybe you are looking in the wrong place Miro. In my (very lowly) opinion, almost all women are more worried about love than objects to own, never go for one more interested in your car than you.

I agree with blinky perfectly (and also I'm short and fat ) you will find it when you are least expecting it. Also you're hardly over the hill.
Either don't look so hard for love and it will just fall into place, or look but don't expect too much......... and it will fall into place. Make friends with women instead of looking for love.
I think Shilpa is single still, very very pretty............ but extremely fake, from the interviews I've seen of her.

You're at that stage where you think you will never be happy again, we've all been there, I have to tell you, you will, very first day of love with your new, yet unmet love and this will all be as a dream.

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

Yes, you will it just feels like you won't at the moment.

Not exactly Brad Pitt either, too short and too fat for a start
Most people over 30 will have some baggage.
Time is not running out - I'm only 34

Rose - Great to hear from you. :j I have been thinking of you but wasn't sure if you were away somewhere.

CCStar - selling houses is stressful. I think the Scottish system of sealed bids is easier on the vendor than that used in the rest of the UK.

Tiff - Hope you have a great day. You do a sterling job in her :T

LTD - Agree with the others, probably best to post or arrange for ex to pick up stuff when you are not in.

Stenny, McClaren, Queensway Boy, Ethel, Carolyn et al. Hope you have a great day.

Sorry I wasn't around yesterday. Had a very busy day at work and I was out last night with 'R'. The meeting with her mum went fine she's a lovely person, which I expected given the nature of 'R'.

Huge hugs to all.

I just seem to take 5 1/2 years from one good thing to another, and 5 1/2 years is a long wait just to find out it doesn't work out.

I guess as I get older, more people my age will get more desperate

Glad to hear meeting with 'R's mum went well I'll chuck 50p into the ladies hat fund today

Miroslav

Pumpkin_Pie wrote:

Hi all

I haven't been around for a few days - I've been having a few bad days. I'm seeing the Mental Health nurse this afternoon which is SO stressfull. She's lovely but in a way that makes it worse!:eek:

Anyway big hugs to all of you

Miro you sound like a lovely person... I suspect that when you least expect it love will pop into your life and bowl you over!

I want to thank you all for being such wonderful supportive friends - I don't want to list names in case I forget someone and that would be so awful:o

In panic!
Pumpkin xx

:wave:

We haven't properly met, as i'm in and out like a yoyo with a load of stuff going on.

Already been bowled over, sadly I haven't got up cos i've been steamrollered

Oh well, I can only hope it's leading to my ultimate destinaton.....a life with Britney :rotfl:

Best wishes for the wedding in 3 months (yours, not Britney and mine )

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

Gilly - It might not a deliberate attempt to hide stuff from you. Many of us have some form of baggage and it can be difficult to find the right time to talk about this stuff with a new partner / lover or even a friend.

For instance, months ago I did ask the question when is the right time to talk about your mental health issues.

All couples row / argue /disagree - it's all part of a relationship. It how you deal with these that is important.

I agree totally. The fear of someone special finding out about something we think they can't accept, makes people do/say/withhold things.

When is the right time to talk? It's all down to the people involved. I personally like to listen from day 1, but don't like to say too much straight away about myself, apart from little bits.

If anyone knows of a relationship where no arguments appeared, let me know. I can't even not argue with myself

Miroslav

beer2006 wrote:

Well they are out there, maybe you are looking in the wrong place Miro. In my (very lowly) opinion, almost all women are more worried about love than objects to own, never go for one more interested in your car than you.

I agree with blinky perfectly (and also I'm short and fat ) you will find it when you are least expecting it. Also you're hardly over the hill.
Either don't look so hard for love and it will just fall into place, or look but don't expect too much......... and it will fall into place. Make friends with women instead of looking for love.
I think Shilpa is single still, very very pretty............ but extremely fake, from the interviews I've seen of her.

You're at that stage where you think you will never be happy again, we've all been there, I have to tell you, you will, very first day of love with your new, yet unmet love and this will all be as a dream.

