token christmas gift for ungrateful niece, any ideas??

erdd2

crazyguy wrote: »

Tell her don't buy for me because I am not buying for you, because your ungrateful

A bit too subtle

Katiehound

If you can't find just the Oxfam unwrapped gift that you like (or maybe the price!) there are other charities wilh different goods such as World Vision:
http://www.musthavegifts.org/ which start from £5.

I think the charity gift would be a great token gift- your niece would look seriously greedy whatever if she recieved something like that and complained! Oh and of course someone else will really benefit. if you do buy a charity thingie please don't forget to do gift aid (if eligible!)

mrbrightside842

I'd stop buying for her, she's 20!

whitewing

The best gift you could probably give your niece would be the opportunity to apologise for her mistake, and for that to be the end of it.

Or prepare the token gift if you must, but do have her 'normal' gift to hand should forgiveness be warranted.

candie_gill

Dont buy her anything of great value or give her money, she is so ungrateful and reading it makes me angry for you lol. She was only interested in the money, she sounds just like my younger sister- out for what she can get!

RachyD_3

I think the gift of a donation is a lovely idea. There's some lovely ideas out there that I've seen. I always want to get them for my family, lol. Not overly expensive, her parents couldn't complain and it's not in any way childish of you but your niece might get the idea (might!). My brother is 20 and he wouldn't dream of acting in the way your niece did - and he'd be extremely grateful for a gift from his Auntie even if it came a year late!

bargainhuntress_2

Like the idea of stopping giving when nieces/nephews have own kids! My family agreed to stop giving at 18... and send them £21 chq when turn 21.

A selection box always goes down well... or Asda small box of 99p truffles!

bamboozled2

I suggest that you put it behind you, put her reaction down to callow youth and the fact that when a card is that late it's not the same as getting it on the day. In my family we decided that when the children reach 21 we would stop getting them presents and just send cards, it might be a good time to introduce this to your family.

If you react to this badly it may all blow up in your face, what are her parents going think? Will other members of the family get drawn in? As someone with a Mature sibling that took it upon herself to get arsey with me at a family party 10 years ago and who has refused to speak to me since, I know the way these things can effect the family, other people feel very uncomfortable at family get togethers , we spend time in the same room and avoid speaking etc. It's just not worth the upset.

themull1

Could you not have just posted the card throught the door on her birthday? maybe she was peeved because it was two weeks after her birthday when she got her card?

katiecoodle

I was about 8 when my gran told me that I wasn't getting a present from her that Christmas, because I hadn't sent her a thank you card for my birthday earlier in the year. That was a bit harsh in hindsight, an 8 yr old needs a bit of guidance from a parent surely? Anyway, I immediately ran upstairs and manufactured a thank you card which did the trick. (thinking about it now, my gran was really really tight so she was probably trying to be a moneysavingexpert at the time - lol). I think you'd need to tell the neice in no uncertain terms that you feel a bit like a cash machine & your birthday present to her was a GIFT which is supposed to received with grace & manners. Definitely spell it out to her.