Trying to create fun inexpensive things to do with GF but she wont cooperate

marywooyeah

Emmzi wrote: »

MTG is not qctually a cheap hobby. Last b/f - £2k in a year getting special cards that'd give him an edge, new releases (2 or 3 a year).

Is a money pit.

Pick a different game. Check meetup.com for board games clubs in your area if you are into that. (Is fine to be into that, I am. Nice change from booze and food, made some good friends. Not every night tho!!)

agreed - my ex used to love MTG and had several folders full of the cards. He won a county championship of it and was always trying to get me to play it but it bored me senseless and he spent a fortune on it.
I see where you're coming from OP, but it sounds more like you are picking something ou like and wanting her to do it, it sounds like you are into the fantasy genre have you thought about getting a boxset of a fantasy series and having sit down nights watching those? or how about LARPing? does she actually like gaming? if so why not let her pick a game - me and my oh share my 360 and take it in turns to play a game, might be worth a go.

Any

Steel wrote: »

Have you ever thought that with two kids you wife is actually a bit tired in the evening and just wants to chill out?

Why do you HAVE to do things together in the evening? Why not just be together in the same room doing things that each of your individually enjoy?

Hubby and I very rarely do hobbies together, but we're almost always in the same room in the evenings and talking to each other while we're getting on with things we find individually interesting.

I have no real interest in sourcing classic car car parts, reading the Pistonheads forum, or understanding how a car axle needs to stripped down. Likewise he has no real interest in the patchwork quilt I'm sewing or me redesigning the garden. However both of us will listen to each other and chip in with comments and advice when needed.

You do not NEED to be entirely focused on one another each evening to have a good relationship.

Unless you're horizontal jogging on the living room floor, in which case be VERY focused on each other.

EXACTLY what they said!!!!
!!!!!! if I had to shadow my OH all the time :eek: or he shadowed me all the time...God I cannot imagine. I would have to kill him.

I think it's time to each find your own hobbies at least one night a week each. If your OHs fancy is watch all recorded episodes of Eastenders so be it. And you go and play your game in some club with other like minded people.

Any

And stop making her do something she really doesn't want to do! That is recipe for disaster.

flutterby_lil

Steel,

Pistonheads, classic car parts, norlog, seloc, autotrader, I think your other half could be mine!!!

lol, i'd rather watch tv than be interested in cars but like you we sit in the same room and i watch tv or read and he looks at pistonheads haha, made me chuckle that yours dos the same.

kittykarate

Oh god I'd rather beat someone to death with their own arm than play Magic The Gathering. (And I play WoW!)

MissGolightly

everyone's attitude to mtg has really shocked me. you've acted like a lynch mob, "oh him, he doesn't watch tv and like meals, he wants to play a card game, GET THE WEIRDO"

everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but the op did not ask if you thought his activity was good/bad!?

honestly, worse than the playground reading some of those posts, asking if they still have sex... don't be ridiculous! urgh.

FYI my oh and I are a couple who manage to have homecooked meals together, watch films, play MTG (which I regularly beat him at), and... to top it all off we have a healthy sex life, shocker!

heretolearn_2

Blimey, you'll have her painting Warhammer figures next :rotfl:

Very few girls/women have the slightest interest in gaming. I am one of the weird ones who do, but in years and years of gaming I am usually the only female there. It may be fun to some people, but if it isn't your thing, it sounds awful. And yes, I can see your frustration that she won't even try it as she may well enjoy it if she did, but if she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to. Even I am not really that interested in Magic, I can play a game or two if I have to, but it isn't my idea of a great evening. And it gets VERY expensive if you are not careful - it's a whole game based around collecting the cards, and you start off small and cheap, but then you want this expansion pack, and that special pack, and that one expensive card, and so on...

I know how you feel, my OH is quite happy just to plonk in front of the tv every night but I'd rather be doing something more active with him (no he won't play any games, even normal cards or anything, I've tried to get him into cribbage but no luck.) So sometimes I just chill out watching tv with him, other times I go off to another room and do my own thing.

What I would LOVE to do with OH but he won't, is to go out for walks in the country, or just a walk round a seaside town, a craft fair, country fair, etc. He doesn't mind doing 'proper' sightseeing, but just mooching about he finds boring. But this is the sort of thing women like to do...

thorsoak

When I read his first post my first reaction was "he's spamming". Reading through the thread, I'm still of the same opinion!

BTW - how many children does a couple have to produce before they refer to each other as something more than G/F or B/F????

podperson

I think you just have to accept that this isn't something she fancies trying. I've played wow and I've played Magic and they aren't exactly the same thing so saying she will like one just because she likes the other isn't really valid. Magic requires more thought and concentration and while I don't mind having a game sometimes then if I'm tired or just wanting to do something relaxing then it doesn't really work for me.
OH and I have our own things we like do - eg I'll go a group once or twice a week, watch crap tv, go to the piccies while he'll meet his friends or play on the ps3. We do try and make sure we have at least one night a week where we do something together, so we might play games, watch a film or even just chat and listen to music - we're also quite into rock band at the moment, although maybe a little noisy if you have kids. Have you asked what kind of things she'd like to do?

1sttimer_2

Hey, we both like card games, but usually save them for holidays etc - I don't really know what these games are you are on about so cannot comment on them.

My OH and I don't have anything in common we do in an evening. Neither of us care for TV unless it's a detective type or a decent film (he won't go to cinema with me either) but to me that's not interacting with each other.

He enjoys sport 2-3 times a week and also weekends. I like to play on the Wii/PS and Nintendo DS - of which he has no interest in!

The odd thing is he buys me board games for Christmas but then doesn't play them! So we can only play with the family when they are able to be around (usually Christmas or holidays) and then he does enjoy it. What's the point in that! He's getting the message now though and has actually bought DS games for me!

So even though you are trying to get something to do together, have you asked her what she would like to do with you? If it's to be a joint game, then you both have to like it.