I must live in the wrong town, as most females I meet are not what i'd call 'ladies'

I won't go for any lady who'd want me for my car more than me, cos if she did.........well I don't have a car, so I wouldn't get very far with her :rotfl:

I'm not looking for love, I stopped ages ago. I just have hopes. 'S' came along and woke up emotions I thought had gone forever. I have 'offers', just none that I want. I seem to like girls that don't like me, and girls like me that I don't like.........until 'S' came along, and then she liked me but couldn't handle it

Shilpa is sweet. I like her personality more..........she may be fake.......I don't know.......prefer Britney though

I've been here before though. When partner passed away, took me 7 1/2 years to even think about finding someone else, then it just happened and when she left, I felt as bad as I do now.......

I dunno, I just wanna be happy I guess, like we all do, and right now, I aint

beer2006

Miroslav wrote:

I must live in the wrong town, as most females I meet are not what i'd call 'ladies'

I won't go for any lady who'd want me for my car more than me, cos if she did.........well I don't have a car, so I wouldn't get very far with her :rotfl:

I'm not looking for love, I stopped ages ago. I just have hopes. 'S' came along and woke up emotions I thought had gone forever. I have 'offers', just none that I want. I seem to like girls that don't like me, and girls like me that I don't like.........until 'S' came along, and then she liked me but couldn't handle it

Shilpa is sweet. I like her personality more..........she may be fake.......I don't know.......prefer Britney though

I've been here before though. When partner passed away, took me 7 1/2 years to even think about finding someone else, then it just happened and when she left, I felt as bad as I do now.......

I dunno, I just wanna be happy I guess, like we all do, and right now, I aint

I don't know where you are looking for ladies, but maybe you should look in a different place, have you ever thought of asking someone on here for a date?

:rotfl: Obviously thats your problem then, buy a big red car

When you chance for "love" if you like, you have to open yourself up, that gives you a chance to be hurt, and that I'm afraid is the way it is. The fact you opened yourself up after so long, means you are recovering. I would think about the positives, you met a girl, opened up, had happiness sometimes, life became better sometimes. Up and downs, but you HAD the ups

You will be happy again, you've already started on the road up. As my Mum used to say to me when I was a depressed teenager "stop being so miserable!"

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

I just seem to take 5 1/2 years from one good thing to another, and 5 1/2 years is a long wait just to find out it doesn't work out.

I guess as I get older, more people my age will get more desperate

Glad to hear meeting with 'R's mum went well I'll chuck 50p into the ladies hat fund today

:rotfl: No need to chip into the hat fund just yet. The 'M' word has been discussed but we both agree it's too early and I would expect any developments until late the year....

Miroslav wrote:

I must live in the wrong town, as most females I meet are not what i'd call 'ladies'

Same in most towns but they virtually all have ladies (have you seen Newcastle on a Friday and Saturday night?). The ladies are usually harder to find as by their nature they are generally quieter.

You've said some wise words here about relationships....

EthelBloggs

blinky wrote:

Gilly - It might not a deliberate attempt to hide stuff from you. Many of us have some form of baggage and it can be difficult to find the right time to talk about this stuff with a new partner / lover or even a friend.

For instance, months ago I did ask the question when is the right time to talk about your mental health issues.

All couples row / argue /disagree - it's all part of a relationship. It how you deal with these that is important.

This is absolutely true.. at least in my case.. I've had quite a racy past.. after my divorce I went crazy for a couple of years and did some things which I'm not too proud of and which are really very personal. They aren't things which I divulge to all and sundry and indeed, didn't reveal to b/f until we'd been together a long time and had made plans for the future etc. NOT because I was ashamed or wanted to hide it from him but just because they are very private things which I wouldn't tell to someone unless I trust them 100% and feel safe about them having my secrets.. does that make sense?

I must admit he was pretty p'ed off when I did tell him, because I hadn't told him sooner but as I explained, those things were in the past and in a way it was a different me that did them and what's important is now and the future.

Hope that helps a bit gilly.. not sure if I made sense there..

beer2006

blinky wrote:

Same in most towns but they virtually all have ladies (have you seen Newcastle on a Friday and Saturday night?). The ladies are usually harder to find as by their nature they are generally quieter.

:eek: Yes I have, any town is almost as bad though, I don't like the loud loutish girls either I'm afraid, would rather run a mile
Yes.... ladies, never thought about it before, but thats what I like as well.

Blinky you are very wise and I always follow what going on with you and R.