token christmas gift for ungrateful niece, any ideas??

jellyhead

If an oxfam gift would cause a family argument (although you could always team it with a small gift such a chocolates or selection box) you could always get her something small like a little gift cube from the body shop.

In my family people stop buying at 18, and in my husband's family people buy until the adult has a child themselves, then they buy for that child (some of them give a bottle of wine to us parents too).

Every family has it's own rules or expectations, so it's probably not worth causing a major fall-out because as has been said these things do affect the rest of the family.

I wouldn't be happy about buying for an ungrateful and rude adult though, so I'd get something small and cheap so as to look as if I've made the effort.

deb68_2

A Token for a shopping trolley
or a bag of choc coins
in oxfam you can do a christmas gift to children in Africa an other places

Or go out you an hubby an have an evening together
on the money you have saved from NOT getting her anything
deb

karren

oxfam gift of goat or something as the money will go to those who do actualy need it.

kyleleonard

Buy her a book or Manchester City shirt, that'll show her.

Butterfly_Brain

We don't buy for nieces or nephews after the age of 18 and they get a 21st birthday's pressie, but that is it. The whole family agreed to this a long time ago after that age they get a card and that is it.

Why not sponsor a guide dog, hearing dog or give a donation to the Sally army on her behalf. Or take the selfish little madam to a soup kitchen to see how lucky she really is.
I am sorry but I no longer give to charity outside this country, the government give that out from our taxes, but I did give to Japan after the tsunami

kittywight

ungrateful = no gift

simples

i am cruel though lol

xx

minety-mum

We treat neices and nephews as adults once they are working - all adults receive a token gift, max of £3, and then we spend about £300 on 'virtual gifts' through Send a Cow or Oxfam, both give you a gift card to hand over.
Now we have only have one nephew under 18 and 3 great nephews, they receive a gift between £10 and £15 each.

izzieuk

She was a moo, but don't be spiteful for the sake of being spiteful. Buy something from a charity's online store, or just something small like some chocolates.

Just wanted to add to the people talking about thank you card- it's nice to say thank you, but I do not send gifts to people simply to get a thank you card. In fact, I have never received a thank you card from anyone in my life. Maybe it is a generation thing? I am 22 and I would be shocked if I got a thank you card in the post. Maybe an email, but not a card. And it wouldn't stop me giving gifts. I love to give and make peoples faces light up, that is all the thanks I want.

Edit Number 2: I really wouldn't get her an electric toothbrush. If a rift has started, this might be overanalysed. It seems a silly thing for a whole family to fall out over. Just buy her a box of chocolates or something- a tin of something or other is four quid in asda at the moment. Stop overthinking it!

AnnaLicious_2

I have a niece I have met twice (husband's side of the family). I send, via another in-law, a gift and card for her birthday and Christmas. She has never thanked us, or even acknowledged the presents existed. I spend £10 on all the children I buy for. She's 16 now, so I think this should be the last year really. I used to do gift cards to Accessorise for £10. Now I buy Next bath sets on ebay, or Boots make-up sets in the Christmas clearance sales. Never spent more than £3. I'm not asking for her to fall over herself in gratitude, just a simple acknowledgement that the presents exist would be nice!!!

raven83

a book on manners prehaps?