Trying to create fun inexpensive things to do with GF but she wont cooperate

Lotus-eater

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

As I said, "partner"'s now a term used by teenagers who've only been dating for a couple of weeks, so it's lost the meaning of commitment that it once had.

(Not sure where "nicer" comes into it, though.)

So you want me to call my OH of 20 years my girlfriend? I think partner is a little bit better.

euronorris

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

As I said, "partner"'s now a term used by teenagers who've only been dating for a couple of weeks, so it's lost the meaning of commitment that it once had.

(Not sure where "nicer" comes into it, though.)

You'd be surprised how many times people assume I'm gay when I use the term 'partner' also.

I do prefer to use partner, rather than boyfriend as we've been together 3 and a half years and are planning our lives together, and we have no intention to marry.

I've given up sticking to just one term though. Some colleagues, despite being told numerous times now that I am not married, still refer to my OH as my husband. I've given up correcting them and just go with it. I use Partner mostly, and then boyfriend when around my younger neices and nephews.

Lotus-eater

euronorris wrote: »

You'd be surprised how many times people assume I'm gay when I use the term 'partner' also.

I do prefer to use partner, rather than boyfriend as we've been together 3 and a half years and are planning our lives together, and we have no intention to marry.

I've given up sticking to just one term though. Some colleagues, despite being told numerous times now that I am not married, still refer to my OH as my husband. I've given up correcting them and just go with it. I use Partner mostly, and then boyfriend when around my younger neices and nephews.

We both just often say wife, or husband to someone we meet, it's easier than to explain how we're not married, then see the judgement on someone's face, it's how we think of ourselves anyway tbh, just without the bit of paper.

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I have never yet heard teenager call their b/f or g/f a "partner".
Suppose each area is different.

I also assumed the OP is very young when he said "girlfriend".

Nothing wrong with playing games, we sometimes do, but OP seems obsessed and his OH (see how I avoided the trap:-)) doesn't...

eleanora_

MissGolightly wrote: »

everyone's attitude to mtg has really shocked me. you've acted like a lynch mob, "oh him, he doesn't watch tv and like meals, he wants to play a card game, GET THE WEIRDO"

everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but the op did not ask if you thought his activity was good/bad!?

honestly, worse than the playground reading some of those posts, asking if they still have sex... don't be ridiculous! urgh.

FYI my oh and I are a couple who manage to have homecooked meals together, watch films, play MTG (which I regularly beat him at), and... to top it all off we have a healthy sex life, shocker!

*crawls out of woodwork* My OH and I also play a bit of MTG - he used to play it a few years ago, and we bought a few decks the other week to play on long train journeys etc. - I like it! And I also like sex, watching films, cooking meals together, going to gigs and the theatre, and going out with friends. Unbelievable, hey?

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

We both just often say wife, or husband to someone we meet, it's easier than to explain how we're not married, then see the judgement on someone's face, it's how we think of ourselves anyway tbh, just without the bit of paper.

Yep, same here. Or worse, they launch into a speech about why we should get married, and isn't it weird etc etc etc. Blah, blah, blah. I've heard it all before, we know the pros and cons and we have made the decision. Not sure why it bothers other people so much anyway.

We stick to bf and gf with the younger kids though as wife/husband just confuses them. When my dad referred to my OH as husband once, one of them got quite upset as they thought we had married in secret and didn't invite them! Bless them!

Lotus-eater

eleanora_ wrote: »

*crawls out of woodwork* My OH and I also play a bit of MTG - he used to play it a few years ago, and we bought a few decks the other week to play on long train journeys etc. - I like it! And I also like sex, watching films, cooking meals together, going to gigs and the theatre, and going out with friends. Unbelievable, hey?

Yes! You're really a bloke aren't you?

Lotus-eater

euronorris wrote: »

Yep, same here. Or worse, they launch into a speech about why we should get married, and isn't it weird etc etc etc. Blah, blah, blah. I've heard it all before, we know the pros and cons and we have made the decision. Not sure why it bothers other people so much anyway.

We stick to bf and gf with the younger kids though as wife/husband just confuses them. When my dad referred to my OH as husband once, one of them got quite upset as they thought we had married in secret and didn't invite them! Bless them!

We get alot of people saying the opposite now tbh, like isn't it quite usual now for people not to be married. Like we're doing it to be fashionable or something :rotfl:

aloise

Demastras wrote: »

We have done it all i think. Board games, made up games, TV, DVD, the old pick a number from 1 - 50 and watch the film on the sky anytime . . and then i found a great thing to do.

I found a trading card game called Magic the Gatheing(MTG) and for around £15 you get about 200 cards and the idea is you build a deck of 60 from them (also ebayed this and found you can get loads of these cards cheap, even 60 deck pre built decks) and then you play it like top trumps. Loads of replayability and an element of chance but immense customisation. Its just a game really and something we can do together . . . . the problem is she wont play it or give it a chance. we are talking about someone here who played more WOW than i did after i introduced her to that. I even went and got the online version(MTGO) of the game and for a few quid you can replicate your real cards . .. but she doesnt want to know and wont even try it out. Its getting me a bit annoyed at the moment as she wont do anything i suggest and this i thought was a really good activity . . anyone else played this or suggest any thing we can do while we simply dont have £50 a pop to go out for meal and drinks

You are sooooooo boring. Bet you'll be dumped soon

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

We get alot of people saying the opposite now tbh, like isn't it quite usual now for people not to be married. Like we're doing it to be fashionable or something :rotfl:

Oh yes, we've had that too. :rotfl:

One of my best friends seems to need to come to terms with it. Every time I see her, she asks when we're getting married. She knows full well that we aren't going to get married. She still looks sooooo disappointed every time I tell her it's not happening. I think she's upset that there's one less wedding to go to! :rotfl:My Catholic parents accepted it better than she has! :rotfl: