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I'm I a bad person?

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  • VfM4meplse
    VfM4meplse Posts: 34,269 Forumite
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    KiKi wrote: »
    I don't understand the link between being Asian and treating others like skivvys. Perhaps you can explain it to me. :)

    There are people who behave well and people who behave badly from all races and all cultures.

    KiKi

    It's the combination of death threats and slavery from the MIL rhar rang the alarm bells for me! :D
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    If its day surgery what stuff does your FIL need picking up - didn't they know in advance he needed to go in?

    Tell them to make other arrangements, nothing wrong with that at all in the circumstances.
  • poppyjay
    poppyjay Posts: 460 Forumite
    He had to go to a&e he's on oxygen 24 hours a day due to lung damage and had a chest infection .
  • Shepherd1
    Shepherd1 Posts: 307 Forumite
    Not going to the bookies is not going to kill him! Tell them to jog on
  • KiKi
    KiKi Posts: 5,381 Forumite
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    VfM4meplse wrote: »
    It's the combination of death threats and slavery from the MIL rhar rang the alarm bells for me! :D

    Right. I didn't realise this was exclusive to the Asian community.

    I've learned something today.

    KiKi
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    I guess your in-laws have 3 options -

    get other family members to sort out what they need sorting, your OH could do it if he's so inclined, in his marginal time, or they can get taxis.
  • saterkey
    saterkey Posts: 288 Forumite
    Maybe use this as a time for a peace chat, have a good conversation, say that you would be happy to help out occasionally on the understanding that the tensions between you cease, and that you can act as adults should with one another.
    If the same attitude exists from her (bearing in mind that she must be worried sick about her husband) then walk away guilt free.
    Also your husband will need to go and see his parent i presume sometime then he can take things in with him, or go together to create less tension.
  • make_me_wise
    make_me_wise Posts: 1,509 Forumite
    poppyjay wrote: »
    To the point of her saying she was going to kill me

    Your mother in law lost all right to any help from you when she said the above. To be honest she has a bloody nerve even contacting you doesn't she.
  • erdd2
    erdd2 Posts: 1,070 Forumite
    balletshoes wrote: »
    I guess your in-laws have 3 options -

    get other family members to sort out what they need sorting, your OH could do it if he's so inclined, in his marginal time, or they can get taxis.

    What about the 4th...they could get lost ;)
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    I have no idea whether or not you're a bad person but I do feel that there are always two sides to every story.
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