Vile old lady

Brighton_belle

make_me_wise wrote: »

I feel people of the old womans generation have had very little contact with and also a lack of knowledge of disabilities. When she was a child/teenager/young woman sadly alot of children who suffer like the OPs daughter would not have mixed in society.
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I just don't recognise this description in the life of my 83 year old parents who were considerate and kind when younger and are so now: they would never ever treat and speak to someone like this and would be especially sympathetic to a parent of a disabled child, even if they had been momentarily frightened by an unexpect little push.
My wonderful neighbour of 90 is also kind and considerate and worldly wise: she and my paretns have lived long enough to come across others within their friendship circle or family to experince disability and illness. I think it is more a case of people not changing their nature and unimaginative and unsympathetic people when younger don't change in to kind little old ladies .

make_me_wise

shellsuit wrote: »

I had an old woman have a go at my eldest when he was 2. He was sat in his pushchair and she bent down and started shouting at him! One of those women who looks like a battleaxe. Not a little frail thing.

My son's crime? Looking at her in a funny way. Honestly, they were her words. (We were behind her in a queue)

She went off on one, then grabbed my left hand and proceeded to shout " I didn't think you would be wearing a wedding ring, single Mothers these days yada yada".

I batted her arm away and told the old witch to drop dead.

I don't regret it one little bit.

Nicki, I'm sorry that happened today. I would be as upset and as furious as you are x

What an astute little boy you have. Kids have an uncanny knack of just knowing when someone isn't the full package dont they

shellsuit

make_me_wise wrote: »

What an astute little boy you have. Kids have an uncanny knack of just knowing when someone isn't the full package dont they

Haha! I didn't think of that!

He's not so little now, 15 and built like a brick outhouse!

make_me_wise

Id just love for him to bump into that old bint now and see what she says to one of his looks

Blackpool_Saver

i would think it was a combination of the ignorance of that generation in mental health issues AND old age......

dulcey

sorry for your upsetting experience op. but has anyone considered that the old woman may have altzeimers, this causes some people who have always been quiet and kind to become agressive and rude, which is very embarassing for the people with them,

3onitsway

Nicki - what an awful thing to happen. I hope karma catches up with the old bat and bites her in the ar5e!

I agree that it can be a generational thing, my own Nan is 80-something, and has told me that 'back in her day' children like my DS, would have been put into a home and forgotten about. :eek:

But, it's not only the elderly that can be ignorant. My DS is 14 now, and sounds very similar to your DD. We were at the park yesterday, he was the big lanky teenager pacing the perimeter fence with his fingers in his ears, while the other two played.
I was standing by the slide supervising the little one, with one eye following DS around the fence. Two girls aged 12/13 were stood right next to me and one said to the other "look at that boy" then they both looked, stared and started giggling. I turned to them and said do you know it's very rude to stare.
They moved away from me, but carried on giggling, whispering and staring. So, I went to speak to the parent who was with them, and asked her to explain about disability to her daughter and friend as they'd obviously not seen anyone disabled before. The mother was very embarrassed and apologetic and they left the park pretty soon after.

My Mum thinks i'm going to get myself slapped one day, I used to be so shy. But DS isn't able to speak up for himself, so i'm happy to do it for him.

Please try to forget about the miserable old bint, karma will get her - don't let her ruin your holiday.

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3onitsway

dulcey wrote: »

sorry for your upsetting experience op. but has anyone considered that the old woman may have altzeimers, this causes some people who have always been quiet and kind to become agressive and rude, which is very embarassing for the people with them,

Then surely her carer would have explained why she was so rude, and apologised for her, like Nicki did for her DD.

MessyMare

lolseh wrote: »

As for older people and disablities in younger people.. It's always older people who give me the dirty looks because I have a blue badge!!

I get this- I damaged my knee and hip in a motorcycle accident; I don't have a blue badge though. Once I'd spent all day on my feet at work and I was in agony. The bus apparently had too many people on it and I'd been standing for another half an hour before someone vacated a seat I could get to...I looked around for anyone on crutches or a stick and then sat. The absolutely filthy looks I got really upset me

OP, I really feel for you, I hope karma comes and bites her in the bum x

dulcey

yes 3onitsway that is true