Advice - to text or not to text?

AliJ72

Sagz wrote: »

Hmmm I'd call him. If he's not been out of the country or lost his phone then he should have been in touch by now.

Have you got his landline number?

If it's 'meant to be' then what's the point of waiting? And if it does turn out that it was not meant to be, then you can get on with your life.

He only has a mobile, although I know his work number. Don't really want to resort to that as he'll think I'm a mad stalker!

scheming_gypsy

if you do text him again, stick a delivery receipt on it so you'll at least know it's been delivered (or not)

hot.chick

don't be so quick to condemn him... not just yet anyway...

What of something has happened, lost or broken phone, or heaven forbid something worse...

give him a couple of days to get a new phone or sort out what ever might have happened, try again, ur not going into pshyco stalker mode, but getting concerned...

Solstice_Twilight

I trouble with text messages is that sometimes people receive them whilst in the middle of doing something and think "I'll text back as soon as I've finished xyz" and forget. My best friend is notorious for this (always has been!) which means that we sometimes had a week without any contact between us, as after two messages I tend to wait for her to get back to me, then call when a few days have gone by to ensure she's not dead in a ditch somewhere! Now that she's moved away (as of last month) contact is even more sparodic, as she's moved back with her parents and is getting her life back together and there's no chance of getting together anymore, so all contact is done by text and phone calls.

If he doesn't see much of his daughter, it may be that she's keeping him busy and that although he's had your messages, he's forgotten or not found time to reply. Which isn't nice for you but I don't think it's too terrible a crime (if I text my OH during the day, I quite often don't hear back from him until he gets home, as he's just too busy). Or it could be that if his daughter doesn't know about you and he doesn't think the time is right, he's switched off his phone/left it somewhere to keep his daughter from wondering who he's texting all the time, or to stop her from going through his messages. Again, not very nice for you, but I could understand his reasoning. Maybe they've decided to stay on a few extra days?

Personally, I'd give it until tomorrow evening, and if you've still not heard anything, phone his mobile. If you get his voice mail, just ask if everything is okay as you're a little concerned about him. If he doesn't get back to you over the weekend, I think I'd be more likely to start to worry that something had happened to him, rather than that he's ended it and not told you about it. If you've both been very happy for the last four months, it doesn't seem to fit that he'd suddenly end it without telling you. But then, I do prefer to give the benefit of the doubt!

Tropez

It is quite possible that he has lost or damaged his phone or it has been stolen. 4.5m mobile phones are lost, damaged or stolen per year in the UK according to statistics.

There's no point condeming him until you know exactly what has happened.

make_me_wise

AliJ72 wrote: »

His daughter is 11. He was waiting on the right moment to tell her about me.

This could be why you haven't heard from him. Guess it could depend on how the daughter has reacted to him telling her about you.

AliJ72

make_me_wise wrote: »

This could be why you haven't heard from him. Guess it could depend on how the daughter has reacted to him telling her about you.

I hadn't even thought about that scenario!

make_me_wise

Im hoping he is just treading carefully and giving his 11 year old lots of 'daddy' time at the moment. However great you may be together, this news is alot for a little girl to take on board. Give them both some space and time and it could all work out well.

ali-t

OP, don't text. If he doesn't get in touch then you have had a lucky escape now and better that than in 5 years time when you have a house and children together. If he does get in touch, hang fire and wait and see what he has to say.

zzzLazyDaisy

I would phone him.

Suppose he has lost his phone with all the contacts? It seems from what you say that he has no other way of getting in touch with you? (did you exchange e-mails? facebook details?).

How did you come to get back in touch with each other? If it was through a mutual friend perhaps you can make discrete enquiries?

But to be honest I'd just phone (not text) at least you'll know if it rings out without answer that a) he has the phone and b) he is ignoring you....