Vile old lady

pinkcandyflossprincess

you allways get idiots young or old im afraid, my son has severe speech delay and may have autism (no one seems to agree as yet) he does the flapping, spinning thing too:o
he gets lots of looks but tbh he gets a lot of smiles too , anyone having a go would have the wrath of my tongue im afraid though:mad:
thankfully it is more of an upset to you than your child so i would enjoy the holiday as best as you can , next time you see the ol lady stick out your foot:cool:

go_cat

I'd have been tempted to push her into the fish pond but maybe thats just me

consumers_revenge

She got bumped into, you apologised, as all decent parents would. End of. It happens. Kids are kids.

This is NOT claims direct or injury lawyers for you.

OP....please let it go over your head, not worth worrying about. :-)

jellyhead

Gigglepig wrote: »

I don't think there was any need for her to be rude, particularly if you immediately apologised to her. Perhaps from this lady's point of view perhaps she'd prefer kids to be under control so they don't bump into her, whether they are disabled or not.

If being gently bumped into is so distressing for her then maybe she should be more considerate of others, and actually look behind her before she stops while walking and turns herself into an obstacle.

gozaimasu

From the info presented, my conclusion is that you were following too closely behind them. Even if someone stops suddenly there should be enough space between people to allow even disabled people stop. Or at least enough time for the carer/parent of the disable child to be able to get them out of harm's way or prevent them from disturbing other people.

I am sadly of the same temperament of that old lady because I have no patience for people who bump into you by their own fault for not respecting my personal space in the first place, and then not apologising. I try to avoid people and get out of their way if I see them take as much a step too close in my direction!

I'm not on the old lady's side because you obviously apologised as and when you should have. Perhaps the consolation you can get out of this is that your daughter does not understand what happened and should be not upset or affected by the woman's reaction.

I do indeed hope Karma is true. I struggle to believe in it sometimes because the majority of people I encounter are horrible. Maybe I'm not rewarded with karma happening to people because I actually wish they would get their comeuppance. And that is my karma.

I was walking through a city centre once and there were 3 people walking in a line. I was walking faster than them so I tried to pass them on the left hand side, but the guy on the left cut off and nearly tripped me up on his way into a shop - no apology or nothing. I tried to dodge and get out of the way but the two girls moved even further over to the left, so I tried to get out of their way by skipping ahead but they banged into me. One of the obese lassies started shouting at ME for being the rude one because I had tried to dodge them to get out of his way. I had a go back at her and was absolutely livid but then I thought, what's the point? Why should I waste my time and effort with somebody who wants nothing more than to cause fights with innocent people in the street? I suppose it would be racist if I said they were black. Even if it's a fact. If she wasn't so obese then there would have been plenty of space for me to pass unobstructed.

It's not something I've learned yet OP, but you have to let go and not get upset or angry at things people do and how horrible they are. Because people like that will always exist and there is nothing we can do. We will be the victims if we let other people's rude and unacceptable words/actions eat away at us.

Person_one

gozaimasu wrote: »

I suppose it would be racist if I said they were black. Even if it's a fact.

It would, because its completely irrelevant to the story and I highly doubt you would have felt the need to inform us that they were white.

jellyhead

Some people have a real bee in their bonnet about invisible disabilities (especially ADHD), and are adamant that it's just bad behaviour and ineffective parenting.

We've had a disagreement about 'labelling' children on facebook this week, with one person (a pensioner, if that's relevant) refusing to believe that ADHD exists (I have no idea why, because it wasn't ADHD we were talking out). I suppose it's like when my generation were at school and people didn't believe in dyslexia and thought it was just an excuse used by middle class parents to explain their children not being bright.

When you explained that your daughter is disabled maybe she just went off on one, thinking about ADHD rather than autism.

Brighton_belle

OP I just wanted to add that when someone like yourself posts about your experinces with a disabled child, I always learn from it, so thanks for sharing your disappointments and frustrations.
I promise you it is not wasted: in my day to day interactions with strangers, I have a better grasp of how they may feel, how difficult life may be for them and how I can make their life just that bit easier by how I respond and react.

I have learnt so much since joining MSE what life is like for people with experiences different to my own.

shellsuit

I had an old woman have a go at my eldest when he was 2. He was sat in his pushchair and she bent down and started shouting at him! One of those women who looks like a battleaxe. Not a little frail thing.

My son's crime? Looking at her in a funny way. Honestly, they were her words. (We were behind her in a queue)

She went off on one, then grabbed my left hand and proceeded to shout " I didn't think you would be wearing a wedding ring, single Mothers these days yada yada".

I batted her arm away and told the old witch to drop dead.



I don't regret it one little bit.





Nicki, I'm sorry that happened today. I would be as upset and as furious as you are x

make_me_wise

I feel people of the old womans generation have had very little contact with and also a lack of knowledge of disabilities. When she was a child/teenager/young woman sadly alot of children who suffer like the OPs daughter would not have mixed in society. My grandmother was another ignorant biggot who thought nothing of tearing shreds out of children who annoyed her without a flying thought for why they behaved the way they did. She didn't have the intelliegience to think outside the box and consider that they may have problems and disabilities.

At the school where I work we have had members of the public with wide ranging disabilities come in and hold assemblies with the children. We hope to educate these children to be accepting and thoughtful to all members of society and to not be frightened of or unaware of things they dont understand.

Hopefully we might reduce the amount of old people in future who should know better but dont.