Advice - to text or not to text?

AliJ72

make_me_wise wrote: »

Im hoping he is just treading carefully and giving his 11 year old lots of 'daddy' time at the moment. However great you may be together, this news is alot for a little girl to take on board. Give them both some space and time and it could all work out well.

I would never want to come between them in any way. I guess after all the texting/calls it's been weird not getting any. What may seem to me like it would only be a quick text to let me know what's happening, could be a whole different ball game for him.

merlin68

Are you sure his not married and his wife is with him on this holiday, sounds a bit suspicious to me.

betsie

I would call. If you don't it will eat you up and you will be constantly thinking about him and what if. Also if something has happened to him or his family and you found out some time later how bad would you feel.

If he has just had a change of heart about the relationship at least you will know. He is at an age when he should be able to talk to you about this and not just ignore you.

Phone for your own piece of mind.

RadoJo

AliJ72 wrote: »

I think I'm more disappointed that he feels he can't tell me he doesn't want to see me more than the fact that he obviously doesn't want to see me! It's not as if we'll bump into each other in the street. I'd rather get dumped by text than not know what's happened. Or should I just let it go?

If this is the case, then why not just call? Playing games where you don't text and make him make the next move seems more like punishing yourself, whereas at least if you speak to him you'll have your answer and be able to act accordingly.

scooby088

OP i think you need to realise something here his daughter will always come first no matter what, i know him no replying to texts but what if his daughter picked his phone up and deleted the messages? Just text one more time and if he replies or doesn't just leave it and get on with your life.

jakem_2

CH27 wrote: »

Don't text. Leave the next move to him.

Lately I have had problems with sending texts, funny enough it only happens with the one number/person, why I dont know, but I send a text in the am for example and it does not get through till 18 hours later, and when they receive it does not make any sense lol but it still arrives, and I am sending this text to someone 20 miles away from me, yet I send a text to someone in a different country but it still gets through, so what I am saying is that the possibility is that it will get through, but maybe not straight away.

You have sent 2 texts and no reply, so of course thinking allsorts, then perhaps send one last text, or even email then leave it at that.

What I had to do when I knew my texts were not getting through for over 18 hours, and the reason I knew this was cause something weird was happening on my fone,that every time I sent a text I wud get a msg alert saying pending/delivered etc and this has only happened the last few weeks, so I knew the msg was taken ages to get through, but to let that person know that I did reply to thier text I had to send them an email, omg what a carry on it has been, as now I am scared to send a text as 9/10 it will not get there for at least 18 hours.

So what I am saying and I havent a clue about mobile fones,but that at sometimes at least one of your texts would have got there.

Gigervamp

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I would phone him.

Suppose he has lost his phone with all the contacts?

Slight problem with that. If he's lost his phone, he won't be able to answer it, will he?

lurvlyloz

what if he left his phone at home when he went away by accident. you can beat your self up about this all day long. just give him a quick bell be all nice and breasy...dont sound like "oh my god i've been sat here staring at my phone waiting for you to ring"

If he doesn't answer he'll have a missed call & then its up to him.

Good luck

scheming_gypsy

or mms him a naughty pic... that normally gets my attention when i'm ignoring a bird

sashadesade

I'd call him, there's nothing wrong with wanting to know where you stand. There could easily be an innocent explanation for his not getting in touch with you so don't write him off just yet. If he doesn't answer maybe leave a message, then if you hear nothing back it's time to move on I reckon.