Kids, Friendships and Head Lice...

BigBlackcat

FBaby wrote: »

Had to laugh at this, if this is poor parenting, I wonder what many other common parenting lackings are.... Personally, I would prefer my kids to be looked after by a mum who might spend the day taking them to the park, playing with them, and teaching them new skills even if they come back with some little bugs in their heads at the end of the day than a mum who will spent all morning treating their hair and the afternoon putting them in front of the TV, but I guess we are all different in what we consider good/bad parenting!

You are making some huge assumptions here!

As a parent, I can't imagine being so nonchalant over children having to deal with the discomfort of headlice. This alone would raise questions over other aspects of her parenting to me.

milliebear00001

FBaby wrote: »

Well I would be one of the parents you judge wrongly then. After years of trying to get rid of them, I am not so bothered any longer. Yes, i will do a treatment when I know my kids have them, but I have stopped obsessing about it. My kids both have extremely thick hair and there is no way I can put any of those nitty combs through their hair unless it is wet and full of conditioning which then takes for ever to clear. And yes, I am a full time working mum so I've given up on doing this every single day as a preventive measure. So yes, it is possible that my kids had nits before I noticed and was able to do a treatment and it is possible they could have passed it on, just like someone passed it on to them for them to get them again.

Am I a bad parent in other areas... well I can proudly say that I am a very good parent. My kids have received amazing school reports, both in terms of results (my girl came top of her class of 115 pupils) but more importantly in terms of behaviour, social and communication skills and attitude. It is all about priority setting. I much prefer to dedicate my energy teachng my kids responsibility and independent skills which makes them very mature kids for their age. I am confident that these skills will be much more profitable to them long term than the time I could have spent making sure they didn't have anything crawling in their hair at all time...

Although you are of course entitled to adopt the approach you have, I have seen many parents who would gladly murder you for it! We used to get lots in complaining about the child that constantly reinfected the whole class with the !!!!!!s. The other parents knew who it was, all the staff at school knew who it was. The only people who refused to acknowledge their responsibility, were the parents of the child concerned.

Social Services were eventually informed. Obviously an extreme case, but I can understand why many parents would be 'disappointed' with your decision not to comb out regularly. Many are also annoyed by girls with long hair turning up to school with it untied.